HiItsMe Posted June 10, 2008 Posted June 10, 2008 Hello, I'm new to this site. I was reading through some profiles on a dating site and this one woman, in my area....actually knew her as a local mall clerk some time ago, she was married at the time. I actually used the fact that we had met a few times before as an icebreaker. All I got was a "Sorry, I don't think we'd make a good match, good luck to you." Anyhow, I used to see her on the dating sites alot.......then one day she added an *update* , a quite a sizable paragraph to her profile. Basically, she was expressing how she's "given up on the guys on this website". And realized now that guys on here do not know how to treat a lady anymore. That "We aren't mind readers and don't like to wait by the phone to call us" That "we are not toys to be played with whenever you want to." You know (not to knock women, just personal experience), the same whiney drivel that women, who ignore or turn down a decent follow and then turn around and whine about how they can't find a "nice guy" whilst they get treated like dirt by the good looking hunks that they are "ga-ga" over. lol What's funny is, she posts this on her profile as a recent update. Think she'd consider dating the "lesser" attractive. And she's in her late 30's, a single mother, so this isn't some young woman either, figured she'd know a good man when she sees one. I hadn't emailed her in a long time, but I almost feel like saying something , "Hey, want to give me a shot......now....since all the good-looking hunks won't have anything to do with you?"
endlesstrains Posted June 10, 2008 Posted June 10, 2008 I can understand why you might be bitter about it but emailing her like that isn't going to accomplish anything except piss her off and strengthen her feelings that men on that website aren't worth it. That's a pretty passive agressive thing to say and why would you want a shot with her anyway? You two obviously don't mesh.
Art_Critic Posted June 10, 2008 Posted June 10, 2008 She was nice to you.. She replied to your email and it wasn't what you wanted to hear. With online dating there has to be mutual attraction and a mutual match of items in the profile.. The keyword being mutual.. She wasn't feeling ya.. nothing wrong with that..I'm sure there are tons of women online that you don't feel either.. Dating is a game of numbers..move on from her and keep raising your numbers.. quit checking her profile and re-reading it.. it won't change the fact that she blew you off and you will just waste your time.
Author HiItsMe Posted June 10, 2008 Author Posted June 10, 2008 I can understand why you might be bitter about it but emailing her like that isn't going to accomplish anything except piss her off and strengthen her feelings that men on that website aren't worth it. That's a pretty passive agressive thing to say and why would you want a shot with her anyway? You two obviously don't mesh. Is there a way I can present it in a more presentable fashion then? Like, "Hey, I noticed what you said in your profile....I sympathize with you....I assure you I'm not one of those guys, want to do lunch?" I was wondering if it's one of those "Turning points" where a woman starts to realize that maybe dating the "hunks" aren't what it's cracked up to be That "hot guys" aren't the kinds of guys you want, at least for long term (at least for her...she is wanting long term)
Art_Critic Posted June 10, 2008 Posted June 10, 2008 Is there a way I can present it in a more presentable fashion then? Like, "Hey, I noticed what you said in your profile....I sympathize with you....I assure you I'm not one of those guys, want to do lunch?" I was wondering if it's one of those "Turning points" where a woman starts to realize that maybe dating the "hunks" aren't what it's cracked up to be That "hot guys" aren't the kinds of guys you want, at least for long term (at least for her...she is wanting long term) All that will get you is deleted and blocked...
Lookingforward Posted June 10, 2008 Posted June 10, 2008 Sounds to me like she got played by a prospective "partner" that she fancied more than he did her lol - why do people think these kind of "sour grapes" profile comments make them attractive?
Lookingforward Posted June 10, 2008 Posted June 10, 2008 HiItsMe, I'd give this one a miss frankly - do you really need that kind of angst in your life ?
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