pleasebelieveme Posted June 5, 2008 Posted June 5, 2008 So, I recently posted about my decision to try to get back together with my ex. FORTUNATELY, during the last few days I've come to my senses, thanks to reading some of these boards and to listening to some good friends of mine. I thought a good first step, besides maintaining NC, is to get back out and start meeting people. I used to have a Match profile, but it's been down for awhile. So, I went on the other day to revive it. I started searching before making my profile visible again, and BAM - I saw my ex's profile!! I couldn't believe it. Totally messed me up. What's worse, is it shows that our two profiles match PERFECTLY in every way. That's NEVER happened with any other profiles I've looked at. So now not only am I depressed because she's obviously out there trying to date again (and, in turn, clearly not interested in adding me to her potential suitors), but I'm being knocked back down from my progress in starting to realize that she wasn't "the one" for me. Clearly, we match great (well, at least on paper)! My question: Should I go ahead and make my profile active anyhow? I'm freaked out at the idea of her seeing my profile, and WORSE I'm freaked if she blocks my profile or something like that - just to send me a message. That would make me feel REALLY bad. -PBM
sid3 Posted June 5, 2008 Posted June 5, 2008 So what if she sees your profile, surely she will realize you''ve seen hers. And if she blocks you, what would that matter, block hers as well. If you want to meet new people and think match can help you achieve that, then go ahead and give it a try.
Exl Posted June 5, 2008 Posted June 5, 2008 Do you owe her any explanation? Does she have the right to have a profile and you don't? Just do it Don't think about the consequences because it really doesn't matter!
Touche Posted June 5, 2008 Posted June 5, 2008 Nah, don't do it. It's better that she thinks you're home alone pining away for her. DUH! Of COURSE you should do it. Who cares what she thinks? She certainly doesn't care that you saw hers now did she? Be a man.
D-Lish Posted June 5, 2008 Posted June 5, 2008 Why cut off your options just because she has a profile there? Make it visible- who cares if she sees? You could always block her first.
Author pleasebelieveme Posted June 5, 2008 Author Posted June 5, 2008 Alright, cool. I guess everyone's right. Why should I be afraid of her seeing my profile? Maybe the best thing to do is to block hers first - just so she gets the message to leave me alone (not that she would try anyhow...). Thanks all for your advice! -PBM
justaman99 Posted June 5, 2008 Posted June 5, 2008 Get on there buddy and meet some nice women! I'm on there and i'm havin a good time with it. There are a lot of cool people to get to know and enjoy! Chap chap! You don't have to think you're going to find an instant relationship, just look at it as getting out there and meeting some new faces. Don't put any expectations on it and who cares what the ex does or thinks. Just DONT click on her profile. She'll see it in her who's viewed me. -Just
Author pleasebelieveme Posted June 5, 2008 Author Posted June 5, 2008 Ohhhhhh! I didn't think of one thing - if I had my profile as invisible, I assume she wouldn't be able to see that I clicked on her profile??? Would it show up as an anonymous view? Eh. Oh well if she knows. I'm going to go ahead and make my profile live anyhow. Thanks to all for your feedback! PBM
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