purplepoodle Posted June 9, 2008 Posted June 9, 2008 He's still texting me every few days and I've lost all strength to resist and have been responding. I feel like sh*t about myself after every time I talk to him and don't know why I keep doing it or why he keeps texting. He's moved on!! I know this is not helping me heal at all and it's been 3 months, so I should almost be over it by now. Anyone have any insight on any of this? Why do I keep doing something that I know is so bad for me and why does he keep initiating it when he's already well into his new life?
carrotgirl Posted June 9, 2008 Posted June 9, 2008 purplepoodle, he does it because he gets something out of it. Why you do it is another matter. What about changing your phone number? Carrot
Author purplepoodle Posted June 9, 2008 Author Posted June 9, 2008 I can't change my # because I use it for work as well. I already checked and I can't block #s. I don't know what he could possibly get out of it. I hadn't heard from him in 2 months before he texted me the first time and I was starting to get stronger
carrotgirl Posted June 9, 2008 Posted June 9, 2008 What about getting a second number for a little while and forwarding your work calls to that number? Text messages don't forward. Carrot
Author purplepoodle Posted June 9, 2008 Author Posted June 9, 2008 That's a good idea. I just have to figure out how to explain it to my employer. I guess I'm naive because I don't play games with people so I don't get it. Maybe if I understood the game, I'd be better equipped for it.
borelandkaren Posted June 9, 2008 Posted June 9, 2008 That's a good idea. I just have to figure out how to explain it to my employer. I guess I'm naive because I don't play games with people so I don't get it. Maybe if I understood the game, I'd be better equipped for it. Explain exactly what's going on to your employer. Be concise and unemotional. This will show he/she your strength of character and commitment and will show that you are the person that was chosen for your job. If you're adult about every situation in your life, people respect this and reasons you give them.
carrotgirl Posted June 9, 2008 Posted June 9, 2008 We'll handle 'em as they come! Right? Likely your employer probably won't care so long as you're still answering your calls and there's not extra cost incurred to your company. Most of the people I work with have several communication devices and forward from one to the other, including office calls. It's not a big deal at all. If you take the high road, as I'm sure you probably do, there's this option - there's no game. Your ex gets something positive out of communicating with you. That's not so hard to believe is it? It doesn't matter that he's moved on. He gets something positive for himself out of it. Nothing more. You don't feel like the communication is good for you and that's ALL that matters. Your well being. So let's fix the phone issue since the texts are wearing you out! Carrot
carrotgirl Posted June 9, 2008 Posted June 9, 2008 Explain exactly what's going on to your employer. Be concise and unemotional. This will show he/she your strength of character and commitment and will show that you are the person that was chosen for your job. If you're adult about every situation in your life, people respect this and reasons you give them. While KGB might have personal experience that says this is okay, it's not true in all situations. In my business this sort of disclosure would be unwise. You should consider if it's really required to give any details about your personal life, even calmly and dispassionately, before disclosing. Carrot
borelandkaren Posted June 9, 2008 Posted June 9, 2008 While KGB might have personal experience that says this is okay, it's not true in all situations. In my business this sort of disclosure would be unwise. You should consider if it's really required to give any details about your personal life, even calmly and dispassionately, before disclosing. Carrot Fair call. Every situation has to be dealt with on its' merits. I work in the building industry where u have to deal with things as upfront as u can.
carrotgirl Posted June 9, 2008 Posted June 9, 2008 Fair call. Every situation has to be dealt with on its' merits. I work in the building industry where u have to deal with things as upfront as u can. K, up front sounds delightful. I'm ready for a heaping helping at my office. purplepoodle, you decide what perception you think will be best for you with your employer and follow your own best instincts. It will all be fine. Carrot
Author purplepoodle Posted June 9, 2008 Author Posted June 9, 2008 I wish I knew. I worl with mostly men, so I'm not sure if they will quite get it
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