v33 Posted June 9, 2008 Posted June 9, 2008 Hi Folks, Wanted to get some advice and insight on a situation I have found myself in. Met a girl on Sunday night at a club. Talked and hit it off. Yes there was some drinking involved but nothing crazy. We were touching and flirting, she offered me her number and suggested we go out the next night to get to know each other in a better environment. I head home and she actually emailed me that evening just to say she had made it home safe and to wish me a goodnight. Said she would call Monday afternoon. She calls, we have a fine phone conversation and set up a dinner date for later that night. She shows up, is very happy to see me, enthusiastic, etc. Have a great time at dinner, share a bottle of wine. Flirting, talking, good stuff. Go for a walk, stop and play a game of pool. Walk again, things going great, end up kissing in a park. Great chemistry going on. We end up back at my place, makeout like crazy, groping, etc, she spends the night but we both agree to not let it go further that evening. Keep in mind she is saying things and acting like she is RIGHT into me and I am feeling the same way. Next morning we are a little groggy but things are cool, though not like the night before. Understandable as we are somewhat tired and rushing to get on with our day. I have to head out of town till Friday so she says she will call Friday night. Which she does. We set up a date for Sunday evening. Get an unexpected call from her in the wee hours Sunday morning. We have a great talk, flirty on the phone, joking, having fun. Sunday night I go pick her up and she is acting lukewarm towards me to say the least. A little hug and a "good to see you" but thats about it. Grab something to eat but the conversation isn't there. Go to a movie, but no hand holding like the first date, nothing. Drop her off, she hugs me, a kiss on the neck and thats it. No future plans made. Also body language was odd, not sitting close, legs crossed away, little eye contact.... Now she did say she was really tired on Sunday, which I can understand since she had worked all day and had called me in the early AM the night before. But still, I figured if you were that into someone being tired wouldn't cause you to act indifferent towards them...especially after the first night. Now I wasn't expecting that we would just have at each other as soon as we got together again but it seems like she took a HUGE step back out of the blue. Is she having second thoughts? I can't seem to think of doing or saying anything that would put her off and she was VERY convincing about her interest in me the first time we went out. But I just picked right up on this vibe as soon as I saw her last night. Confused....
shockandawed Posted June 10, 2008 Posted June 10, 2008 Hey V, Sadly, I have been in the same situation a few times on both sides of that fence. Last September I met a girl, we talked and talked and had a wonderful first date. I ended at her house, we drank some wine, made out like crazy, like you, spent the night but we agreed to not do anything other than spoon all night. Talked several times a day for several days after, went out, again, wonderful date, talked several times again, went out third time and it was like we were strangers. She was cold and distant. Nothing bad had happened but I never heard from her again after that night. On the other side, I have met a few girls who I was ecstatic about on the first date...but as I got to know them on subequent dates, the chemistry just left...never understand it and I hate being like that, but it happens. As hard as it is, I would wait a few days and see if she contacts you. She could have been run down or she could be losing interest. Only time will tell, but if her interests is waning, I can assure you, coming off clingy will only push her farther away.
Miss Right Posted June 10, 2008 Posted June 10, 2008 Tough call...give it another shot...if she's still seems distant and indifferent...leave it alone. But always give it a 2nd try...you never know..there could be alot of external things going on that has nothing to do with you...like her being ridiculoulsy tired.
Author v33 Posted June 10, 2008 Author Posted June 10, 2008 Thanks for the replies. I am not going to sweat it. I'd certainly like to give it one more chance but I will wait for her call. Not going to push someone who isn't interested.
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