alasia Posted June 10, 2008 Posted June 10, 2008 Hi, bit of history; I live with my partner who is 45- I'm 25 in august and we have a 10month old baby boy. I'm also pregnant again and we're both looking forward to the birth in 2 months' time. We've had a fairly rocky relationship in the past; we moved too quickly at first and broke up quite messily at the end of 2006, were on and off last year and have recently got things back on track; we've been back together for 4 months now and things are going well, we're getting on better than ever etc. While we were broken up last year,my partner got chatting to a customer on one of his buses (he's a bus driver) - she's 59 and he's always says he's not interested in her; they just chat and he was getting lifts home from her sometimes (we don't have a car at the moment). They texted each other- I never saw any 'dodgy' or flirty messages but I hated the fact he was texting her; mainly because she seemed as though she was attracted to him (he never seemed to reciprocate). He got a new number a few weeks ago and by this time, my partner was telling me he loved me more than anything, wanted to be with me and our children; saying and doing all the right things,and he said he didn't have this woman's number. I asked why he didn't give her his number again seeign as they'd been friends before we got back together, but he said "why would I do that? I don't want her to have my number and I don't need hers". I believed him. Then last night I checked his phone for the first time since we got back together - I just had a hunch there was something on there; and in his sent messages folder, I found a text he'd sent saying Ring Me,from the day before while he'd been at work. The number looked like that woman's number. So I asked him about it,and he admitted it was her number. He wouldn't say why he'd texted her asking her to phone, or why he'd lied about her having his number. He got quite defensive at first, but said he wasn't interested in her, they just talk, that nothing was going on etc. Then he asked me to get back into bed (it was 2am!) and seemed to just want me to forget it. The thing is,I can't get it out of my mind and it really annoys/upsets me that he lied. Today he said that he's asked her to phone him because he wanted to ask for a lift home after work today; but he hadn't had a reply - I don't believe that because if it was the case, why not just ask her in a text message? Anyway I'm not sure what to do; if there's nothing between my partner and this woman, then why delete her text messages? I don't think he's cheating, but I do wonder if there's some interest there. He knows I don't want him talking to her - but am I being unreasonable? He should be allowed female friends after all. He's still affectionate towards me, tells me he loves me and all that, although I'm not convinced that he's told her we're back together (he used to confide in her when we had split up). Should I drop it and just trust him? Or am I right to be upset about this?
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