TheseWounds Posted June 7, 2008 Posted June 7, 2008 Instead of boring you with lots of detail, I rather put everything into a nutshell and perhaps get a little input and thoughts from everyone. I've had a lot of things put into my way in life and my location/area hasn't allowed me to get out and experience dating yet. I'm 22 years old. In the process of the last few years, I've lost 130 lbs; I've gained muscle; I started working out 3-4 times a week; I built my own home studio and I'm a composer/musician, as well as a marketer for a living. I've been told by a few girls that I'm very good-looking, and I actually had a recent compliment that meant a lot to me: that I am -- incredibly -- one of only two guys that were worth actively pursuing as far as relationships go. Once I finally do get myself out of my situation completely (my location), the only thing that I may have to worry about is the 'screening process', or the so-called 'proven' thing. I've never dated, so that really is my only concern with females -- a person who has never dated. I've accomplished more than I've seen a lot of guys accomplish; it has been very tough, but I refused to let myself be defeated by life's obstacles and I decided to 'go big' with myself. I'm well on my way to being absolutely fine -- more well off in a lot of areas than most my age, in fact. If I do so happen to run into someone that may take 22-23 years of singledom into consideration, my heart tells me that they may not be 'the right girl' for me.There are many fish in the sea, so they say. Any thoughts are welcome. Toodles.
xpaperxcutx Posted June 7, 2008 Posted June 7, 2008 So do you actually want to date? I mean it sounds like you have alot of things going for you. You're financially stable and physically attractive. So I'm guessing you're at that stage where things couldn't go any better. For a 23 yr old who's never dated, do you have any reservations as to the women you like? You're still young so there's alot of time for you to enjoy dating and being single. You're not just entitled to one.
sid3 Posted June 7, 2008 Posted June 7, 2008 Yes there are many fish in the sea, as well as whales, sharks, crabs, and sponges. And out of all the fish, it all depends on what you consider a keeper. When you take all of the things into consideration, you see there are not as many fish as we would like to believe.
Author TheseWounds Posted June 7, 2008 Author Posted June 7, 2008 What I meant by this is that I have confidence and that I believe in myself. Of course -- yes, I want to date. I'd like to have a loved one someday -- someone kind, and compassionate. I've been through the times of younger-type girls being just physically/sexually attracted to me, so I'd like to have something more 'special' this time. Something very sincere that will last, because that's what I've been searching for. I've seen quite a bit of people feeling down about lack of relationships and relationship problems in general, so I thought I'd give a bit of a 'boost' to anyone that needed it with what I've accomplished. I've always believed that I was a nice guy that thought he was losing, but I've learned that I'm a winner. And yes, you are right Sid. The thing that's kept me away from dating girls that were interested in me in the past are the whales, sharks, crabs, and sponges that you speak of. With the first post in mind, it's time for me to find that mermaid that can't say no =) I chose to stay away from sexual encounters and petty relationships in order to get further along in life at an earlier age. It's time to 'see what I'm made of', so to say. I've learned that it's better to work on yourself in order to attain a date, a job, and everything else in life that others try to achieve. Basically, BE AWESOME, and awesome people will flock your way. Anything is possible if you put your mind to it and work toward it.
Author TheseWounds Posted June 7, 2008 Author Posted June 7, 2008 And to touch on the one question I had. Sex and relationships were possible many-a-time in the past, but I chose to distance myself a bit and work on myself/beef myself up to where I'm heading in life, and I have to say that I absolutely love where I'm going. I'm making sure of it that I'm well-off in all areas. Financially, physically, emotionally, and mentally. The one question that I have though is something to the amount of, 'how will a female react to me being single for so long?'. It wasn't chosen at first, but once girls started paying attention to me, I said, 'I think I'll keep working on myself and make myself even better'. I'm not that insecure about it or anything, but it's more of me wanting to know how one would react to me telling them, 'hey, I chose to work on myself and become a millionaire before I wanted to start dating'.
Capt. Picard Posted June 8, 2008 Posted June 8, 2008 I'm in the same boat as you, although I hate the direction my life is going. lol I also have never dated, other than one "date" that didn't turn into anything. I've wondered the same thing as you, "I'm 24, never had a girlfriend. Will women be put off by this?" But then, I have rather low self esteem and am really shy, so that hurts me too. Best of luck to you.
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