Jackb228 Posted June 10, 2008 Posted June 10, 2008 Basically i have recently been dating a girl and i just need some advice as to whether its worth pursuing. we have been seeing each other for about 4 weeks after a about one meeting and then randomly hooking up another time and since then thats the pattern its been following. I think she likes me' but im afraid my personality quirks such as my Confidence and mood bouncing around like a powerball in a sqaush Court is putting her off, as well as the fact i have never been in a proper relationship before and previously had not been in one for about a year or so. Its just she will somtimes not respond to message's and seems to ignore me or is this just some kind of jealosy responce shes trying to generate. Should i ask her where we stand, or just continue playing around with her and enjoying her while this last's between us.
badmus Posted June 11, 2008 Posted June 11, 2008 you don't really have to ask her, but you can become more aggressive and show her signs that you are interested in taking things further and see how she reacts. Things like touching her more often, looking into her eyes and smiling should send her signals of your intent
Ronni_W Posted June 11, 2008 Posted June 11, 2008 Jack, It's unlikely that your lack of dating experience will have a significant bearing -- everyone started exactly where you are now. For your long-term, you may want to consider learning how to increase your self-confidence, how to manage your mood swings, and how to overcome the early signs of neediness. Those are going to be the areas that will pose problems for you. Do you know the circumstances under which she does not respond to your messages right away? Is it that she is busy with other aspects of her life? Because no, that's not her trying to influence you to feel jealous. It's just her acting like any normal person, and behaving in a 'functional' manner . (YOU generate your own feelings , though -- ONLY you have the power to decide how you are actually going to respond, no matter what the other person may wish, in that regard.) I also agree with what badmus said, except I would strive for "assertive".
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