I need some input

[Lucky555]

I find it very hard to let people (guys) in my whole personal life because I am afraid that i will end up hurt and it will be far worse if i let him "know me"

 

Do guys try to get to know the woman totally before committing themselves? Am i doing something wrong by not letting them fully into my life if they have no intentions on being "with me?" Fully into my life by meeting my parents, family, friends, or even letting them know what my ambitions are. Sometimes i think i would scare them off too. I just feel like they should be kept at a distance till they are ready to put themselves on the line as well as myself and then i will let them into the rest of my life.

I feel like i am protecting myself this way, its like i want something secure before i start revealing my life.

Is this wrong or right to do? Does anyone else do this?

[Suiyobi]

Hmm, you make it seem like there's something strange or even dangerous about your life and if you come across that way I think it will definitely scare us men.

 

The only suggestion I can make is that if you are interested in a man, let him SLOWLY get to know you better, and during the times that you are with him show him that despite all the things that go on your life you can still be a fun and caring person to be with. If the man is the right one for you, he will do his best to work things out with you; i.e., to make changes for the better.

[Lucky555]

well there is absolutely nothing about my life that is dangerous or horrible. Its the "closeness factor" I don't want to fall for the guy and all of sudden he "changes his mind" and i am left in a whirlwind of heartache.

 

I think your right slowly let them into my life. I find it hard because the people who are my friends and my family i care a lot about and therefore someone who would meet them, i would have to really be serious with them or care for them. I guess it just means a lot to me.