My boyfriend and Instant Messaging

[sweetlee102]

Ok here we go again! I unfortunately am a very insecure person and I also like to put together worst case senarios in my head. I sound like a barrell of laughs dont i! ha well you really wouldnt think i was that bad, i dont let on to how paranoid I really am, which is why I am posting this here instead of nagging my boyfriend, etc.

 

Anyway, my boyfriend and I have been together for 6 months. Things are going great and I am very happy. In past relationships I have been jealous, paranoid, etc about the guy cheating, etc. My thing is what if he does and i dont know. So needless to say this has come out again, i thought since I was almost 30 this insecurity would subside. But no, of course not, that would be too easy! My boyfriend and I met online, yahoo personals. We have bothe taken down our sites , etc. My problem is that i worry that he is on yahoo messanger all the time and I want to know who he is talking about and with whom. I dont tell him this, heck he doesnt even know i know he is always on, i mean we chat on there when i am on but he is on there when i am not, ha trust me i know. I know he talks to people he has chatting on there with for 7 years, he told me that, he also said he never had intentions of meeting them. Im not worried about that, i just worry about what if he is chatting to new people or something like that. I just dont want to get hurt.

 

I know this is silly. but how to i calm myself, i woudl rather not tell him how i feel about it i have been a little jealous of stuff lately and i dotn want to become a nagger.

 

Any advice besides grow up???

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Try to stay focus on yourself. Worry about other things besides who he is talking to. Have a little faith in him, until you've actually caught him cheating. I think that in a relationship, instant messaging is like texting, everything can go out of context. Besides it's the summer, go out and spend time together. Avoid having to always chat online.