what do i do?

[kingoftheworld]

I've been dating a girl for the past two years, we were basically grew up with each other for about two years and ever since then about 1.5 years into the relationship, the fights just started coming left and right. Both of us pretty much went into depression, or semi-depression, i broke up with her.. came back she broke up with me then we didnt talk to each other for four months. I'm very close with her mom, we always talk and she's always telling me how much she misses you and she just wants me to change. I called her last month to talk to her and I gave her BDAY present(yes, i called her on her b-day and gave her a present in her face, we meet up shortly after that). She told me, she wanted to change for the best and she wanted me to change aswell, well of course i said yes and later we started texting and it got heated up. I dont wanna go to deep into the heated up situtation but i told her to give me my stuff back and just move on with our lives, the first time she said "no", the second time her mom called me to see whats going on and i told flat straight up "your daughter is one of a kind but sorry, shejust wants me out of her life so can i get all my stuff back and move on". Her mom says, "just give her more time, she misses you but doesnt wanna show it"(which is true, she sometimes hides her feelings). Two days ago, her mom called me to go to the mall with them to talk about it and i can her screaming in the back "NO i dont care about him i dont want him to come" yet i still went because im just that stupid. I ended up getting ****ted on and she basically dissed me left and right about everything(the ex) and i ended up leaving without saying nothing. Her mom calle dme saying "she was crying after it, she doesnt meanit just give her time and she wants to give you time". Well, the day after that hapenned, i sent her about two text's saying im coming to get all my stuff, please pack it and we can move on. She replies saying "come get them". I go and i thought about it, i should just take the one thing that would remind me and let her keep the rest of the stuff for memories(i gave her tons of stuff). So i took a heart w/her name i made in woodworking class and i left the stuff, she didnt come out to see me. I called her no answer, texted her saying "can you come out for one last good bye", no answer. I messaged her on mysapce shortly after with a very long message saying "one last goodbye message" and i told her at the end, if you have nothing postive to say then please dont reply. She replied to a question i asked her "do you see me in the future?" and she said "the question is, do i see you in the future? god will tell me.

 

So advice, i pretty much need to change. I get into many fights, i get jumped alote, i refuse to listen to anyone, i do what i feel is right (BAD) and im BI-POLAR. Also shes my first love, im her first love and we experienced everything together. She's honest to god and such a good girl, and her mom loves me . Advice appericated

[kizik]

Make some paragraph breaks in this post, shorten it up, and I'll be happy to read it and respond.

[kingoftheworld]

I've been dating a girl for the past two years, we were basically grew up with each other for about two years and ever since then about 1.5 years into the relationship, the fights just started coming left and right. Both of us pretty much went into depression, or semi-depression, i broke up with her.. came back she broke up with me then we didnt talk to each other for four months. I'm very close with her mom, we always talk and she's always telling me how much she misses you and she just wants me to change. I called her last month to talk to her and I gave her BDAY present(yes, i called her on her b-day and gave her a present in her face, we meet up shortly after that). She told me, she wanted to change for the best and she wanted me to change aswell, well of course i said yes and later we started texting and it got heated up.

 

 

I dont wanna go to deep into the heated up situtation but i told her to give me my stuff back and just move on with our lives, the first time she said "no", the second time her mom called me to see whats going on and i told flat straight up "your daughter is one of a kind but sorry, shejust wants me out of her life so can i get all my stuff back and move on". Her mom says, "just give her more time, she misses you but doesnt wanna show it"(which is true, she sometimes hides her feelings). Two days ago, her mom called me to go to the mall with them to talk about it and i can her screaming in the back "NO i dont care about him i dont want him to come" yet i still went because im just that stupid. I ended up getting ****ted on and she basically dissed me left and right about everything(the ex) and i ended up leaving without saying nothing.

 

 

Her mom calle dme saying "she was crying after it, she doesnt meanit just give her time and she wants to give you time". Well, the day after that hapenned, i sent her about two text's saying im coming to get all my stuff, please pack it and we can move on. She replies saying "come get them". I go and i thought about it, i should just take the one thing that would remind me and let her keep the rest of the stuff for memories(i gave her tons of stuff). So i took a heart w/her name i made in woodworking class and i left the stuff, she didnt come out to see me. I called her no answer, texted her saying "can you come out for one last good bye", no answer. I messaged her on mysapce shortly after with a very long message saying "one last goodbye message" and i told her at the end, if you have nothing postive to say then please dont reply. She replied to a question i asked her "do you see me in the future?" and she said "the question is, do i see you in the future? god will tell me.

 

So advice, i pretty much need to change. I get into many fights, i get jumped alote, i refuse to listen to anyone, i do what i feel is right (BAD) and im BI-POLAR. Also shes my first love, im her first love and we experienced everything together. She's honest to god and such a good girl, and her mom loves me . Advice appericated

[kizik]

First loves are something you have to get out of the way. It's very hard when it ends, but it sounds like you're in high school, and HS relationships are supposed to end.

 

My advice is simply to let it go, cut off contact (and that includes with the mom as well). The mom shouldn't be involved, and you shouldn't be talking to the mom about the girl.

 

You need counseling. See the counselor at school and consider making private appointments with a professional. (HS guidance counselors are pretty worthless anyway; there's a quote in "Clerks" about that.)

 

Definitely get your BiPolar under control. Hopefully you're on meds. It's good you can recognize your faults. Now you can begin to work on them.

 

You sound very young. This is not the end of the world. There will be other girls. But focus on YOU right now (and always, for that matter).

[kingoftheworld]

I know its something that you have to get out of the way, but this is something different. She wasnt my first girlfriend, neither was i was her first boyfriend. I've tryed to let go and cut off contact, but the thing with her mom is, she already accepted me into her family i guess. My ex-'s brother and sister praticaly love me to death and well, I'm a senior now so HS is pretty much done for me if you can say that. The mom has helped me through stuff actually, she's basicalyl like the middle women which she hates but she see's me as a son(and shes said that many times) and she also told me, she would love to see me in the future.

 

Where do i begin with counsling.. i hate counslers. I had one last year, they ended up spilling everything and i walked in and my mom was sitting in there, so yeah i hate counslers with a passion.

yeah, my bi-polar has ruined alote of things, it has gotten me kicked off the football team and wretsling team, got me expelled from school after throwing a desk across the room. Many suspensions aswell but i just cant help it. I explode when someone gives me attidude, it's just like a reaction you know? The "Guidance Counsler" also thinks i have ADHD or ADD and want's me to go get it checked out, but i told her your full of **** and i never talked to her after that what happened with her spilling everything.

 

Dont get me wrong, I fooled around with other girls aswell.. way before this relationship, I just feel like i found the right one and i'm sure as hell she feels the same way. Her number one problem with me is my anger.. anger.. anger..

[justaman99]

All I have to say is I have a lot of respect for you. To actually recognize this anger you have and some of your bad behavior is huge.

 

I don't like people telling me what to do or probing into my life but when there is an opportunity for them to help me look at things a little differently I am all for it now. I think you should read a little bit about anger management, find out why you have these outbursts and then talk to someone. Find someone you're comfortable with not just some random dude that takes your 120 an hour and calls you the wrong name after 3 meetings.

[kingoftheworld]

thanks bro, but i already know why im pretty much like this.

If i dont get what i want, i get super pissed.

It's just an reaction, i pretty much EXPLODE. ;/