CaliGuy Posted June 11, 2008 Posted June 11, 2008 LOL. I had a date this weekend and I am so surprised at myself. I was so serious and uptight. That isn't like me at all. I need to remember to chill out and have a good time. Maybe it's because I wasn't very attracted to the woman (we met online, she didn't look like her photos at all. She was much older in person than the photos). I have caught myself doing this before. I'm not such a serious person when you get to know me. So why am I doing this is dates? I am not nervous and I don't have anything to prove to anyone. LOL. Ok, do I need a wingman or something to remind me to chill or what? What do you do to make sure you're not so serious (or uptight) on a date?
Star Gazer Posted June 11, 2008 Posted June 11, 2008 What do you do to make sure you're not so serious (or uptight) on a date? One word: Vodka. J/K If I'm uptight, it's probably because I don't want to be there (e.g., don't find the person attractive). I don't see a problem with feeling that way under those circumstances.
Author CaliGuy Posted June 11, 2008 Author Posted June 11, 2008 One word: Vodka. J/K If I'm uptight, it's probably because I don't want to be there (e.g., don't find the person attractive). I don't see a problem with feeling that way under those circumstances. Yeah, I mean, I just wasn't attracted to her at all. Plus, she had a filthy mouth. It made her much less attractive. I had my keys in my hand for a good 20 minutes. She kept talking, I wanted to leave. I thought if I had my keys in my hand, that was a good sign I was done for the night, no?
Star Gazer Posted June 11, 2008 Posted June 11, 2008 Oh yeah, see...been there. Uptight is warranted. I had my keys in my hand for a good 20 minutes. She kept talking, I wanted to leave. I thought if I had my keys in my hand, that was a good sign I was done for the night, no? I went to dinner with a guy once, and after our meal was obviously VERY over, I lifted my purse from the floor and put it on my lap and turned to the side as though I was about to stand up. He started a new topic of conversation. I sat in the same position, talking to him with my head turned on my body, purse in my lap, keys in hand, for another 30 minutes while the wait staff lifted chairs upside down onto all the tables surrounding us. I'm still surprised at that experience. He SO didn't get it despite how obvious my body language was.
Author CaliGuy Posted June 11, 2008 Author Posted June 11, 2008 Oh yeah, see...been there. Uptight is warranted. Ok good. I was beginning to think something was wrong with me! Maybe there is but at least this time I have an excuse. And man, she had caked the makeup on. Wow. I mean, I'd much rather someone didn't wear any. Simple is better. I went to dinner with a guy once, and after our meal was obviously VERY over, I lifted my purse from the floor and put it on my lap and turned to the side as though I was about to stand up. He started a new topic of conversation. I sat in the same position, talking to him with my head turned on my body, purse in my lap, keys in hand, for another 30 minutes while the wait staff lifted chairs upside down onto all the tables surrounding us. I'm still surprised at that experience. He SO didn't get it despite how obvious my body language was. Yeah I think that would be a pretty big hint. At what point do you say "gotta go" without sounding rude? I mean, she kept talking and I was saying less and less.
Crestfallen_KH Posted June 11, 2008 Posted June 11, 2008 That's weird, I do the exact same thing. I went on a date with this guy who I met online and although I wasn't super attracted to what I saw in the photo, I figured it wouldn't hurt to meet for a coffee date. Well, I pulled up and he was about 30 lbs heavier than in his photo. And his mannerisms were very stilted and the conversation was also. I have a really funny profile and am pretty funny IRL, but I definitely was NOT funny during that conversation. I think you start to quickly realize it isn't going anywhere, and you start to care less about the impression you make. And, in my case, being serious and without facial expression is my "yeah, don't really care" look. When I start to get all serious I know it's my instinct going "don't waste time here" so I'm kind of glad I do it, actually.
Suiyobi Posted June 11, 2008 Posted June 11, 2008 I know the feeling bro. I met a girl once online and I thought she was cool and cute, but when I met her in real life she looked like she just got out drunk from a party or something, and to make matters worse she smoked (which is a turn-off for me). Just to be nice, I decided to stick around with her for about an hour but after that I had to jet out of the place fast.
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