kizik Posted June 10, 2008 Posted June 10, 2008 If you haven't heard my story (sure, they're all the same, but with minute variations), here it is in one sentence: Tried to make an LDR work, but it didn't because she fell out of love with me and her family is more important. It's only been a month since the breakup, but I know we made the right choice. Here are some reasons: Our lives were on different trajectories - she is already a teacher at 25, I'm still in college and undecided about my careerDifferent energy/stress levels - she is very high-strung, I am laid-backDifferent life goals - she's sure she wants kids and wants to be married by 28; I am great with kids but too young to know, and I want my career in order before I consider marriageHer parents are very involved in her life (too much, if you ask me), I am very independent from mine (meaning: estranged)She gradually lost all respect for me. I still respect her, but have definitely taken her off her pedestalShe's a pessimist. I see glasses half-full.She's unhappy. I'm pretty damn happy.She's defensive and angry. I know I'm not perfect and invite constructive criticism.She puts her family and career before me. She was always number one to me. The list goes on. It's nice not to be clinging onto an unrealistic dream anymore. kizik
v33 Posted June 11, 2008 Posted June 11, 2008 Good idea to put the reasons on paper. Even though she technically left me, we are better off without each other. Here is why : She is very emotional, I am very logical.She is very outgoing, I am more reserved.Her friends and family were always more important, I was second best.I am motivated and want more out of life, she is happy to just get by.She could never accept any fault for anything, I am willing to admit fault.She was a slave to her alcoholism, if I tried to help her she lashed out.She loved to tell stories, I wanted to have conversations.She hated herself, I loved her.She wanted attention from strangers, I wanted it from her. I too could go on and on. We just weren't right for each other. She is right for someone else, or at least someone who can accept her as she is. I couldn't. I still miss things about her, but it's for the best we are done. Though frankly I don't care that it's best for her, I am concerned about what is good for me now.
Author kizik Posted June 11, 2008 Author Posted June 11, 2008 Her friends and family were always more important, I was second best.She could never accept any fault for anything, I am willing to admit fault.She hated herself, I loved her. These are the qualities I see our exes sharing, V. It's so sad. Ohhh I was doing OK today, but now I really feel it.
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