Hotel Paradiso Posted June 11, 2008 Posted June 11, 2008 kiss a guy at the end of a date or make sure he had her number by having him type it into his phone and call hers... if she wasn't into him? (and wouldn't answer when he called her back, later) Not that I have any issue dealing with a woman being not interested in me, but those two recent situations didn't make any sense, at all. I don't get why a woman would make THAT much effort to pretend to be interested when she wasn't. What's the point? Anyone care to explain?
missdeathwish Posted June 11, 2008 Posted June 11, 2008 Well, either she's playing hard to get or wasn't around (hence the not answering), or she felt like she "had" to do all of that so it wasn't obvious she wasn't interested. You know, trying to let you down easy. Or she was interested but then something came up (got back together with her ex, got hit by a car, who knows).
Gawdess Posted June 11, 2008 Posted June 11, 2008 Same reason guys say they'll call and then never do.
sweetbutcheeky Posted June 11, 2008 Posted June 11, 2008 Why do guys say they had a great time, want to do something again soon and say they will call but don't. Who knows. But if they are going to be like that you know what kind of person there really are. So who wants them anyway!
vivrantflo Posted June 11, 2008 Posted June 11, 2008 or she felt like she "had" to do all of that so it wasn't obvious she wasn't interested. You know, trying to let you down easy. This wouldn't surprize me. Women rarely come right out, and say what they feel.. They hint, gesture.. speak in code, and limricks to get their points across, and us men are normally oblivious to them. Anyway, if you already called her back, and left a messege.. leave it at that. Don't call her back. She hasn't forgotten about you already.. so if she really is interested, she'll call you again.. even if she never got your phonecall to begin with... If she doesn't, thank your lucky stars, cause you don't want a woman that can put on an act like that, and in the back of her mind wants nothing to do with you!
Star Gazer Posted June 11, 2008 Posted June 11, 2008 Same reason guys say they'll call and then never do. So succinct, and so accurate.
Author Hotel Paradiso Posted June 11, 2008 Author Posted June 11, 2008 Originally Posted by Gawdess Same reason guys say they'll call and then never do. So succinct, and so accurate. No, not really. I've been a guy who "hasn't called" but it's never been after faking a date and, say kissing her. Why the hell would I make THAT much of an effort just to not "make any waves?" You don't get the point of what I'm saying, at all. It's one thing, even expected, for women to go through the motions (and I wouldn't even be posting this had they just given me their number (or even a fake one)). But, to make some exaggerated gesture to make it obvious you're interested in me, when you're not? It's completely retarded. Why not just go home and call it a night?
Star Gazer Posted June 11, 2008 Posted June 11, 2008 No, not really. Um, yes, yes really. It's called an ego stroke, dude. A woman who needs attention will pimp you for attention by behaving the way these women have. Women who behave this way think they need to toss you a bone to get you hooked (a number, a kiss, whatever) to get you to chase, even if they're not interested, because they need attention. The same follows for men. Men who get a girls number and never have any intention of calling ALSO simply want attention and an ego stroke, and find that getting a girl to give him her number serves that purpose.
browneyes22 Posted June 11, 2008 Posted June 11, 2008 Um, yes, yes really. It's called an ego stroke, dude. A woman who needs attention will pimp you for attention by behaving the way these women have. Women who behave this way think they need to toss you a bone to get you hooked (a number, a kiss, whatever) to get you to chase, even if they're not interested, because they need attention. The same follows for men. Men who get a girls number and never have any intention of calling ALSO simply want attention and an ego stroke, and find that getting a girl to give him her number serves that purpose. So true...when I get a girls number I rarely call. Mostly however because I feel they will just listen to my messages for their own ego stroke and not reply. It's a vicious cycle man. I say if they are using you just use them. She obviously isn't serious about you so if you see her in the future give a dose of her own medicine. But always keep your eye out for those whom don't do this.
badmus Posted June 11, 2008 Posted June 11, 2008 Same reason guys say they'll call and then never do. It is either this or you took too long to call her and she lost interest
shanny Posted June 11, 2008 Posted June 11, 2008 Although it may not be the right thing to do, I have given goodnight kisses and given people my phone number with absolutly no interest in them. It's because I HATE hurting people's feelings and doing it directly to their face is a lot harder than just blowing them off. Again, it's not right but I do it all the time and have probably confused many men. It's just because I'm a coward... she probably is too.
t_veron Posted June 11, 2008 Posted June 11, 2008 It is either this or you took too long to call her and she lost interest Absolutely false. I've never encountered this. So you're telling me if Johnny Depp called a week too late the girl would say see you? If the girl (or guy) is interested they will wait assuming you give them a decent excuse (in the beginning) because we all have other lives. Any girl or guy who think otherwise is too structured, rigid, and insecure. That girl would not have been interested in anything but controlling you anyway. It's too early to tell if she's one of those that needs attention from guys or playing hard to get. Some women back off when they feel like they're revealing too much of themselves too soon. In general most women like having that "just incase connection" with a guy so they keep their options open unless he's scary or a perv. Think of MySpace or Facebook and how many friends women will have so they always have someone to give them attention which gives them the ability to play hard to get with guys they're interested in.
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