Shin0bi1 Posted June 10, 2008 Posted June 10, 2008 Hey all, I've met someone I can click with and have had great conversations with her in person and over the phone. Met her thru an online dating service which I am pretty new to in general. Anyways, this person makes me feel that I'm in highschool again. The butterflies, nervousness, the giddiness, etc... I'm freakin in my 30s and I feel that reverted to a immature boy who has a huge crush on a cheerleader that he sees in his social studies class in school. L O L Has anyone gone thru this? I'm also assuming because she feels the same way I do and shes in her 30s too. I believe there is chemistry between us since we are still communicating after a couple of dates. Seriously I get excited getting text messages and phone calls from her and I feel really stupid for being excited like that hehe. Like my heartbeat increases and get kinda nervous seeing her in person and I dont remember feeling like this for awhile. Just sharing my thoughts ^_^ -Shin0bi1
t_veron Posted June 10, 2008 Posted June 10, 2008 Awww this is cute.... but seriously stop with the cuteness It's all normal especially when taking some time off from dating. What you don't know is whether this is infatuation or love at this point. So if you don't want to blow it take it slow and resist talking to her and being available 24/7. Limit contact (email, phone, text) to a couple times a day only. After a 2-3 months you should know whether it's infatuation or the real deal and then you can let off a little (not totally) and be more available. Good luck!
Author Shin0bi1 Posted June 10, 2008 Author Posted June 10, 2008 Awww this is cute.... but seriously stop with the cuteness It's all normal especially when taking some time off from dating. What you don't know is whether this is infatuation or love at this point. So if you don't want to blow it take it slow and resist talking to her and being available 24/7. Limit contact (email, phone, text) to a couple times a day only. After a 2-3 months you should know whether it's infatuation or the real deal and then you can let off a little (not totally) and be more available. Good luck! Yeah we are talking and texting a lot to each other. Not sure if that is bad or not. I will try to limit my availability and try that out without being so obvious... thanks for heads up! 2-3 months sounds like a long time though! -shin0bi1
t_veron Posted June 10, 2008 Posted June 10, 2008 thanks for heads up! 2-3 months sounds like a long time though! -shin0bi1 Yes it's a lifetime especially when you are really into someone. Taking it slow though keeps the "freshness" going. Of course you can let up a little if you don't see any warning signs and things progress. Also won't put too much pressure on things moving too fast.
t_veron Posted June 10, 2008 Posted June 10, 2008 2-3 months sounds like a long time though! -shin0bi1 No it sounds like a lifetime especially when you're really into someone and it's new. However, it can ensure a good thing to work out by keeping it fresh longer building a bond and the most important thing for a fighting chance.... time spent with someone. Texting, phone calls, emails, etc... will never compare to face time. Limit conversations but see her more often if you can. Initially 2-3 times a week should work. So if she's dying to talk to you and you her then why not a quick trip to Starbucks for an hour.
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