celinedion1 Posted June 6, 2008 Posted June 6, 2008 Yesturday my bf of 5 year and I officially broke up. Up to that point he was being distant and just wouldn't call me. However even before the break up and after it happened, i've been having really weird dreams about him. I would mainly just dream about him calling my name, and then in one dream he and I were friends. However the reality of it is that we're not really speaking to each other. But mainly my dreams are just about him calling my name over and over again. It's just really weird and I can't make sence of the whole thing.
Template Posted June 7, 2008 Posted June 7, 2008 Sometimes dreams don't have a deeper subconscious meaning. In this case, it could just mean that you still have feelings for him, and you just want him back. Who knows how the human mind works. Maybe it concocted those dreams to relieve you of anxiety. Or maybe it was just pure fantasy? I've had many dreams in which my old girlfriends have wanted me back, (even to this day, and I broke up with them many many years ago) but I know well enough that it's just a dream. Were they to come into my life today, I know that I wouldn't want a relationship with them knowing that I'm a different person today, more than I have ever been. Don't worry, it'll pass over time.
borelandkaren Posted June 7, 2008 Posted June 7, 2008 Yesturday my bf of 5 year and I officially broke up. Up to that point he was being distant and just wouldn't call me. However even before the break up and after it happened, i've been having really weird dreams about him. I would mainly just dream about him calling my name, and then in one dream he and I were friends. However the reality of it is that we're not really speaking to each other. But mainly my dreams are just about him calling my name over and over again. It's just really weird and I can't make sence of the whole thing. Who knows? It gets better with time. The friends dream is a nice one. Think about this one as much as you can and maybe it will nestle in your subconscious and this will be the dream you'll have in the future. There's nothing wrong with having an ex as a friend, as long as they treat you with respect. No contact for the time being is probably the best thing, though.
Author celinedion1 Posted June 7, 2008 Author Posted June 7, 2008 I left out the part about the reason why we broke up was because after 5 years he cheated on me. I think that right now we just need this time apart and no contact. As for me having feelings for him no way not anymore. He was my first love and I'll always have a love for him however I'm not in love with him anymore. It just sucks that after being together for 5 years he couldn't even call me on the phone to tell me that he no longer wanted to be with me. Instead he cheated on me and let me find out. As for he and I being friends one day I don't know. Before we ever got together we were best friends, but now it seems like everything is lost. I just don't know what to think I feel like I'm walking around in a fog.
justaman99 Posted June 8, 2008 Posted June 8, 2008 I've had a couple dreams of me ex. The first was about a month ago. It wasn't about her but about her sister and her husband. I was hanging out at their place and working on the home theater system with her brother-in-law. It was a nice dream. I woke up and pondered about it. I really liked them and their family and kids. 2 nights ago was the strangest of all. The entire sleep, 8 hours was one long dream of just her and me. Walking, talking, eating out, sitting next to each other in bed, laughing smiling, nothing sexual, just us and laughing, being next to each other and enjoying each other. The good stuff we tend to forget so often. It kinda messed with my dome. That dream was so vivid, so real, it really stuck with me. I can't interpret what it means. Maybe just recalling that we really did have a great relationship overall. Made me a little sad.
Trialbyfire Posted June 8, 2008 Posted June 8, 2008 I don't have any expertise in real dream interpretation but I'll take a crack at it anyways. He was distancing himself from you so your dreams were your desire for him to be looking, searching for or wanting you. Yes, when you find out about cheating, you do go around in a fog. It's so difficult to fathom that someone you trusted implicitly could do this thing to you. You have to understand that it's not "to" you, it's about him and his personal selfishness. Take it easy. ((hugs))
Author celinedion1 Posted June 9, 2008 Author Posted June 9, 2008 I don't have any expertise in real dream interpretation but I'll take a crack at it anyways. He was distancing himself from you so your dreams were your desire for him to be looking, searching for or wanting you. Yes, when you find out about cheating, you do go around in a fog. It's so difficult to fathom that someone you trusted implicitly could do this thing to you. You have to understand that it's not "to" you, it's about him and his personal selfishness. Take it easy. ((hugs)) Thank you so much. ((hugs)) When I first found out about it, I thought that it was me and that I did something wrong to cause this. However I have come to realize that it's him and he's just a selfish jerk. As the days go by I think I'm getting stronger. I have a great support system with family and friends (which include some really hot guys). I still have moments during the day when I will get sad and just start to cry but i guess that's normal. Well what doesn't kill you makes you stronger. As a friend has told me, I'll find love again (one day) and someone who truely loves me for me and will also find happiness. As for now I'm just taking one day at a time and trying to keep busy.
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