Nevermind Posted June 7, 2008 Posted June 7, 2008 Finally...I have been feeling better for days. I am far from happy, but I cannot say that I am in dire pain right now. It is a peaceful state of mind. I accept what happened, I am not curious about the open questions I still had, not anymore. The pain is gone. I will have to work to overcome the hurt, the emotional scars that all this has left, but I don't feel like crying. It has been over a week since I shed a tear, I think. I don't even know. I broke contact to him and this made me feel better. Pouring your heart out is not the best way for everybody, but for me it was. I didn't blame him, nor say anything about the affair. I just wrote what was on my heart, in a calm way. Writing it to the forum would not have given me the same closure as sending it did. Just wanted to say to everybody who is hurting: you will get out of the phase of extreme grief. I still have a long way ahead of me, but I made it out of the darkness. And so can you!
borelandkaren Posted June 7, 2008 Posted June 7, 2008 Finally...I have been feeling better for days. I am far from happy, but I cannot say that I am in dire pain right now. It is a peaceful state of mind. I accept what happened, I am not curious about the open questions I still had, not anymore. The pain is gone. I will have to work to overcome the hurt, the emotional scars that all this has left, but I don't feel like crying. It has been over a week since I shed a tear, I think. I don't even know. I broke contact to him and this made me feel better. Pouring your heart out is not the best way for everybody, but for me it was. I didn't blame him, nor say anything about the affair. I just wrote what was on my heart, in a calm way. Writing it to the forum would not have given me the same closure as sending it did. Just wanted to say to everybody who is hurting: you will get out of the phase of extreme grief. I still have a long way ahead of me, but I made it out of the darkness. And so can you! Well done, darlin! You're a brave girl. I'm proud of you.
me1234 Posted June 7, 2008 Posted June 7, 2008 that's great to hear Nevermind. i'm stuck in grief for now, but it's encouraging to hear that there's light at the end of the tunnel. i think the biggest challenge for me is to become accustomed to my new situation. transitioning from having someone around all the time to being alone certainly shook things up, and i'm not used to it yet - at all. but, hearing success stories gives me hope.
taylor3205 Posted June 7, 2008 Posted June 7, 2008 Finally...I have been feeling better for days. I am far from happy, but I cannot say that I am in dire pain right now. It is a peaceful state of mind. I accept what happened, I am not curious about the open questions I still had, not anymore. The pain is gone. I will have to work to overcome the hurt, the emotional scars that all this has left, but I don't feel like crying. It has been over a week since I shed a tear, I think. I don't even know. I broke contact to him and this made me feel better. Pouring your heart out is not the best way for everybody, but for me it was. I didn't blame him, nor say anything about the affair. I just wrote what was on my heart, in a calm way. Writing it to the forum would not have given me the same closure as sending it did. Just wanted to say to everybody who is hurting: you will get out of the phase of extreme grief. I still have a long way ahead of me, but I made it out of the darkness. And so can you! Great to hear NM. I too am at that stage. It is better than it once was, still a long way to go though.
freedom8 Posted June 9, 2008 Posted June 9, 2008 There will always be hope, maybe not with that certain individual but with others. We get blinded a lot of the time when emotions flutter but as you say Nevermind, the darkness is passing and soon things will be bright. I think sometimes we should be thankful to be able to feel for things but recently it has been kind of sucking. Keep your heads up.
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