Author SingleDad Posted June 16, 2008 Author Posted June 16, 2008 I experience the same pain everyday. Your daughter doesn't - savor the little things she does Keep re-reading the Serenity Prayer
Order & Chaos Posted June 16, 2008 Posted June 16, 2008 I do want to comment as a person with divorced parents. The divorce was the best decision they ever made! I just wish they didn't wait till the youngest was off to college before doing it. My childhood developed in a hostile home where either they weren't talking or were yelling at each other. Affection was so rare that any signs of it between them causes myself and my siblings to cringe. It just seemed so unnatural. All three kids have been in therapy at some point in their adult lives due to the enviroment and I am working on my obsession need to be a peacemaker and "fixer of other's problems" negating myself as that was the role I took with them. Any time I could help minimize something or put one in a better light so they would like each other better I would. I spend so much time avoiding my life, as a child, and focusing on them. But, the silver lining, I am pretty good at reading undercurrents now , good at mediating, and my childhood helped me tremondously in the field that I am in. Plus them separating has helped all of us develop an independent relationship with our dad that really wasn't there growing up. He was the punisher and the yeller and was always angry. Now we go to his house to hang out, go for advice, and just pal around. There is still some issues that my sister, especially, is still resolving with him but things are so much better and they both are SO much happier! And I really can't stress that enough. Having both my parents happy regardless of where they live, is the greatest thing. That is ultimately what your child is going to want, two healthy happy parents.
TrustInYourself Posted June 16, 2008 Posted June 16, 2008 I was happy. I was strong and ready to live my life with or without her. Then she came to me and told me she feels differently. I thought we were going to work on our marriage. I thought we were going to give it a 2nd chance. I trusted in her. I had hope and I felt so happy. Now it's gone. I ruined it by trying to ask her to make a decision. I asked for honesty and she told me she was thinking of dating others. That hurts. I want to run away. I'm scared.
Author SingleDad Posted June 16, 2008 Author Posted June 16, 2008 I'll post it again because It gave me strength... I was losing it - I was never religious, but I found a few sermons which have given me strength... Here is a link to a couple of powerful sermons: [COLOR=#660000]http://www.thechapelatcrosspoint.com/dev/?page=sundays[/COLOR] Find the one dated 2007-04-22 called the Endurance There is another 2007-04-29 called the Titanic They may give you strength and guidance - I listen to them repeatedly. Also, Yesterday's Fathers day sermon was also incredible - It should be posted by Wed. You can also listen to the Father's day sermons from the last 2 years Let me know your thoughts
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