HeartOnSleeve Posted June 9, 2008 Posted June 9, 2008 I want to be with my ex and I think he wants to be with me, so why the NC! We have talked maybe 3 times since we "broke up" a month and half ago and finally just saw each other for breakfast on Sat. He looked amazing, we talked for and hour and half about everything but us....OF COURSE! So I sent him an email saying it was great having breakfast and hearing about his life etc. and this was his reply (ususally he doesn't reply to my emails): "Hi, I hope that you had a great weekend as well as a fun mud run. I really enjoyed breakfast and am really happy to hear that everything is going so well for you. I do want to grab a drink, wine, or such, and miss hanging out with you as well. Have a great night!" Should I be hopeful that he just needs his space and that one day things will put US back on track. I'm confused as to what he wants me to do. When we left breakfast I said "am I ever going to see you again" and he said "yes, it's your call" WTF does that mean. Then I have our mutal friend telling me that he "like to be the one doing the chasing". So do I respond to this email and set up drinks or do I stay strong and wait for him to do so? It would give him the thrill of the chase. Anyone else have experiance with this kind of situation?
loomis Posted June 9, 2008 Posted June 9, 2008 First of all who did the break up? second of all how long have you guys been broken up for? I think he's totally coming around, I mean It depends of who did the break up though. If it was you then by all means its your call to do all the "work" and by that I mean trying to show him you love him again and that you would like to start things up again but slowly. If it was him that broke up with you then I would wait for him. I'm kind of in the same situation my ex dumped me and she's kind of trying to be friends but not at the same time so she can do what she wants now. I'm just doing my thing though I'm not going to stop my life and wait for my ex even if she does decide to come back. I mean she knows where to get ahold of me if she does ya know? So like I said I don't know your situation all the way but from the sounds of it, it looks good to me anyway. I donno others on here are pro lol. I don't know all that much
Author HeartOnSleeve Posted June 9, 2008 Author Posted June 9, 2008 Well....I wouldn't even say we broke up really...sounds weird I know. I left he didn't follow and he was stressed with things in his life. So it's been a weird month of some what NC etc. How long has it been for you? Would you take your ex back? I struggle with if we do get back together how things would really be and if they would change. Another huge reason we had issues was becuase of his friends. They didn't like the idea of him not being there "wingman" and that HE WANTED to hang out with me more often. I had to beg him to go out with his friends have boys time. His friends didn't know that I was on their side, herefore they disliked me and stressed him out as well. So if I go back with him one day then I am going back to them as well ...LOL. Good point on living life the way you want to and not relying on the ex coming back. I am keeping busy and doing my own thing, but it's still hard since he and I had made so many plans together and now I am doing them alone. Oh well. Life goes on and everything happens for a reason.
loomis Posted June 10, 2008 Posted June 10, 2008 I see what ya mean. So it was kinda just "oh well things are over" kinda thing and both just sorta understood? I agree with you on the whole getting back together what would it be like? Im the same way, I just don't know if I could do it if she came back because I know she's totally different person now. Going to parties and meeting new people, which is what she should be doing, I just don't think it would be a good Idea if she did come back. The whole friend thing I can see. It was like half and half with my ex and me. At first it was all my friends that wanted me to come and hang out and she wanted to time together, then it switched like seriously half way through to her friends always wanting her to come hang out an I wanted the time together. I wasn't I scared boyfriend I know she would never have cheated on me or any other guy she dates she won't I know that for a fact. So i was never worried when she had girl night, or if she was invited to something I couldn't go to. She thought I had no friends though. That bothered me because I do and she was frustrated cause she thought I never hung out with them. I did though she was just too caught up in her own selfishness to realize that I had friends. Anytime I wanted with her was annoying to her, so there really was nothing I could do. It was like I'm damned if I do, damned if I don't ya know? lol Its been about a month since we broke up. At first I was torn, and just, life sucked as you know. I had a huge awakening though and that was basically to just do what I've always wanted to do. I can do It now, I'm moving to California to go to school. Its been a dream of mine and yet she never stood in my way, she always told me to go out and do I wanted, I didn't want to though because I loved her and I didn't want to leave her. Now though there's nothing in MY head thats telling me not to go. Its an amazing feeling. I love it. you'll get there too, really NC is the best. I can tell it's really pissing her off just because she's trying to do the same thing but its not working. sorry I went on for days. but yeah I hope some of that helps. follow your dreams now, you have no one in the way. Live life to the fullest. It'll be fun
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