I really need to get out of limbo! It’s like water torture!

[PhoenixFromTheFlames]

So, we are finally back in contact. He made the first move, and I have so far just been responding. This is what happened when we met up (at the bottom). http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t154336/

 

I stupidly thought that maybe it meant something, but in the days since, I’ve become increasingly depressed because nothing has changed. I have had two text messages saying not a lot, and one email also saying nothing (random pointless contact about nothing?). For now, all I wanted to do was let him know that the door was open for communication again. I responded to his messages, but have not initiated anything. I responded to what he said, but didn’t try to make a conversation. I thought I was playing it cool. Maybe I should have made an effort beyond just responding? I want him back, but for the right reasons, not guilt or pity.

 

I’m not actively waiting by the phone or anything, but I’m not actively moving on either. NFC is worse than NC! It’s like Chinese water torture, your brain wants to find a pattern, and drives itself crazy looking for what’s not there!

 

Who should make the next move? Should I contact him with something friendly but pointless too, or wait it out? If I wait and he does contact me again, should I make more effort?

 

p.s. I still don’t know what is going on with this other girl. We’ve not talked properly yet, but he said he wanted to. Again, he’s not mentioned that since. I really think that any heavy conversation should come from him as he’s the one who dumped me?

 

I’m willing to continue contact for a while, until I can work out where it’s going. I really want a second chance.

[foxh1234]

So, we are finally back in contact. He made the first move, and I have so far just been responding. This is what happened when we met up (at the bottom). http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t154336/

 

I stupidly thought that maybe it meant something, but in the days since, I’ve become increasingly depressed because nothing has changed. I have had two text messages saying not a lot, and one email also saying nothing (random pointless contact about nothing?). For now, all I wanted to do was let him know that the door was open for communication again. I responded to his messages, but have not initiated anything. I responded to what he said, but didn’t try to make a conversation. I thought I was playing it cool. Maybe I should have made an effort beyond just responding? I want him back, but for the right reasons, not guilt or pity.

 

I’m not actively waiting by the phone or anything, but I’m not actively moving on either. NFC is worse than NC! It’s like Chinese water torture, your brain wants to find a pattern, and drives itself crazy looking for what’s not there!

 

Who should make the next move? Should I contact him with something friendly but pointless too, or wait it out? If I wait and he does contact me again, should I make more effort?

 

p.s. I still don’t know what is going on with this other girl. We’ve not talked properly yet, but he said he wanted to. Again, he’s not mentioned that since. I really think that any heavy conversation should come from him as he’s the one who dumped me?

 

I’m willing to continue contact for a while, until I can work out where it’s going. I really want a second chance.

 

I tried contact for the first month in hopes of her coming to her senses and running back into my arms. It didn't happen and sad to say, seldom does. In my humble opinion, the only way to get out of limbo is to go total NC. Give yourself a chance to get feeling better and give him a chance to miss you. he will not know what he is missing if you are always available for him. It will be hard, but try it and see if you don't feel better. Your best chance for a second chance is No Contact for awhile.

[PhoenixFromTheFlames]

We were no contact for 2 months. How will we get back together if I ignore him now?

[celinedion1]

I tried contact for the first month in hopes of her coming to her senses and running back into my arms. It didn't happen and sad to say, seldom does. In my humble opinion, the only way to get out of limbo is to go total NC. Give yourself a chance to get feeling better and give him a chance to miss you. he will not know what he is missing if you are always available for him. It will be hard, but try it and see if you don't feel better. Your best chance for a second chance is No Contact for awhile.

 

 

I'm doing the No Contact with my ex bf. It's working out wonderfuly, i'm finding out who I am again and am learning to be happy for myself. I was also surprsied that I don't want to talk to him, well not that surprised since he cheated on me and I think he's heartless and cold but still. LOL I'm finding that the No Contact is great, you get to feel better about yourself and the whole situation. Well I feel better that I'm no longer with him. But yeah give yourself some time for you. Go out and do things to keep your mind busy and have fun. I know that it may seem hard now but it does get easier.