Author spookie Posted June 8, 2008 Author Posted June 8, 2008 Blah. I don't get how I could have been so blind. Even the day we were hanging out alone for a while, when we rejoined the other people, at one point, as I was "jokingly" tearing someone down for one thing or another (I'm a very belligerent drunk), he said, "Spookie, this is why I'm afraid to say anything around you. There's no way to win." I wish I could stop being such a bt!ch.
Unxpctd1014 Posted June 8, 2008 Posted June 8, 2008 a solution to that... if you know you are like that when you are drunk.. why would you be like that around someone you are trying to date??? you're asking to be disliked...
Stockalone Posted June 8, 2008 Posted June 8, 2008 "Spookie, this is why I'm afraid to say anything around you. There's no way to win." I wish I could stop being such a bt!ch. It could very well be that he likes you but is somewhat irritated/scared by the drunken version of spookie. How much does he drink?
Author spookie Posted June 8, 2008 Author Posted June 8, 2008 It could very well be that he likes you but is somewhat irritated/scared by the drunken version of spookie. How much does he drink? A lot more than I do. He got here a few days after I did and the story preceding him was that, on his drive from Iowa to Illinois, he met up with a friend and ended up passed out cold on a stranger's lawn. The first time we hung out alone, we were each drinking out own bottle of vodka, and he finished his probably 3 hours before I was done with mine. The next day, he couldn't remember what we talked about (and ended up telling me the same stories).
Storyrider Posted June 8, 2008 Posted June 8, 2008 I think getting out into world, you learn how to temper your prejudices and relate to a broader range of people. Austin is so liberal that it can be a shock to leave there and actually meet conservatives. They seem like aliens from another planet. I remember when I left Austin and went to a summer college program out of state, I had my first ever face-to-face encounter with someone who voiced a pro-life position. I was in my early twenties when I learned that opinions are not who you are. Who you are goes much deeper than that. But you can use opinions to build a wall and shut people out.
Author spookie Posted June 8, 2008 Author Posted June 8, 2008 I think getting out into world, you learn how to temper your prejudices and relate to a broader range of people. Austin is so liberal that it can be a shock to leave there and actually meet conservatives. They seem like aliens from another planet. I remember when I left Austin and went to a summer college program out of state, I had my first ever face-to-face encounter with someone who voiced a pro-life position. I was in my early twenties when I learned that opinions are not who you are. Who you are goes much deeper than that. But you can use opinions to build a wall and shut people out. I think I'm slowly beginning to understand this. The people I've come into contact with in the last couple of weeks are precisely the types I used to think were scum of the earth, but having gotten to know them, I understand that what they believe in and where they has nothing to do with their personalities, which are just as diverse as my friends' back home. I'm not trying to build walls. Admittedly, I'm also not trying very hard to fit in, so it's possible that I've given THEM reason to build walls with what they've found out about me.
Nemo Posted June 8, 2008 Posted June 8, 2008 spook, do you reject before you're rejected? Are you talking about preemptive rejection? I guess it's a more conservative tactic than going straight for the penis. I'm not playing hard to get, I am hard to get. Too hard for you - so there!
Gawdess Posted June 8, 2008 Posted June 8, 2008 In any case, I do believe it is all over now with this guy. Now your fellow interns know that you were crushing on him, and they will surely relay the message to him. He probably would want someone more discreet so I doubt you have a chance now, even for a fling, because he will fear that you would tell every detail to your fellow interns (positions, etc.) Best to just move on and hopefully meet someone you don't work with. Not that I'm against dating in the workplace, I'm not, but I don't think you have the discretion to handle it. I think this is a good lesson to you. I am 40 now, and when I first started out in my first professional job, I was kind of like you, fun and not as professional as I could have been (short skirts, kind of blabby to coworkers, etc.) I got a reputation for being the teacher not to be taken seriously. The next year I changed that. Seriously it's just a life lesson. It's fine to go out with coworkers but you have to be careful about loose lips and alcohol.
Trialbyfire Posted June 8, 2008 Posted June 8, 2008 Are you talking about preemptive rejection? I guess it's a more conservative tactic than going straight for the penis. I'm not playing hard to get, I am hard to get. Too hard for you - so there! No doubt you're too hard for me to get so you're safe.
Nemo Posted June 8, 2008 Posted June 8, 2008 No doubt you're too hard for me to get so you're safe. Thanks so much for your preemptive rejection of me. Luckily for us both, I know what you're trying to do. Sometimes you just have to take a risk, and put your heart (or - for guys - your penis) out there.
Trialbyfire Posted June 8, 2008 Posted June 8, 2008 Thanks so much for your preemptive rejection of me. Luckily for us both, I know what you're trying to do. Sometimes you just have to take a risk, and put your heart (or your penis - for guys) out there. Oh no! I'm just being realistic. I know you're at a different level than I am, so it's best not to shoot above my means.
Nemo Posted June 8, 2008 Posted June 8, 2008 Oh no! I'm just being realistic. I know you're at a different level than I am, so it's best not to shoot above my means. Keep practicing. You need to make it a little more believable. And credible. It kind of almost sounds patronising. Although that reference to shooting above your means is pretty transparent and, quite frankly, a little disgusting.
Trialbyfire Posted June 8, 2008 Posted June 8, 2008 Keep practicing. You need to make it a little more believable. And credible. It kind of almost sounds patronising. Although that reference to shooting above your means is pretty transparent and, quite frankly, a little disgusting. You're reading far more into this, than was intended beyond a little, lighthearted banter. The illustration was that it was preemptive rejection whereby the stage was set by you, so I played along with it.
Gawdess Posted June 8, 2008 Posted June 8, 2008 You're reading far more into this, than was intended beyond a little, lighthearted banter. The illustration was that it was preemptive rejection whereby the stage was set by you, so I played along with it. Yes, you two, go get a room.
Author spookie Posted June 8, 2008 Author Posted June 8, 2008 spook, do you reject before you're rejected? Do you think that's what's going on? Today he seemed into me again. But we only hung out for a couple of minutes, with his roommate. Then he had to go do laundry. I should have come with him, but the roommate and I already had plans to go eat. While we were eating, the roommate asked me what I thought of ____. It felt like he was trying to gauge my comment from last night, which, actually, could have come off as the start of a joke that flopped. (Right before I blabbed it out, we were talking about banging the other intern's wife to get some drama going.) All I said was that he seemed nice. Then he made an interesting confession to me about how a week ago he cheated on his gf with this really annoying blonde from this other company, and how now he's really paranoid she'll tell someone if he isn't nice enough to her, and not to tell ___. I think I need to make names up for these people. Anyway, my point is, everyone blabs a lot, and I think this summer is going to turn out to be very interesting. We're already holding so many of each others' secrets.
Trialbyfire Posted June 8, 2008 Posted June 8, 2008 Do you think that's what's going on? Today he seemed into me again. But we only hung out for a couple of minutes, with his roommate. Then he had to go do laundry. I should have come with him, but the roommate and I already had plans to go eat. While we were eating, the roommate asked me what I thought of ____. It felt like he was trying to gauge my comment from last night, which, actually, could have come off as the start of a joke that flopped. (Right before I blabbed it out, we were talking about banging the other intern's wife to get some drama going.) All I said was that he seemed nice. Then he made an interesting confession to me about how a week ago he cheated on his gf with this really annoying blonde from this other company, and how now he's really paranoid she'll tell someone if he isn't nice enough to her, and not to tell ___. I think I need to make names up for these people. Anyway, my point is, everyone blabs a lot, and I think this summer is going to turn out to be very interesting. We're already holding so many of each others' secrets. Eeeeeerrrrrrcchhhh! I've just screeched to a halt. He has a girlfriend?
Author spookie Posted June 8, 2008 Author Posted June 8, 2008 Eeeeeerrrrrrcchhhh! I've just screeched to a halt. He has a girlfriend? Ok names. Lauren = my roommate. Aaron = my crush. Brad = my crush's roommate. Kelly = annoying dumb bitch. His roommate (Brad) has a girlfriend. He was the one I went out to eat with today, who asked me about my crush (Aaron) and told me about his affair with Kelly.
Trialbyfire Posted June 8, 2008 Posted June 8, 2008 No!!! His roommate has a girlfriend. He was the one I went out to eat with today. Ahhhh...you're right, you do need tags for these people!!!! It can't hurt to get to know the guy better, before allowing chemistry to take over and jumping directly into the sack with him. Stop, look and listen, y'know?
Author spookie Posted June 8, 2008 Author Posted June 8, 2008 So sometimes, we're on facebook at the same time in our respective rooms at the hotel, and he never messages me. Does that mean he's not interested?
Nemo Posted June 8, 2008 Posted June 8, 2008 So sometimes, we're on facebook at the same time in our respective rooms at the hotel, and he never messages me. Does that mean he's not interested? :lmao:
jerbear Posted June 8, 2008 Posted June 8, 2008 So sometimes, we're on facebook at the same time in our respective rooms at the hotel, and he never messages me. Does that mean he's not interested? Are you two listed as friends or you're just looking at his page?
johan Posted June 9, 2008 Posted June 9, 2008 So sometimes, we're on facebook at the same time in our respective rooms at the hotel, and he never messages me. Does that mean he's not interested? I'd send a few flirts your way to see if that would get you out of your room. That's what I would do if I was him. He's a chicken. That's what his problem is.
Nemo Posted June 9, 2008 Posted June 9, 2008 He's a chicken. That's what his problem is. Absolutely! She's the girl next door. Okay, one of two, but you have to start somewhere. I bet he's good at clucking.
Mary3 Posted June 9, 2008 Posted June 9, 2008 well If He Doesn't That Might Change His Mind. Lol ! ....................
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