PhoenixFromTheFlames Posted June 11, 2008 Posted June 11, 2008 Is it a bad idea? I'm not looking for a rebound relationship or someone to fill the void. I'm just wondering if it's a good idea to start dating and see how I feel? I expect i'll be hung up on my ex for a really long time yet. Should I wait until all my feelings go away? will they ever? p.s. I have finally accepted the break-up and I'm really trying to look forward. All my other posts were from my darkest days, fueled by blind hope and a warped perception of reality. I'm finally feeling able to look to the future without imagining him in it.
roghornio Posted June 11, 2008 Posted June 11, 2008 Go for it!! Have some fun… you will have a few hours not thinking about your ex.. and you never know where it might end up. I was stuck on a my ex ex for a long time, until I met my last ex – first date onwards I completely forgot my ex ex for good
foxh1234 Posted June 11, 2008 Posted June 11, 2008 I say if you are feeling ready to date, then you should try it. I am not nearly ready but when I am, I will know. If now is your time, go for it.
Author PhoenixFromTheFlames Posted June 11, 2008 Author Posted June 11, 2008 If now is your time, go for it. I'm not really sure I am ready, i'm thinking the best way to find out is to just try. If I end up in the toilets looking for an escape route, i'll know i'm not. Or worse, crying about my ex on the date itself! Is it wrong to agree to date someone if you're not sure you're ready?
roghornio Posted June 11, 2008 Posted June 11, 2008 Is it wrong to agree to date someone if you're not sure you're ready? Your not marrying them It may or may not work out - cross that bridge when you come to it... Go have some fun.
Author PhoenixFromTheFlames Posted June 11, 2008 Author Posted June 11, 2008 Your not marrying them . Valid point! Can you tell i've been out of the dating game for a while!
Krytie TV Posted June 11, 2008 Posted June 11, 2008 What the hell? What's one more confused woman who doesn't know what she wants in the dating pool?
Author PhoenixFromTheFlames Posted June 11, 2008 Author Posted June 11, 2008 What the hell? What's one more confused woman who doesn't know what she wants in the dating pool? Sounds like i'm gonna fit right in!
kizik Posted June 11, 2008 Posted June 11, 2008 Dating doesn't have to be so "formal"... go grab a drink and talk. That's all a "date" is. Don't stress on it. If you have fun, see him again. If not... next!
LikeCharlotte Posted June 12, 2008 Posted June 12, 2008 I think you should go for it. Take it slow and gauge your feelings. I was where you are not long ago and I decided to spend some casual time with my options. I didn't like any of them in a romantic way and it concerned me. I don't think at that point I was quite ready but a few weeks later I met someone I really liked in very serendipitous circumstances. Sadly he lives too far away for me to consider a relationship but I had a lot of fun with him and I'm glad that I was open to the experience. I feel much better now about having picked up and brushed off. I'm going to visit him and see someplace I've never been! I kept thinking that my disinterest was due to my not being healed enough and that may have been the case for awhile. As soon as I met someone who I genuinely liked I was sure that I was ready. If I hadn't allowed myself to begin to look and try to date I would have missed out on an experience that I'll likely never forget.
Template Posted June 12, 2008 Posted June 12, 2008 I look at dating as an opportunity to try new experiences. While I'm not completely over the woman I still have very strong feelings for, I go on dates with an open mind. I've had several dates, and I find it helps if I go to new places I've never been before, so even if the date (person) wasn't that great, at least the place was. I've met some great women, and to be fair, a couple of them had great potential. Its too bad I've decided to stay single for a while. Doesn't mean I cannot be a great date though.
jadedone Posted June 12, 2008 Posted June 12, 2008 Best way to get over someone is to get under someone else.
0hpenelope Posted June 12, 2008 Posted June 12, 2008 Is it a bad idea? I'm not looking for a rebound relationship or someone to fill the void. I'm just wondering if it's a good idea to start dating and see how I feel? I expect i'll be hung up on my ex for a really long time yet. Should I wait until all my feelings go away? will they ever? p.s. I have finally accepted the break-up and I'm really trying to look forward. All my other posts were from my darkest days, fueled by blind hope and a warped perception of reality. I'm finally feeling able to look to the future without imagining him in it. Not a bad idea at all. You're just out to have fun, not out to hurt anyone's feelings... Good luck and good times!
Luv2Laugh Posted June 12, 2008 Posted June 12, 2008 Check your true motivations. Are you dating just to get over someone and fill up the hole in your heart? If so-bad idea! It's not good when you use another person to medicate yourself from the last relationship that went sour.
sultry33 Posted June 12, 2008 Posted June 12, 2008 Check your true motivations. Are you dating just to get over someone and fill up the hole in your heart? If so-bad idea! It's not good when you use another person to medicate yourself from the last relationship that went sour. totally agree.. why date to get over someone i tried it hurts .. and its not fair on the date involved if your not really 100% into it. single life can be fun too, flirt, thats more fun.. plus no nasty outcomes hurt feelings.. give yourself some time out, you will know when your ready to date.. when you actually notice that there is a hot guy/girl and they are looking at you;)
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