jack1087 Posted June 10, 2008 Posted June 10, 2008 Hi I'm need some advice and would be grateful if any of you could help. I need advice on how to get over someone. I'll explain I've known this guy for two and a half years, since the moment I met him I wanted him. He is everything I want in a man, the trouble was he had a boyfriend (I'm gay). At first I fancied him but knew nothing would ever happen between us, due to the boyfriend. Even though I fancied him more than any other guy I had ever been with I still continued dating and seeing others guys. These would never amount to anything as I never liked them that much. Me and this guy became friends, really good friends, we would flirt outrageously with each other even though I knew nothing would come of this. Then after 9 months of being friends things started to happen between us, then on my birthday he told me that he wanted to split up with his boyfriend and be with me but couldn't as he lived with him and if he split p with him would have nowhere to live. I accepted this and decided to wait for him, but I couldn't really control myself effectively we started having an affair. I always thought that eventually we would be together. The affair went on for about a year and I completely fell in love with him. I eventually realised that he wasn't going to split up with his boyfriend and I ended things between us. For the next two months I didn't see him, this was really hard as we have the same friends, but I managed to avoid parties when I knew he was going to be there. This meant that I had to not go out clubbing/partying or seeing my friends if I thought he would be there. Eventually I did see him and we fell back into a casual friend routine and even though I still had feelings for him this felt fine, it didn't feel like the torture it does now. I started seeing another guy around the time we became friends again. I never really fancied him but I thought it would help. This guy was very full-on and it only lasted about 3 weeks. I just couldn't deal with the fact that it wasn't him, when I was with this guy I imagined it being him. After that I completely lost control. I started being really nasty to this guy, when I really didn't want to. It's been 7 months since then and 10 months since I ended with this guy and I can't seem to get him out of my head. I still feel exactly the same about him and nothing seems to change it. I've tried to only see him when I need to, it's really hard as we have the same friends and I don't want to stop seeing them. 2 months ago this guy said to me he still has feelings for me but loves his bf. I don't really know what to do. Do I completely cut him out my life? I would love to have him as a friend, but I can't deal with these feelings I feel miserable. People say to get over someone try dating other people, I did this and this only made me feel 100 times worse. I go out clubbing and to parties a lot. I meet a lot of people and I am very sociable but none of these guys do anything for me. I get quite a few offers from guys but there's absolutely nothing in me that wants to do anything about it. I want him. So I would like to know if any of you have any advice for me? This guy is a part of my life and I can't avoid him we have the same friends. I'm going to our mutual friends birthday party on Saturday and I'll see him there. How can I get over him?
kizik Posted June 10, 2008 Posted June 10, 2008 Well, you're going to have to start by not seeing him or talking to him. Getting rid of all memorabilia that reminds you of him. You say you can't avoid him, but you're gonna have to. If you wanna get over him, that is.
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