Gawdess Posted June 7, 2008 Posted June 7, 2008 My opinion is to let him make the first move. Otherwise, you might get a fling out of it and nothing more. Make him work for it. Don't just jump right into bed with him either -it won't last. Again, make him work for it.
Nemo Posted June 7, 2008 Posted June 7, 2008 What happened??? They're probably getting jiggy wit it right now. Either that, or passed out in each other's arms.
Author spookie Posted June 7, 2008 Author Posted June 7, 2008 What a worthless evening. My roommate isn't 21, so we (a bunch of actuaries from 4 different companies) had to go to a bowling alley instead of a bar to get drunk. I brought vodka along and taught her my buy a diet coke and spike it in the bathroom trick, which saves you lots of money and will get you wasted even if you're 15. Of course we got trashed, and, passing vodka underneath he stalls, I ended up feeling quite trashy. There were tons of people along with us, including a new anorexic looking annoying blonde girl whom I hated immediately, and my crush and I got no alone time, aside from a couple of minutes at the bar, which were quite awkward, for some reason. Even more awkward was the fact that his friend from college and the friend's roommate hit on me when we went back to their place to hang out, which made sense since the guy:girl ratio in this group was about 17:3. At the end of the night, I was going to come up with some transparent reason to get him to come over to my place to sleep (cause, while I don't think he particularly likes me over any other girl, my experience at the strip club has taught me that most single men will fcvk anything, and that's what I really need to do to move on) but my roommate didn't end up sleeping over at her bf;s, so even that fell through. It's just really frustrating. Tomorrow all of us are going to a blues festival in the city, though. I guess that's another opportunity.
Author spookie Posted June 7, 2008 Author Posted June 7, 2008 Oh and what does he look like? He's tall, thin, with curyish dark-blonde hair and green eyes. I didn't think he was cute at all when I first met him, but the first time we talked, I thought his smile lit up his face, and it made me really like him.
shadowplay Posted June 7, 2008 Posted June 7, 2008 What a worthless evening. My roommate isn't 21, so we (a bunch of actuaries from 4 different companies) had to go to a bowling alley instead of a bar to get drunk. I brought vodka along and taught her my buy a diet coke and spike it in the bathroom trick, which saves you lots of money and will get you wasted even if you're 15. Of course we got trashed, and, passing vodka underneath he stalls, I ended up feeling quite trashy. There were tons of people along with us, including a new anorexic looking annoying blonde girl whom I hated immediately, and my crush and I got no alone time, aside from a couple of minutes at the bar, which were quite awkward, for some reason. Even more awkward was the fact that his friend from college and the friend's roommate hit on me when we went back to their place to hang out, which made sense since the guy:girl ratio in this group was about 17:3. At the end of the night, I was going to come up with some transparent reason to get him to come over to my place to sleep (cause, while I don't think he particularly likes me over any other girl, my experience at the strip club has taught me that most single men will fcvk anything, and that's what I really need to do to move on) but my roommate didn't end up sleeping over at her bf;s, so even that fell through. It's just really frustrating. Tomorrow all of us are going to a blues festival in the city, though. I guess that's another opportunity. Could you explain the bolded part? A lot of guys can't tell when a girl likes them, they need to be banged over the head. So be forward. My bf didn't realize I liked him until our fourth or fifth date when we got to second base. Even me making out with him before that wasn't strong enough of an indicator.
Author spookie Posted June 7, 2008 Author Posted June 7, 2008 Could you explain the bolded part? A lot of guys can't tell when a girl likes them, they need to be banged over the head. So be forward. My bf didn't realize I liked him until our fourth or fifth date when we got to second base. Even me making out with him before that wasn't strong enough of an indicator. Lol. That's ridiculous. You're probably right, though. It would just be nice to be pursued. But I've been pursued before, it was just by the wrong guys. Funny how it works like that. Anyway, what I meant by the bolded part was that I needed SOMETHING to happen, just so I could relax and start enjoying our group activity evenings instead of being on edge all the time hoping we'll get to make out this time. But, I was tipsy and frustrated when I wrote that. The truth is, "something" wouldn't really suffice. We have so much connecting us (work, living together, friends, etc.) that if we hooked up and then someone (aka me) wanted more than the other, it would just make everything awkward. So I'm gonna wait. I'm gonna try to be more forward, but I'm not gonna grab his penis or anything.
xpaperxcutx Posted June 7, 2008 Posted June 7, 2008 Lol. That's ridiculous. You're probably right, though. It would just be nice to be pursued. But I've been pursued before, it was just by the wrong guys. Funny how it works like that. Anyway, what I meant by the bolded part was that I needed SOMETHING to happen, just so I could relax and start enjoying our group activity evenings instead of being on edge all the time hoping we'll get to make out this time. But, I was tipsy and frustrated when I wrote that. The truth is, "something" wouldn't really suffice. We have so much connecting us (work, living together, friends, etc.) that if we hooked up and then someone (aka me) wanted more than the other, it would just make everything awkward. So I'm gonna wait. I'm gonna try to be more forward, but I'm not gonna grab his penis or anything. Spookie!! First of all, love your new avatar... ridiculously cute:bunny: Sorry about last night, apparently the crowd's a bit too much for some alone time. Hopefully tonight will work more in your favor? We'll be praying.
Author spookie Posted June 7, 2008 Author Posted June 7, 2008 Spookie!! First of all, love your new avatar... ridiculously cute:bunny: Sorry about last night, apparently the crowd's a bit too much for some alone time. Hopefully tonight will work more in your favor? We'll be praying. Haha. Thanks. I think we're going to a music festival tonight in a smaller group. Hopefully I can sneak him away.
Gawdess Posted June 7, 2008 Posted June 7, 2008 If you can refrain from drinking alcohol and getting drunk when you go out, you might impress him and he *might* start to take you seriously. The behavior you exhibited bowling with the getting drunk on tequila and going into the bathroom stall with an underage intern to get drunk.....is juvenile and it probably turned him off to you as a serious prospect. I mean you are a college graduate, right? I know you are looking to be the cool, hip party girl, but a guy who is starting out in his career after college might f**k an immature party girl, but he won't get serious with one. I would also not tell him about your stripper/drug/wild past. Time to outgrow this stuff if you want a real man in the real world, not the hazy drugged up drunk world you're used to. You can get a pothead, noncollege graduate for that to be at the lifestyle you have now.
Author spookie Posted June 8, 2008 Author Posted June 8, 2008 Blah. To be honest, I don't think he likes me. Tonight was another total bust. It was storming, so the blues festival the four of us wanted to go to was off. Instead we drove to the same bar we've gone to a million times, drank for a while, and then came home, before 11. My crush said he was tired and going to sleep. The others and I went back to our room and hung out a little longer. Bored and tipsy, I ended up telling them I had a crush on ____. Pointless and completely juvenile, I know. I guess I was hoping someone would confirm that the attraction seemed mutual, which didn't happen. My confession was met with several awkward seconds of silence. I'm retarded. I think I'm back to the same conclusion I always come to, which is that I need to stop drinking. There was no point whatsoever of me getting smashed every night this week to loosen up to talk to this crush of mine. Lots of people I've met here don't drink, or don't drink as heavily as I do. Actually, almost no one anywhere drinks as heavily as I do, except alcoholics, and I know if I keep this up, I'm going to become one. I'm just scared of the feelings I get when I'm sober. The emptiness, the loneliness, the sadness.
J2FT1 Posted June 8, 2008 Posted June 8, 2008 I'm retarded. You're not retarded, you're an actuary, which is awesome.
Author spookie Posted June 8, 2008 Author Posted June 8, 2008 You're not retarded, you're an actuary, which is awesome. Haha, thanks. I didn't know people knew what that was.
J2FT1 Posted June 8, 2008 Posted June 8, 2008 Haha, thanks. I didn't know people knew what that was. Yeah, I am somewhat knowledgeable. Haha, and with your drinking (like you say you do), you're going to tell me that losing money in housing industry is minimal at best. Anyways, may I ask what kind of actuary you are?
Author spookie Posted June 8, 2008 Author Posted June 8, 2008 Yeah, I am somewhat knowledgeable. Haha, and with your drinking (like you say you do), you're going to tell me that losing money in housing industry is minimal at best. Anyways, may I ask what kind of actuary you are? May I ask where you work? I'm a health intern.
J2FT1 Posted June 8, 2008 Posted June 8, 2008 May I ask where you work? I'm a health intern. I'm self-employed. (Why did you use the sarcastic smiley?)
Author spookie Posted June 8, 2008 Author Posted June 8, 2008 I'm self-employed. (Why did you use the sarcastic smiley?) Oh. I didn't realize that smiley was sarcastic. What I meant to relay via emoticon was that I felt it was an odd question to ask, (and that I really hoped you didn't tell me it was the place I'm working at now).
J2FT1 Posted June 8, 2008 Posted June 8, 2008 Oh. I didn't realize that smiley was sarcastic. What I meant to relay via emoticon was that I felt it was an odd question to ask, (and that I really hoped you didn't tell me it was the place I'm working at now). I was joking about being self-employed. Hmm...now that I think about it more...are you that one girl...hmm...
Author spookie Posted June 8, 2008 Author Posted June 8, 2008 I was joking about being self-employed. Hmm...now that I think about it more...are you that one girl...hmm... Hope you're kidding.
Gawdess Posted June 8, 2008 Posted June 8, 2008 I hate to say this but jsut because the other interns haven't noticed an obvious attraction by your crush doesn't mean he doesn't have a crush on you. I know you like to think that everyone notices you, and everything you do, but did you think that these people really weren't taking note of the time you were talking to him or whatever? Sorry if this blows your ego. NOT EVERYONE NOTICES THESE THINGS ABOUT YOU, PEOPLE HAVE OTHER THINGS IN THEIR LIVES TO NOTICE, THEY AREN'T NOTICING EVERYTHING ABOUT YOU.
johan Posted June 8, 2008 Posted June 8, 2008 I agree that you should stop drinking so much. That will be one of the more important decisions you make in your life. Don't assume he's not interested. He could just be paralyzed by the idea that you're out of his league.
Author spookie Posted June 8, 2008 Author Posted June 8, 2008 I hate to say this but jsut because the other interns haven't noticed an obvious attraction by your crush doesn't mean he doesn't have a crush on you. I know you like to think that everyone notices you, and everything you do, but did you think that these people really weren't taking note of the time you were talking to him or whatever? Sorry if this blows your ego. NOT EVERYONE NOTICES THESE THINGS ABOUT YOU, PEOPLE HAVE OTHER THINGS IN THEIR LIVES TO NOTICE, THEY AREN'T NOTICING EVERYTHING ABOUT YOU. Yah I dunno. My crush knew his roommate in college. I suspect if he did like me, he'd have told the roommate. Isn't that what best friends are for? Or am I thinking about best... girl friends?
Author spookie Posted June 8, 2008 Author Posted June 8, 2008 I agree that you should stop drinking so much. That will be one of the more important decisions you make in your life. Don't assume he's not interested. He could just be paralyzed by the idea that you're out of his league. I really don't think he's interested. In fact, I've given up. If he was interested, he would have tried to hang out with me one-on-one more. We're already friends and I live right there. It wouldn't have been hard to arrange. Also, last night he wouldn't have gone to sleep at 10:30 instead of taking a walk around the lake like I suggested (hoping everyone but him would decline). Nope... lost cause. I think he's turned off by my politics. Sometimes I get drunk and make fun of Republicans. (Of course, it could be something else.)
jerbear Posted June 8, 2008 Posted June 8, 2008 I really don't think he's interested. In fact, I've given up. If he was interested, he would have tried to hang out with me one-on-one more. We're already friends and I live right there. It wouldn't have been hard to arrange. Also, last night he wouldn't have gone to sleep at 10:30 instead of taking a walk around the lake like I suggested (hoping everyone but him would decline). Nope... lost cause. I think he's turned off by my politics. Sometimes I get drunk and make fun of Republicans. (Of course, it could be something else.) Yelp that could be it but most Republicans actually do enjoy liberal women. I for one went both ways. Sleep at 1030 instead of a walk well, next time why do you ask him for a walk? Just ask him.
Author spookie Posted June 8, 2008 Author Posted June 8, 2008 Yelp that could be it but most Republicans actually do enjoy liberal women. I for one went both ways. Sleep at 1030 instead of a walk well, next time why do you ask him for a walk? Just ask him. Nah, I'm done. If I keep this up it's going to seem like I'm crazy and/or throwing myself at him. I'll keep being friendly, but if he wants something to happen, he's going to have to make the arrangements.
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