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[kiddenvy]

I want to make this short and sweet and really to the point.

The girl i have been dating for a year and a half dumped me right before she was leaving on a 3 month long internship. Like a everytone else i had a panic attack and for the one week beofre she left i cried and begged for her to forgive me and to take me back. Well she didnt and she left. About 3 days later while talking to each other we decided this isnt what we wanted so we got back together. I went and saw her and things where on cloud 9 all weekend. Things lasted about 2 more weeks after i got home. Then around midlnight i got a phone call telling me that she felt guilty becasue someone asked her out and she wanted to say yes. Needless to say it was off again. I talked to her brother and he told me that they had hung out twice and she enjoyed being around him. I blame myslef for alot of this because everytime she called i was negative and badgered her about getting back together with me. Friday we got into a huge fight and i said a bunch of things i didnt want to say. We agreed to go a week with no communication. I think its important for those of you who are reading this to know that she says all things aside she loves me and that she just does not have the energy for a relationship right now. I want to wash my hands with this but i cant begin to tell you what she means to me. She has to come back in 3 months and we live in the same apartment complex so ill be seeing her again. But for now whats your opinion? NC? only talk to her when she calls or just move on? I wish it was easy as saying we are still in love and i messed up, but i dont know the significance of her hanging out with someone new already. Do i be threatned by him or is he just someone for her to talk to that makes her happy? I know that noone has the magic answer but maybe someone has gone threw this before and can give me some insight? Thanks

[Sarita12385]

IMO, I wouldn't touch this with a 10 foot stick. You're setting yourself up for more heartache. She moved on in her mind, obviously, if she told you she wanted to say "yes" to the date offered by another man. Why hang yourself up about her? I understand the time frame you've been with her but I would stick with the NC and try moving on yourself.

 

Best of luck dear

[freedom8]

I have been through something similar and when they start hanging with another dude and enjoying his company, the signs are never too good. At the moment her thoughts are on her life and this guy is just an addition that is not giving her heartache atm. You are on the other hand because she has feelings for you. This other guy might be a distraction but as you said, she felt guilty that she wanted to say yes. In this case I think you have done what you can, you have let her know you want a second chance and it is up to her to make that decision in time. It is never good if this situation turns sour as you will be seeing her again. Maybe let her know one last time and then NC. From there try not to expect or hope too much and move on with your own life.