silence06 Posted June 5, 2008 Posted June 5, 2008 Okay, so I have a girlfriend who has not been faithfull with me. Now I don't mean unfaithful like having sex w other dudes, but she has talked to them romantically while we were dating. So I'm still w/ her but I really doubt this will amount to anything. What keeps me with her is the thought of her being w/ someone else. Kissing someone else, hugging someone else, the very thought makes me very angry. What can I do to free myself from this potentially dangerous relationship?
Enema Posted June 5, 2008 Posted June 5, 2008 Grow up and think about what's best for you instead of your jealous ego?
Exl Posted June 5, 2008 Posted June 5, 2008 First of all, no pun intended. But you seem to be indeed a very jealous person. You should try and think clearly and not let yourself drown in these kind of thoughts. I know it is difficult. But it will only hurt you and your relationship. You have to set a line, and trust should make up for the rest. It really depends on the couple. Some girls may tend to get flirty but in a totally harmless way. Just talk to her about it and that you feel unconfortable about it and try to work things out and make a basis for respect and trust. You should be able to work it out yourselves and find a liveable middle point. But if you'll only say yes just because, you're in a lot of trouble for yourself and your relationship. If it can't be changed or it's actually disrespectful on her part, perhaps you should look for someone else. Jealousy is a real relationship killer. So find a way, with her, to handle it productively. Some guys can handle girls getting flirty with other guys if they make it clear to them that he's the one. My girl would make fun of guys approaching her (and a LOT do) on their faces, yet they still tried and we both had a good time because we knew what was happening. It was fine to me as long as I knew she was doing that, and she'd always make me feel like the better man and come to me afterwards just to further humilliate the guys. That way she even reinforced my trust in her and my self-confidence. Later on when she started getting secretive about things, I found some stuff hard to handle too, but that's a whole different story. It's just a question of attitude and mutual understanding and working things out. Work out your insecurity with her. As I said, talk about it and make it productive. Just don't dwell on it, it's ALSO your fault that you think that way. So you'll have to try a little harder too.
carhill Posted June 5, 2008 Posted June 5, 2008 Are you exclusive (had the "talk")? If not, expect such actions by her, including sex (if that is part of her dating style), with others and put on your best game. Stuff that jealousy cr@p in the trash. It'll nuke any chances you have with her or any woman.
v33 Posted June 6, 2008 Posted June 6, 2008 I too spent years with someone that was no good for me. An alcoholic and flirt, and eventually she became a cheater. I held on, and she finally left. Which they all will eventually do when you continue to put up with their abuse. You don't want to be in a situation where you get left by someone that did you wrong especially when you know you should have been the one to leave. It's gonna hurt bad if it comes down to that. Get out on your own terms before she makes the move.
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