porter218 Posted June 30, 2008 Posted June 30, 2008 My friend had a chat with her on IM. The next thing my friend got was an email from him cc: the W. Admiting to everything........ It is possible that was just a ploy. He can easily make sure the wife never got it.
jpearl Posted July 19, 2008 Posted July 19, 2008 If someone cheats once & is found out & the BS keeps the H, it could be for various reasons.....financial, the security, the house, the status, etc. I think it depends on what kind of affair it was....one night stand, brief or long term. I have never understood why anyone would want to "keep" someone who has betrayed the very foundation a marriage is built on & that is trust. For it to happen a 2nd time & if the H is still kept, then you can be sure it's for financial reasons. I would feel sorry for the BS in that she would even want to keep someone who would do such a thing, but money makes people do strange things. I think it shows a weakness in character for both spouses. I mean, really, what kind of marriage do they have or could they have, knowing what the BS did, not once but twice? It boggles my mind. The H deserves to be left by both the BS & the OW. Let him see what if feels like. Let him know what it's like to suffer. Look at what he has done to 2 people. It's very easy to always place blame on the OW, but a cheating spouse can be very convincing & we're not all as strong as we should be. We should all be able to see the handwriting on the wall, but we don't. Good luck..............
cherrymoon Posted July 23, 2008 Posted July 23, 2008 Confuse, Firstly under no circumstances here or anywhere else are you alllowed to discuss his W in a negative manner as actually he is the cheat. Have I read this right ? you had the affair with him? sorry if not and it was your friend. If it was you you have disrespected this woman enough without saying anything negative. whether or which, she deserves some form of respect from you. She took him back because she wanted to that simple. He stayed because he is a selfish egotistical, man who was actaully only looking for the boost to his ego and the sex. You/your friend listened to his nonsense about how awful she is and low and behold you fell for it. I had an affair, I was his second affair. I neither hate him or care about him he ran back to his wife and saved his ass and I lost my marriage. Big F off Fool me! Do I resent him, a little because he had done it before and saw first time around the pain he had caused his family and the first womans husband and kids and her (she attempted suicide). He saw what happened to me and still tries to chase me. I wouldn't spit on him if he was on fire now. I neither hate or care for him. it is like a vaccumm a void i feel nothing, not even enough to help him if he was stuck. I would help anyone, I think I would see it like an imaginary image not real and I would walk past. You are angry that you got rejected. Sorry Husbands rarely ever leave their wives for other women and when they do they regret it and never stop loving them. Stop with the anger, let it go move on and find a single guy to love.
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