GuttedEnglishBloke Posted June 8, 2008 Posted June 8, 2008 Just saw that she's finally got a facebook profile. There are pictures of her kissing her new B/F. I was doing fine and now I'm completely desparate. I don't know how I'm going to get through the day.
borelandkaren Posted June 8, 2008 Posted June 8, 2008 Just saw that she's finally got a facebook profile. There are pictures of her kissing her new B/F. I was doing fine and now I'm completely desparate. I don't know how I'm going to get through the day. What are you looking for??? U need to start to move on. Stop looking at her facebook, it will do no good, as you now know. Oh mate! Are you OK??
Author GuttedEnglishBloke Posted June 8, 2008 Author Posted June 8, 2008 I don't know why I did it. She looks stunning in her pictures. I loved her so much. I can't believe I let her slip away... I'm not ok. I've been fine, but I'm really low today.
borelandkaren Posted June 8, 2008 Posted June 8, 2008 I don't know why I did it. She looks stunning in her pictures. I loved her so much. I can't believe I let her slip away... I'm not ok. I've been fine, but I'm really low today. OK. I don't know what time of day it is there. I'm assuming it's Sunday and early in the morning??? If so, start making some plans. First plan is to get away from your computer, if you feel like you can't stop looking...Let me know and we can plan what you're gonna do for the day so you don't sit around obsessing. Positive action at this point is the only way to pull yourself out of this.....
wareagle Posted June 8, 2008 Posted June 8, 2008 Hey it's ok buddy! I did the same thing awhile back and it gutted me to! I was a sobbing mess when I seen her and her new flame, and she looked amazing as well!! It will pass I know this for a fact, BUT YOU HAVE TO STOP LOOKING!!! Trust me on that! I don't know anything about facebook, but if you can block her account, or just delete facebook all together you will be able to block those urges of looking!!! DON"T DO IT NO MATTER WHAT!!!!!!!!!!!!
0hpenelope Posted June 8, 2008 Posted June 8, 2008 Facebook is the worst impediment to healing. So is MySpace. And instant messaging programs. Just keep away. you've seen that it doesn't do you any good. Don't put yourself thru any unnecessary pain anymore.
Author GuttedEnglishBloke Posted June 8, 2008 Author Posted June 8, 2008 I was doing really well too. Last week was the best I've felt ever since we split. I thought "I can do this". Learning she's moved in with this guy has put me back to square one almost. How can someone know a person for two weeks and then move in with them? She loved me 7 weeks ago. Am not looking forward to going to sleep tonight. The dreams were killing me anyway, but now it's going to be hell.
mousse Posted June 8, 2008 Posted June 8, 2008 I would also add that you shouldn't rely on what you see on facebook and that's another reason not to view her profile. People select pictures where they look their best and are happy on this website but it doesn't mean their lives are as amazing as they seem. You can be really manipulated by that website because it makes you believe things that are not necessarily true.
vivrantflo Posted June 8, 2008 Posted June 8, 2008 I would also add that you shouldn't rely on what you see on facebook and that's another reason not to view her profile. People select pictures where they look their best and are happy on this website but it doesn't mean their lives are as amazing as they seem. You can be really manipulated by that website because it makes you believe things that are not necessarily true. Couldnt have said it better myself...
foxh1234 Posted June 8, 2008 Posted June 8, 2008 I use Facebook all the time and all I did was delete my ex as a friend and also all her friends. Now I can go on and not see anything associated with my ex. easy as that, problem solved.
teejsd2008 Posted June 10, 2008 Posted June 10, 2008 Couldnt have said it better myself... I agree with this as well, and I'm guilty of social networking propaganda on myspace/facebook. I would create a facade of me partying with the boys, flirting/dancing with girls, but each photo and line was carefully chosen to mess with my ex and she would do the same, it's psychological warfare, and it's a really stupid, bitter, and empty game of one-ups-manship. I talked to an older ex-gf about this very topic 2 years after the breakup and she admitted a lot of her photos and blogs were sugur coated and fake, and in reality she was clinically depressed for 8 months, but her online life made it look like she living it up (partying, kissing guys, etc...). The best thing you can do is avoid those things, if it's too tempting block her facebook & myspace, if she has a blog tell a buddy to put parental password protection on your computer for that site. Your not ready to look at that stuff, it's going to dellusion you and keep bringing you down. Getting over a breakup takes time and is an up and down process. You can and will make it, all of us are going through it and comming out on top again. The pain does suck, but it's necessary and makes us human, so embrace it and let it take its course, but don't keeping picking at your scab by looking at those things.
Author GuttedEnglishBloke Posted June 10, 2008 Author Posted June 10, 2008 Well she's only recently created it, so we're not actually linked as friends yet. That being the case, all I need to do is resist the temptation to look her up. I haven't done for two days now, and given how much I hurt over the weekend, I suspect I never will again. Technology has a lot to answer for. EMails, text messaging, networking sites. All evil when it comes to breaking up.
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