jigga23 Posted June 8, 2008 Posted June 8, 2008 So to make this as short as possible me and this girl ive been dating for about a month or so got into some problems over the last couple days. Last night was the tipping point. Basically she thought i went through her phone she asked me I said no and gave her an explanation. She got so mad at that for some reason. we were at the bars then and she kept on saying i was giving off a bad vibe to her. I only was trying to let her do her thing and kind of ignoring her cause i knew she was irratated. By the end of the night she was yelling at me but i was calm towards her. She told me earlier in the night that she was planning not to sleep over and would be gone for 3 days chilling with her friends which was fine with me. When she was yelling i was like dont leave it like this. stupid stuff was said i just pecked her real fast on the cheek and walked off. she sent me a text later and said "we had an off night, eveyrthing is fine between us tho drive safe blah albha ill talk to you tomorrow." i replied with OK. I wake up this morning and wait till about noon cause i know if she wants to talk about it shell call before that probalby. so i called her and she answered immediatley. I asked her if shes still irratated and she said yes because of me giving an explanation about not going through her phone. i kept tellin her its not big deal who cares and your making out to be bigger than it really is. she then said things are getting to complicated. I said well what are you goin to do about it then. she replied and said nothing us not seeing each other for a couple of days will be good etc. on tuesday things should be fine. i said ok. talked to her a little more and she said i gotta let you go ill talk to you later and i said fine. the whole convo i was calm and collected probalby using a little too much logic but i was always upbeat. she hasnt texted or called me since that earlier today. I wanna text her and ask her if shes fine now but that wont work. but i also wanna tell her shes ****ing irrational and to go **** herself for making something small into something big, lol. she did say we are goin to hang out on tuesday so i guess ill wait till tuesday night and see what happpens. **** she is being selfish as **** right now. shell call me right just as long as i dont initiate anymore contact i think, right?. what should our convo be when we talk again?
ibitealil Posted June 8, 2008 Posted June 8, 2008 If you really like her and wanna see her again call her and explain everything what happened and what you did and apologize if you have to...or if its not your fault tell her that as well and tell her that there is no need to be so angry....what irritates her the most is not the fact that you went through her phone but the fact that you are being so ignorant about it. I would be mad too if a guy im dating for only a month goes through my personal stuff and then acting like ok whatever...Give her some wise manly moves that ll shut her up.
Author jigga23 Posted June 8, 2008 Author Posted June 8, 2008 I already tried talking to her I said sorry about whatever and she just said she cant help but be irratated. whatever this girl needs me and my friends considering she doesnt have much in that way plus she knows im the best shell get. if she doesnt call again, which i know she will then screw her.
Touche Posted June 8, 2008 Posted June 8, 2008 I already tried talking to her I said sorry about whatever and she just said she cant help but be irratated. whatever this girl needs me and my friends considering she doesnt have much in that way plus she knows im the best shell get. if she doesnt call again, which i know she will then screw her. Wow, nice attitude. No wonder she's dumping you.
carhill Posted June 8, 2008 Posted June 8, 2008 Just typical hurt male language. He'll also say that she'll always come back to him. What I'm reading here is a vent, rather than request for relationship advice. Time to move on and find more females who will always return.
Touche Posted June 8, 2008 Posted June 8, 2008 Just typical hurt male language. He'll also say that she'll always come back to him. What I'm reading here is a vent, rather than request for relationship advice. Time to move on and find more females who will always return. I don't agree that it's typical. Typical of an immature boy with a large ego perhaps.
carhill Posted June 8, 2008 Posted June 8, 2008 Just telling you what I've heard from my male friends in the past, shared amongst other males. I've even uttered a few of those phrases myself. It's called venting. Being "mature" every moment of one's life is an unrealistic expectation IMO.
Touche Posted June 8, 2008 Posted June 8, 2008 Just telling you what I've heard from my male friends in the past, shared amongst other males. I've even uttered a few of those phrases myself. It's called venting. Being "mature" every moment of one's life is an unrealistic expectation IMO. I agree with the last part. I just think that this is just a lilttle over the top. I've never heard a guy talk about any of his exes like that personally. Anyway, to get back on topic...sounds to me like she's letting him go.
Author jigga23 Posted June 8, 2008 Author Posted June 8, 2008 well she said everything will be fine on tuesday and we need this time to miss each other and hopefully things will be good. its not like im not going to talk to her ever again. she has a bunch of my stuff already. WHen i see her im just goin to say well if you are wanting to talk about how we can make our thing go further then stay if not then i dont want to hear anything. i got attached to this girl a tiny bit, but nothing serious. ive been in LTR's before but its been a while since the last girl. I sound egotistical but i know im better and ive seen who shes been with. Im more educated than her, have more things going etc. I not saying this to make myself seem better its just the facts. But i do like her cause shes different but im not goin to get hurt and think shes better than me cause i know my value, who ive had in the past and i know i treat her well.
missdeathwish Posted June 8, 2008 Posted June 8, 2008 well she said everything will be fine on tuesday and we need this time to miss each other and hopefully things will be good. its not like im not going to talk to her ever again. she has a bunch of my stuff already. WHen i see her im just goin to say well if you are wanting to talk about how we can make our thing go further then stay if not then i dont want to hear anything. i got attached to this girl a tiny bit, but nothing serious. ive been in LTR's before but its been a while since the last girl. I sound egotistical but i know im better and ive seen who shes been with. Im more educated than her, have more things going etc. I not saying this to make myself seem better its just the facts. But i do like her cause shes different but im not goin to get hurt and think shes better than me cause i know my value, who ive had in the past and i know i treat her well. Frankly I think she's better off without you and you're better off without her. From what I can tell, you don't have much respect for her. Going through her private things shows a lack of respect, but it's the kind of thing that you might let slide if someone apologized. (Some people honestly have different ideas of what is private and what isn't.) But instead of apologizing, you essentially told her that it wasn't important and that her feelings didn't matter. Can you see why she'd be upset? Plus you think you're better than her. That alone would be reason for any self-respecting girl to say ciao. I hope you can find a girl who dotes on you and shares your lower sense of privacy. You both will be a lot happier.
carhill Posted June 8, 2008 Posted June 8, 2008 As a signpost, everyone brings strengths and weaknesses to relationships. The key is compatibility where interdependence augments/supplants weaknesses and strengths. IOW, it's not the specifics, rather the right mix of characteristics. I will opine in order to experience joy, one must experience pain. The value and the beauty is in the difference. Caring and investing oneself is integral to the experience. Care not, feel not, experience not. Eminently safe, but vacuous. Good luck!
ibitealil Posted June 8, 2008 Posted June 8, 2008 well she said everything will be fine on tuesday and we need this time to miss each other and hopefully things will be good. its not like im not going to talk to her ever again. she has a bunch of my stuff already. WHen i see her im just goin to say well if you are wanting to talk about how we can make our thing go further then stay if not then i dont want to hear anything. i got attached to this girl a tiny bit, but nothing serious. ive been in LTR's before but its been a while since the last girl. Obviously you think that you can do better than that without us reminding you...so no point of this thread anymore...if you think you are way to good for her then it ll never work between you too in the future even if you work on this particular incident. So, Good luck!
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