underpants Posted June 12, 2008 Posted June 12, 2008 Spooks, It might be for the best. I think it might be not such a good idea to compete with a roomate for the attentions of a co-worker. Especially in a new work environment. Maybe he has a friend he can set you up with?
Author spookie Posted June 12, 2008 Author Posted June 12, 2008 I hope you're not serious. Besides which...why do you think this guy would be impressed by girls sluttin' it up? Most guys prefer natural, easy kind of beauty. You have to make it look effortless. Maybe you should tell Lauren you're crushing on this guy so she backs off. If she does know then it's sort of bitchy for her to be blatantly flirting with him. If I were you, I'd just beat her to the punch by asking him out or telling him you like him. It's fast and easy. I DID tell her I was crushing on him. She's a nice girl, but I know she can be really catty. Re: telling him... I don't know. I'm only convinced 50% of the time that he likes me. The other 50, I'm convinced someone like him would never be interested in someone like me. The problem, I think, is that the types of guys I fall for prefer women "simpler" than me. I mean, I go for guys who basically have no chance of ever understanding me. I'm not sure why. There are plenty of people who do; I just tend to write them off as psychos.
shadowplay Posted June 12, 2008 Posted June 12, 2008 The sense I get is this guy is really passive and lets girls come to him. You really have to be forward. Just have a few drinks together and tell him you like him.
shadowplay Posted June 12, 2008 Posted June 12, 2008 I DID tell her I was crushing on him. She's a nice girl, but I know she can be really catty. Re: telling him... I don't know. I'm only convinced 50% of the time that he likes me. The other 50, I'm convinced someone like him would never be interested in someone like me. The problem, I think, is that the types of guys I fall for prefer women "simpler" than me. I mean, I go for guys who basically have no chance of ever understanding me. I'm not sure why. There are plenty of people who do; I just tend to write them off as psychos. Spook, you've got to take that risk. You'll regret it if you don't. How often do you encounter guys you have red-hot chemistry with? It's not worth passing up. You've probably heard that people regret the things they don't try more than the things they try and fail at. That is really catty of her. I wouldn't mention it to her or start any drama. Just TELL HIM YOU LIKE HIM. I've heard so many guys say they wish girls would just make the first move. I really believe your chances are greater than 50/50.
Author spookie Posted June 12, 2008 Author Posted June 12, 2008 Spook, you've got to take that risk. You'll regret it if you don't. How often do you encounter guys you have red-hot chemistry with? It's not worth passing up. You've probably heard that people regret the things they don't try more than the things they try and fail at. That is really catty of her. I wouldn't mention it to her or start any drama. Just TELL HIM YOU LIKE HIM. I've heard so many guys say they wish girls would just make the first move. I really believe your chances are greater than 50/50. Blah. I would do it. I really would... if we weren't living and working together. I had to make the first move with ALL the guys I ever REALLY liked, and it never failed. For some reason, with this one, though, I'm just really scared he'll reject me and I'll cry or something.
johan Posted June 12, 2008 Posted June 12, 2008 If things don't work out with this guy, feel free to obsess over me, Spookie. I'm not meeting my quota lately.
Author spookie Posted June 12, 2008 Author Posted June 12, 2008 If things don't work out with this guy, feel free to obsess over me, Spookie. I'm not meeting my quota lately. Thanks, johan. That's... really sweet. I guess.
johan Posted June 12, 2008 Posted June 12, 2008 ha ha. I'm here for you. Life for me is very bland when I have no one to have a crush on. Maybe the same is true for you, so maybe that's the bright side. Whatever is going to happen with this guy will happen all by itself. You'll feel better if you're able to be patient about it.
Author spookie Posted June 12, 2008 Author Posted June 12, 2008 ha ha. I'm here for you. Life for me is very bland when I have no one to have a crush on. Maybe the same is true for you, so maybe that's the bright side. Whatever is going to happen with this guy will happen all by itself. You'll feel better if you're able to be patient about it. Yup. Life is pretty empty unless I can fantasize about living happily ever after, unfortunately. You're probably right about being patient. The problem is, patience sucks. I always end up letting my guard down and morphing into my unlikeable unattractive jaded self. And then nothing ever works out. My strategy with relationships has always been to snag the men before they realized what they're getting into.
johan Posted June 12, 2008 Posted June 12, 2008 I've been snagged like that once or twice. It was kind of fun, but not really. You seem plenty likable. You said you had friends that you miss. After all the doubt and worry, it appears you're plenty qualified for your job. And it doesn't seem like anyone is trying to use your past against you or dig into your school records. You're too hard on yourself, I think. Try to relax.
shadowplay Posted June 12, 2008 Posted June 12, 2008 Yup. Life is pretty empty unless I can fantasize about living happily ever after, unfortunately. You're probably right about being patient. The problem is, patience sucks. I always end up letting my guard down and morphing into my unlikeable unattractive jaded self. And then nothing ever works out. My strategy with relationships has always been to snag the men before they realized what they're getting into. I say snag away. Waiting around and being "patient" never works...believe me, I know. Hot guys don't stay single for long.
daphne Posted June 12, 2008 Posted June 12, 2008 I know it's easier said than done, but try to go with teh flow a little more. You're making yourself neurotic worrying over something you can't control. It's only been a week and a half. And you're better off with a guy that prefers a more natural girl, since you are one. Besides, those are the best guys imo.
Author spookie Posted June 12, 2008 Author Posted June 12, 2008 I've been snagged like that once or twice. It was kind of fun, but not really. You seem plenty likable. You said you had friends that you miss. After all the doubt and worry, it appears you're plenty qualified for your job. And it doesn't seem like anyone is trying to use your past against you or dig into your school records. You're too hard on yourself, I think. Try to relax. Heh. Alright. I'm trying. I'm kinda pissed cause after the free hotel keg tonight we were supposed to crash Allstate's interns' BBQ, but "Brad" and "Aaron" flaked out. So now I'm drunk and all made up with nowhere to go. What a waste of 5 inches of makeup.
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