EMBeee Posted June 5, 2008 Posted June 5, 2008 Just out of curiosity... did any of you ever concidering going back to your cheating ex?? Or did any of you decide to go back to the cheating ex?? If so, how long did it take you until you went back to them and did it work out the 2nd time around, was it the same feeling as "before" the infidelity... or did they end up cheating again?? Just curious... thanks!
foxh1234 Posted June 5, 2008 Posted June 5, 2008 I would never take her back after cheating and lying to me for 2 months about it. Without trust and honesty there can be no relationship as far as I am concerned.
me1234 Posted June 6, 2008 Posted June 6, 2008 ashamed to admit it, but, i did. she didn't physically cheat, but to me it doesn't matter - what she did was still cheating. her and my best guy friend at the time were talking to each other on the phone, quite often, without my knowledge. hours at a time, texts, late at night, etc. luckily one of her friends had enough sense to tell me about it or i may have never known. when i found out, i confronted her and broke it off. she wanted me back and said she'd never do it again. so, i stupidly took her back. surprise surprise, she did it again. this cycle repeated a few times. (did i mention i'm kind of pathetic yet?) i suppose i kept thinking she'd change, or if i did things differently or got through to her more she'd give him up. she never did. looking back, she never really accepted responsibility for her actions. she always wanted to blame me for not paying enough attention to her, or him for instigating the contact, or tried to twist the reality of what she was doing into something innocent. all BS excuses obviously.
Trialbyfire Posted June 6, 2008 Posted June 6, 2008 Just out of curiosity... did any of you ever concidering going back to your cheating ex?? Yes, I did consider it for about three days, but decided against it. Or did any of you decide to go back to the cheating ex?? No, didn't do it because it would have been an exercise in futility. If so, how long did it take you until you went back to them and did it work out the 2nd time around, was it the same feeling as "before" the infidelity... or did they end up cheating again?? Not applicable.
Issues & tissues Posted June 7, 2008 Posted June 7, 2008 I also lived with a cheating spouse. At first he denied the cheating but the evidence was overwhelming. I was devastated. Nevertheless, it didn't deter me and I (notice here the key word "I") decided to work through it. We stayed together for another 2 years after that. It was the unhappiest time of my life. At the end of 2 years I found out he was cheating again. I didn't have the strength to put the broken pieces back together a second time especially as he was making it very clear that he wanted out. I didn't put up a fight and just let him go. We were together for 10 years. The last 3 months have been the happiest in almost a decade!
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