carrie3107 Posted June 10, 2008 Posted June 10, 2008 I started to post about my previous relationship and how come i got onto the LS forum. As i started typing what had happened, i started to think was the relationship really that bad, was i really a cow and could I have been more understanding!! I stopped typing about my relationship and felt down, and i started to realise that i still have feelings for him. Has anyone else done this!!!
Author carrie3107 Posted June 10, 2008 Author Posted June 10, 2008 started to think maybe the relationship wasnt that bad!
iwish Posted June 10, 2008 Posted June 10, 2008 I don't think my relationship was that bad! But i was dumped!! I take it you're the dumper and are having second thoughts?
sultry33 Posted June 10, 2008 Posted June 10, 2008 i think sometimes when its written down , you can see things more clearly.. i know sometimes i read posts and think jeezzzzzz wth, i would never stay in rs like that! or why are they still trying etc.. some probably think that about mine too lol
Author carrie3107 Posted June 10, 2008 Author Posted June 10, 2008 Unfortunately i was dumped!! Think im just having a bad day. Doing the nc for a couple of weeks and it would have been our 2nd anniversary soon
iwish Posted June 10, 2008 Posted June 10, 2008 Sorry to hear that Carrie. being dumped sucks!! You feel so helpless. and for some reason we tend to think of how it wasn't that bad.. But then if you think hard enough, you can see where they are at fault too. It just seems that they don't see that and it hurts.. Bad day's happen.. Especially when there is an important date coming up, for you it's the 2nd anniversary for me, well it's my Birthday Friday and all i can think about is wether she will contact me or not!! I'm guessing she wont, and that's just crap!
Author carrie3107 Posted June 10, 2008 Author Posted June 10, 2008 A brief summary of what happened Met up and he moved in with me together within a month At first he would do things for me like painting, going for meals. This stopped. The only time we would go out together was to go food shopping. He didnt like socialising with anyone, not at work or to pubs etc. He would be working 12 hr shifts 7 days a week. When he would come home he would spend the rest of the night on his xbox. (Yeah he needed to chill, but till 2 - 3 o'clock in the morning) He would keep me awake most of the night. (We lived in a flat and the noise carried through) He never came to bed slept on the seattee. He always said it was cause i was a light sleeper and he kept me awake, and he didnt sleep much. Even though i asked him if he would come to bed and give me a cuddle till i feel asleep then he could go back on the seattee. Didnt feel that it was my home anymore, and most of the time he felt like a lodger to me. I would one weekend i would go out with my mates then the next weekend i would stay in with him (this stopped cause i changed jobs and wasnt getting as much money in) Unfortunetly when we got together his mum was dying. I can remember sitting on the seattee on my birthday crying cause he wanted to spend time on the xbox and when it was his birthday asking him if he wanted to go for a meal and him saying well see then spending the day on the xbox. I did get asked by an ex boyfriend if we could have an affair (but i refused cause we both had partners and wouldnt be fair on either one of them) When he was struggling for money (Which i still cant understand as he had a good job with good pay) i would lend him money and he would pay me bits back every week. When i was struggling he never offered to help me out. (In fact he still owes me money but have come to the conclusion that he will not pay back) Is it any wunder my mood swings were bad and id lose my temper fast! When we'd fight, i would always bring up its my flat (yeah that was b****y) We both didnt show each other any interest towards the end. So why the regrets??? And why do i miss him now and then????
iwish Posted June 10, 2008 Posted June 10, 2008 That sounds like a bad relationship. He seems like a bit of an idiot, i mean to not even take you out on your birthday is really really bad! In all honesty you should have dumped him!! And why you miss him? because you loved him despite his flaws. I miss my ex a hell of a lot. But i even miss the bad times (at least we talked!).. It's a tough thing breaking up.. Time heals all wounds and hopefully in time you will miss him less and less.
Author carrie3107 Posted June 10, 2008 Author Posted June 10, 2008 There was some good times, and yeah i should have dumped him. I did ask him to move out a month before we split, but it looked as though we were going to work through it. A month later he walked out on me without telling me. I walked in the flat and thought we had been burgled. What bothers me is that during all this he acts like he was the victim, yeah ok i did things wrong shouted at him when he didnt do things i wanted to do.... Thing is we have met up a couple of times since, texted etc .... we've both given each other the impression that wed get back together. But after the last time we met up i stayed over, we texted and he told me he would speak to me soon. (not going to do the fwb cause that doesnt work) I sent him a text saying that it was all or nothing, you cant walk in and out of my life when it suits you, I deserve better. Havent spoke to him since. During these last couple of months even though ive been thinking about him, ive been going out having a laugh with my mates partying starting to think of my future, going back to college to do a part time course. Not ready for a relationship yet, but having a good laugh with my friends (thank god for friends)
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