DEEJAY_NOZ Posted June 6, 2008 Posted June 6, 2008 Hey every one . I'm new to this. And i had to ask the ladies a question thats been really bothering me.. Yesterday i had planned to go and watch the laker game and my girlfriend knows im a very big basketball fan. i apologized to her about not spending the day with her. she told me that shes been feeling very lonely lately. it made me feel bad but i still went to the laker game. i no it was wrong of what i did but i tried calling her a dozen times to make sure she was ok and if she needed n e thing. so i called and called and called and she didnt answer 1 of my calls. it got me sorta worried but i assumed that she was sleeping cause she had worked. this morning when i called her all she said is i dont want to talk to u and i want to be alone. it scares me and makes me feel bad to the point where i get emotional. i love her so much and i would love to ask her to be my wife one day but how do i show her that i do care and how do i make her feel comfortable with out making her feel lonely?
sally4sara Posted June 6, 2008 Posted June 6, 2008 It sounds to me like you just failed one of those stupid relationship tests. She knows you love basketball, she probably knew you were going to the Lakers game beforehand. Knowing these things she says "I've been feeling lonely" to see if you'd make her the priority over something else important to you. And you didn't. I'm not giving you grief over it. The Lakers tickets were for one night and you can attend to her loneliness many times over. She knows this, but the fact that she has decided to play this game is a pretty good indication that she hasn't been feeling like a priority to you lately. I'm going to guess that you've been dating for awhile and the passion drama has taken a dip leaving her to wonder how much you really care about her. Till you can help her chill out I would avoid comments like "but it was the Lakers" or pointing out the obvious about not wanting to waste the tickets. It will just make it seem like whatever amount of money the tickets cost outweighs her in your mind.
Krytie TV Posted June 6, 2008 Posted June 6, 2008 I could wax philosophical here, but in essences she needs to realize that valuable tix for a NBA finals game is going to take precedence over anything she has going on barring a severe injury. It's very good that you went, you established a precedence that is important in any relationship that strives to be equitable and healthy. If she cant understand you going to an event as monumental and expensive as that, you may be in for a very rocky road indeed. All games aside, you need to take a stand and protect those things that are important to you. Once they're gone in a relationship, it's very hard to get them back.
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