kizik Posted June 8, 2008 Posted June 8, 2008 I have my ex's email password. I could easily log in and find out all sorts of things, such as if she misses me, how she feels about me. Tell me not to do this.
Trialbyfire Posted June 8, 2008 Posted June 8, 2008 Don't do it! You'll only be setting yourself back.
Lizzie60 Posted June 8, 2008 Posted June 8, 2008 I have my ex's email password. I could easily log in and find out all sorts of things, such as if she misses me, how she feels about me. Tell me not to do this. WOW.. she's your EX... so you need to move on.. I can't understand people who crave pain like that.. why would you want to find things that can hurt you.. really!!!! DON'T DO IT!!!!!
Author kizik Posted June 8, 2008 Author Posted June 8, 2008 Thanks, I know, I can see it KILLING me. But I'm so curious, and we haven't talked in 3 weeks...
Lizzie60 Posted June 8, 2008 Posted June 8, 2008 Thanks, I know, I can see it KILLING me. But I'm so curious, and we haven't talked in 3 weeks... OK then if it's killing you.. go... don't come back saying you've found stuff that hurt you..
jerbear Posted June 8, 2008 Posted June 8, 2008 Nope dont do it! Really don't. Not a good idea. Please stop and don't do it!
carrotgirl Posted June 8, 2008 Posted June 8, 2008 kizik, Yah. Don't do it. It's just not worth it. Plus, it's all traceable. Depending on who her account is with, she might just get some nice notices letting her know when and from where her account was accessed. If you need to know that badly, call her. Talk to her. Carrot
Author kizik Posted June 8, 2008 Author Posted June 8, 2008 I know. I feel crazy. This is my response to myself: Are you f*cking kidding me? Sure, go ahead and do it- if you want to stab yourself in the f*cking heart and lose your month of progress. Kizik, if you do this, I will never talk to you again. Idiot!
Trialbyfire Posted June 8, 2008 Posted June 8, 2008 You know the old internet standard of "stab out your eyes"? Do it now before you look!
Author kizik Posted June 8, 2008 Author Posted June 8, 2008 Yes. Thanks. I will stab my eyes out. It's not OK, ever, to invade someone's privacy (I tell myself). It's on par with cheating.
HeartOnSleeve Posted June 8, 2008 Posted June 8, 2008 I am with everyone on this one...DON'T DO IT! If I had my ex's I would be in the same situation....do it or don't do it! I know from a friends experiance it's not worth it. Throw it out, tell yourself it's a diffrent PW and try and meet up with a friend to avoid doing it. Good Luck. Hang in there!
Author kizik Posted June 8, 2008 Author Posted June 8, 2008 Plus if I did it and she found out, I'd be the as*hole. Thanks everyone.
sid3 Posted June 8, 2008 Posted June 8, 2008 if you think it may provide you with information that will make it easier to let go, i say only you know that. i dunno Kizik, whatevr makes you feel best is what I suggest you do. BTW, nice avatar, T
Trialbyfire Posted June 8, 2008 Posted June 8, 2008 Way to go kizik! Keep your head on straight. She isn't worth it! Thanks S.
Author kizik Posted June 8, 2008 Author Posted June 8, 2008 Thinking about it, the best news I'd get it that she misses me. And I know she does, even if she denies it in her own mind. You kind of HAVE to miss someone on some level after 3 years of a relationship.
Lizzie60 Posted June 8, 2008 Posted June 8, 2008 Thinking about it, the best news I'd get it that she misses me. And I know she does, even if she denies it in her own mind. You kind of HAVE to miss someone on some level after 3 years of a relationship. Do you seriously think that? OMG... it's 'worst' than I thought.. Not at all.. some people do not miss someone even after 10+ years of a relationship.. You're telling yourself stuff to feel better about your ex.. but you really need a reality check.. just leave her alone.. don't be sooo desperate.. if she finds out, she will only have pity for you..
carrotgirl Posted June 8, 2008 Posted June 8, 2008 kizik, I'd miss you after 3 hours. Let this one go. Carrot
Author kizik Posted June 8, 2008 Author Posted June 8, 2008 I don't think I'm out of line by assuming she misses me. But hey, maybe you're right - maybe it's, "Good Riddance Kizik". Harsh but possibly true words from Lizzie.
Author kizik Posted June 8, 2008 Author Posted June 8, 2008 kizik, I'd miss you after 3 hours. Let this one go. Carrot That felt like a big hug. *kiss*
sid3 Posted June 8, 2008 Posted June 8, 2008 That's true, we often assume somone misses us, because sometimes we miss them. You may not find out she misses you, but rather she has a new bf. Would knowing that help you heal any faster? You may find she changed her password, wouldn't that feel like rejection? I think givin the choice, snoopying would be less of a set back than contacting, but seeing how well your doing(jmho) I would say tread carefully. You are at what is known as the more difficult point in N/C. It's about to be down hill from here, um after another week or so. ur welcome T
Author kizik Posted June 8, 2008 Author Posted June 8, 2008 Good points sid. So you think this is the hardest part? By "it's all downhill from here," does that mean you think it'll get easier? 3 weeks NC. Month and a few days since break-up.
sid3 Posted June 8, 2008 Posted June 8, 2008 yes I do. from my past experience and the many other posters opinions I've seen. The month mark seems to be the turning point where yes, it does become much easier. From what I have read on LS, going on 4 yrs now, the longer you maintain N/c the faster you are able to move on. And not in every sitution, but many times, once the motnh, or two month point comes around, the ex usually comes sniffing around. Not to say that will happen, but from what I have seen, it is often the case. If you contact, I will too.....we can share stories.....hahah.......Ijust include in my text, kizik made me do it lol:D
carrotgirl Posted June 8, 2008 Posted June 8, 2008 That felt like a big hug. *kiss* Yah. I've always been very fond of palindromes. Carrot
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