chicagoartist Posted June 11, 2008 Posted June 11, 2008 ok, so heres the the deal. i moved in with my gf about 6 months ago..let me give you a little back story been dating her for over 1 1/2 now things had been going great. Anyway before i moved she had asked me a number of times to move in..in my head i always thought i wasnt ready for that thinking that the safety net of both of us having a place to go to was huge...not being on top of each other yaknow. ok so basically what happened was i had an issues with my roomate and had to move with quickness and of course shes there begging me to move in so at the time due to the issues with the roomate..i did! so things were going well for about 3 months or so and then i think we started having space issues..i feell like ive almost taken over her space with my things and taken her personal space that we all need. so the past 3 months have been kinda bad with her high stressed about not getting into a nursing program she has been counting on getting into this whole year..also dealing with some drama with friends not being friend...money issues i think she feels crowded. so we had the "space talk" which basically told me she feels liek she doesnt have a place to escape..oh fyi her grandfather lives in the unit above and is on her hip the moment she walks in the door everyday...anyway yeah space which has lead to me not here much at all and her spending more time with her friend..nothing big not bar hoping or anything little stuff coffee ..the gym..shopping crap like that. Which in turn has been driver me alittle crazy and wondering if there is something wrong with our relationship..ive had talks with her and its comes down to her..saying she streed out with everything family, school, money, friend..and so on basicaly like everyones on her ass..so ive been giving her space..not calling her much..got my own place im moving into this weekend..which had been the plan..hmm but i guess what im saying is i know shes going through some stress and feels crowed and i understand the sitiuation but i cant help feeling alittle left out...not getting the normal support..warmth from the relationship..ive been keeping busy getting ready for my move but i can help feeling alittle insucure about our relationship...talk to friends and whatnot they all tell me the same thing Chill out....dont drive urself crazy thinking to much about this..but i cant help it..and i guess when i move out that will be a good test weather our realtionship is really in trouble..i guess im just looking for support here and some advice..i just hate shakey feeling in a realtionship i felt was rock solid like 1-2 months ago..help me out here people with some feedback
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