TheSilentType Posted June 10, 2008 Posted June 10, 2008 1.I'd like to know what are girls expectations of a guy in his mid-late twenites? What do girls in this age group usually want their guys to be like?
SpikeyChick Posted June 10, 2008 Posted June 10, 2008 1.I'd like to know what are girls expectations of a guy in his mid-late twenites? What do girls in this age group usually want their guys to be like? You are much better served by defining what your own expectations of women are. After all you are the one who will be qualifying THEM and sorting out the losers from the keepers. Most women (chickas is a better word) in their early to mid twenties are in "party mode" and a lot are sexing their way with little regard to the consequences. SEcondly their mindset has been shaped (or hijacked ) by the feminist propoganda which has contaminated our public education system. They are self centered and 'entitled' with a bloated sense of importance. I work with several of them on campus and they are painful. Young women like this are unfit for LTRs - I know because I used to be one - I was a self absorbed baitch. I suggest that you think very clearly before you ever think about committing to one.
Krytie TV Posted June 10, 2008 Posted June 10, 2008 I am not a woman in my 20's but when I was I wanted the same thing everyone wants and that is to be loved, and to have someone whom I could love. It's quite simple really when you peel off all the bells and whistles I beleive we are all the same beneath it all. You should have just put this. Just because you're on a rampage today doesn't mean you need to go off on everyone you don't agree with. She answered the OP in her own way. To the OP, to be honest, most of the women in that age group seem to not really know what they are looking for. Their decisions and choices can appear somewhat random at times, if not downright silly other times. Just focus on being yourself, that'll weed out the ones not interested in your type. It took me about 12 years of silly analysis to figure out that I just needed to be the person I was 12 years, just a little stronger. I guess the point is who cares? Be you and that will do most of the work. However, if you are a "nice guy", I would focus on learning how to stop being so, while being able to be a good man.
Art_Critic Posted June 10, 2008 Posted June 10, 2008 Gainfully employed Don't live with the parents Own a car Not a drunk... That about does it...
Author TheSilentType Posted June 10, 2008 Author Posted June 10, 2008 Gainfully employed Don't live with the parents Own a car Not a drunk... That about does it... Well if that was it, then there would be so many girls flocking. By the way, I don't think just having a car counts anymore. Many of my guy friends say you need to have a NICE fancy car. Otherwise you can't get the girls
Art_Critic Posted June 10, 2008 Posted June 10, 2008 Well if that was it, then there would be so many girls flocking. Those are the big basics.. and no a fancy car isn't what it takes.. just a nice car. It is about showing that you are responsible.. that is really what a woman wants.. a responsible man that can have fun.. It is up to you to take those things and twist them into painting a positive side to you that is desirable...
Tomcat33 Posted June 10, 2008 Posted June 10, 2008 Well if that was it, then there would be so many girls flocking. By the way, I don't think just having a car counts anymore. Many of my guy friends say you need to have a NICE fancy car. Otherwise you can't get the girls It does seem that younger women are more demanding these days in terms of what they expect financially of men, but then again it is a general perception. There has been a great influx of young women who have been influenced by the media and the standards that hollywood starlets and the likes have for a way of life and quite frankly unless your father owns a chain of hotels internationally you should probably bring your airs back down to earth and make your expectations more realistic and see what you can offer and from there base your expectations. On the other hand there are a lot of young men that fall into the category that want the types of women who praise money so I say to those young men learn to see the beauty in more simple girls and don't get so caught up in what the "super cool" girls are after and learn to actually see who the the cool girls.
Krytie TV Posted June 10, 2008 Posted June 10, 2008 As far as immaterial things go, I would say confidence/mild cockiness go a long way.
Tomcat33 Posted June 10, 2008 Posted June 10, 2008 Those are the big basics.. and no a fancy car isn't what it takes.. just a nice car. It is about showing that you are responsible.. that is really what a woman wants.. a responsible man that can have fun.. It is up to you to take those things and twist them into painting a positive side to you that is desirable... That is really good advice AC.
Krytie TV Posted June 10, 2008 Posted June 10, 2008 Oh, I also think an important factor is their upbringing. Thos brought up in a financially well of family will expect that from a partner. Thos who are self-makers or are working hard to find their way would probably be less likely to be so demanding of their partner as it concerns material things. This is where the character would be more important.
Krytie TV Posted June 10, 2008 Posted June 10, 2008 Those are the big basics.. and no a fancy car isn't what it takes.. just a nice car. It is about showing that you are responsible.. that is really what a woman wants.. a responsible man that can have fun.. It is up to you to take those things and twist them into painting a positive side to you that is desirable... Really though Art? Nothing personal, but you are maybe leaning toward being of a different generation, no? Speaking from my own experience (and I DO truly think that my current location is a severely psychotic outlier in what's normal), I don't know that women in their mid-20's are ready to look for these things anymore... not at that age anyway. Responsibility doesn't seem to be so important, though these are merely from my own experiences. I think they are really out for fun and a "rush" still.
Art_Critic Posted June 10, 2008 Posted June 10, 2008 The OP said mid to late 20's... that would mean someone up to about the age of almost 30... I stick by what I posted...
Author TheSilentType Posted June 10, 2008 Author Posted June 10, 2008 Oh, I also think an important factor is their upbringing. Thos brought up in a financially well of family will expect that from a partner. Unfortunately, I'm surrounded by people that have grown up with a spoon in their mouth. In my everyday encounters, I don't run into many down-to-earth girls. Hence, why my guy friends tell me a nice car is a necessity. I have a decent pretty good car, but its not a fancy sports car.
Tomcat33 Posted June 10, 2008 Posted June 10, 2008 Unfortunately, I'm surrounded by people that have grown up with a spoon in their mouth. In my everyday encounters, I don't run into many down-to-earth girls. Hence, why my guy friends tell me a nice car is a necessity. I have a decent pretty good car, but its not a fancy sports car. Look I hate to say it but if you DO go out and get the fancy new sports car, even if you could afford it the novelty wears off quickly because next you will be dumped for a guy that has more muscles, or that has a summer house or whatever the next step up is. I really don't think you are seeingthe down to earth girls they ARE out there, but perhaps you are too caught un aspiring to get one of the silver spoon girls. see what I'm saying? I work with women who are in their 20's and I hear what they talk about they look for the EXACT same things I and women my age (early thirties) looked for when we were their age problem is that they tend to get caught up in nonsense because they too feel pressured to deliver what men in that age group want and it's quite superficial as well. As AC said if you can show that you are responsible and lead a responsible life that is more than enough than what you need to show a decent girl, anyone wanting above and beyond that is prob not the kind of woman you should aspire to be with no matter how great she looks because she will only get worse with time.
Krytie TV Posted June 10, 2008 Posted June 10, 2008 Hence, why my guy friends tell me a nice car is a necessity. I have a decent pretty good car, but its not a fancy sports car. If there's one thing to realize, it's that this does not really matter. Cars are one of the worst financial investment you can make. Nothing else depreciates as drastically as a car leaving a lot. Please, fight all urges to get a cool car becuse women like it. As and anecdote, I drive a pretty standard Jeep Grand Cherokee. Well, I have been borrowing and driving my friend's Nissan 350 Z convertible for about three weeks now and it is nothing more than a fleeting novelty. Fight the urge... fight the urge!
lovelorcet Posted June 10, 2008 Posted June 10, 2008 I "get" what you mean by the car thing but having a car totally depends on where you are. Where I live many of my friends and collages don't have cars into there 30's even.
Stockalone Posted June 10, 2008 Posted June 10, 2008 I "get" what you mean by the car thing but having a car totally depends on where you are. Where I live many of my friends and collages don't have cars into there 30's even. I agree, depending on where you live in Germany, a car is nothing more than a waste of money. Public transportation is by far the better option. Where I live, a car is more or less a necessity. My colleagues do make fun of me though from time to time, because I still drive my 7 year old VW Polo and it really sticks out between the way more expensive, fancy cars that the rest of the bunch is driving.
Ashbash11 Posted June 10, 2008 Posted June 10, 2008 I'm surprised that most of the responses have been regarding superficial things such as owning a nice car... geesh! As a female in my mid-twenties, I expect my guy of late twenties to be respectful, honest, kind and faithful to me- aka: not "playing the field" while he is going out with me, even though he is still young. I actually don't think age matters in this case. I would expect these things of any guy I am going out with, regardless of age.
Nevermind Posted June 10, 2008 Posted June 10, 2008 Humour. Experience in life. A talent(cooking, fotography, fishing, car repair - whatever, I don't need to have the same interest, but I'd like to see somebody really care about something). Patience. Confidence.
Untouchable_Fire Posted June 10, 2008 Posted June 10, 2008 I'm surprised that most of the responses have been regarding superficial things such as owning a nice car... geesh! As a female in my mid-twenties, I expect my guy of late twenties to be respectful, honest, kind and faithful to me- aka: not "playing the field" while he is going out with me, even though he is still young. I actually don't think age matters in this case. I would expect these things of any guy I am going out with, regardless of age. You just listed the stuff you want after you start dating him. He wants to know what your looking for before you start a relationship. In my experience this is what helps most, without altering your personality. 1. Expensive Clothes. 2. Good Hygiene 3. Good Musculature/ Nice Abs will get you more dates than anything! Stuff like that is going to help you more than anything silent!
spikeydude Posted June 11, 2008 Posted June 11, 2008 You are much better served by defining what your own expectations of women are. After all you are the one who will be qualifying THEM and sorting out the losers from the keepers. Most women (chickas is a better word) in their early to mid twenties are in "party mode" and a lot are sexing their way with little regard to the consequences. SEcondly their mindset has been shaped (or hijacked ) by the feminist propoganda which has contaminated our public education system. They are self centered and 'entitled' with a bloated sense of importance. I work with several of them on campus and they are painful. Young women like this are unfit for LTRs - I know because I used to be one - I was a self absorbed baitch. I suggest that you think very clearly before you ever think about committing to one. But baby, you tol' me sumpthin' else. You tol' me that you wus a fem'nist. Tha' you wus in charge, so ah lissened.
monkey00 Posted June 11, 2008 Posted June 11, 2008 I disagree with the car thing, but it also depends where you are. I live in a big city and I don't own a car, in fact many people here don't and have no problem dating. I think each woman is different. My friend is in his late 20's and the women he dates are pretty down to earth and aren't overly demanding - I think as long as you're confident in who you are, what you do, and are a responsible person (also financially) you shouldn't have a problem dating women. Though I think what women look for in a guy varies on a woman's age. But on a general term, women like men with a sense of style, hobbies, goals, accomplishments, and ambition.
browneyes22 Posted June 11, 2008 Posted June 11, 2008 You are much better served by defining what your own expectations of women are. After all you are the one who will be qualifying THEM and sorting out the losers from the keepers. Most women (chickas is a better word) in their early to mid twenties are in "party mode" and a lot are sexing their way with little regard to the consequences. SEcondly their mindset has been shaped (or hijacked ) by the feminist propoganda which has contaminated our public education system. They are self centered and 'entitled' with a bloated sense of importance. I work with several of them on campus and they are painful. Young women like this are unfit for LTRs - I know because I used to be one - I was a self absorbed baitch. I suggest that you think very clearly before you ever think about committing to one. My attitude towards these type of girls is to have fun with them all the while knowing that they are not into any sort of serious thing. They can be a blast to hang out with and are a dime a dozen in the bar scene and universities so they are easily replacable. BUT the down to earth girls are way more attractive to me becuase they don't have a bloated sense of importance as SpikeyChick says. Funny thing is girls that are the most physically attractive tend to be down to earth more often than not. At least in my opinion. May I ask if SpikeyChick is still single? Just curious.
Hotel Paradiso Posted June 11, 2008 Posted June 11, 2008 Honestly, I think you're asking the wrong questions. If you ask "What do women want" it puts you in sort of a submissive state, begging to their will, which is unconfident in yourself and exactly what they DON'T want. Not that you should be delusional, but it's just self-destructive to think like that. Have your sh*t together. Go out. Have fun. Be yourself, without apology or questioning it one damn bit. That's what they want. So, that leaves you with the right question - What do YOU want in a woman?
MsCrazy Posted June 11, 2008 Posted June 11, 2008 I'm 25 and I'm looking for a respectable guy who preferebly has a college degree, because I do. I just want the basics. Honest, kind, and wants a LTR. Thats really it. Someone who is done playing stupid games and just wants love. I have always been financially independent so I don't care if they don't have a nice car as long as they are responsible and do have a car. Where do u live?
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