pickingupthepieces Posted June 8, 2008 Posted June 8, 2008 Ok first of all I don't know if posting this in "coping" is the right place... I couldn't choose. I just need some support right now really ....I can feel this obsessive urge coming on (maybe it's already here) and need to keep my head on straight.I've been through the whole obsessive thing before.. and ouch! So I have been talking to my ex for the past while. He STILL has some of my stuff that I have been hounding him for for the past month now. I told him that I needed my stuff, most importantly my birth certificate. So after two weeks he finally gets around to getting it to me. I tried everything to make it as easy as possible to get it all to me, when I first contacted him because I just wanted my stuff and hadn't talked to him in quite a while and didn't really know where we stood. I think I already posted about how he ended up coming to my work when he didn't end up showing up on the Sat. So he finally brought me my birthcertificate and thats it.. he still has three boxes of my stuff! He said he needed to borrow the truck and he would bring it in later. I don't remember leaving anythig except this paperwork behind so I am kind or curious. So anyways I called him about a week of not talking to him and mentioned my stuff. I need my daughters bc now, to register her for school so that is kind of important now..it would of helped if he woudl of brought everything at once. He said he would do it this Sat... So this whole time we have exchanged I love yous to eachother.. and he has showed up at my work since then... drunk and he kept wanting to have these heart to hearts... plus alot of "I've changed", "I've never felt this way about anyone before.." (which we felt when we were together) " I don't know what to do now"... I have no idea why he said any of this.... he's the one who broke up with me... I never gave him the idea that I wanted to get back together with him, so I find it wierd. Anyways... the last time he was here he insisted on taking me for breakfast and it was nice! (This was Thursday morning) So today is Sat and he didn't call again.. and was a no show. I know it will sould like I am making excuses but he has been this way the whole time I have known him, not just with me but everyone. I don't know how I feel right now, if I would ever consider a second chance. I just don't want to look desperate, sad or hopeless... or weak either. I called today, because he was supposed to bring me my stuff.. I called 4 times (throughout thhe day)and left a message. Was that too much? I feel like I was getting back to my obsessive ways again... he WAS supposed to bring me my stuff today though so it wasn't like I was trying to just track him down. He never answered. I called him from work.. 3times (which I think is where the obsessive part comes in). Why not call though, or answer my calls? I hate this WHY game! So now I don't know what the next move is. I need my daughters bc, soon!... and have had to fight for 2-3 weeks just to get mine (seriously...why not bring me all my stuff). I don't want to make an ass of myself.... One of the times I called I left a message and said (in a nice tone) that I just needed her bc and I could pick up my stuff later from his parents with my friends truck, which I mentioned before. Like I said before, I have tried to make it as easy as possible! I offered to pick up the stuff myself from his parents that HATE me (this would not go over well at all!).. but he was clear that he wanted to bring me my stuff. I just don't get it at all what should I do?
borelandkaren Posted June 8, 2008 Posted June 8, 2008 He's playing games!! Go and pick up your stuff yourself and tell him to back off. No more I love you's. No contact till he pulls his **** together. Either that or get pulled back into all of the crap. Is this what you want?
Author pickingupthepieces Posted June 9, 2008 Author Posted June 9, 2008 Ok So I caved... I called and called a thousand times when his phone was off... LOL I don't know WHY I would call and call when his phone was OFF but I did! He won't know I called until his phone is on.. I ALSO left a couple of messages on his phone at work.. becuase he has to check his VM there, he doesn't deal with his one at home. It has been full for MONTHS! Anyways... I decided that I am going to go to his work tomorrow and tell him I need my stuff by Friday or I'll get escorted out there by the police (recommended by my friends). His parents are nuts... they are the ones who have my stuff and if I show up they will probably call the cops for trespassing or something!! They HATE me.. but its time to get this OVER with.. I didn't sign up for months more of drama! I just don't know what to say to him when I see him.. I mean its kind of like stalking...well maybe it is, I j ust don't know how else to get ahold of him.. he's the king of avoidance
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