iwish Posted June 4, 2008 Posted June 4, 2008 I just saw my ex having dinner with another guy .. I was doing ok, getting better and then i walked down the street and saw her having dinner in a place we used to go to.. She was wearing her pulling clothes, no glasses and seemed very happy.. Bearing in mind we just had sex a few days ago.. It bloody hurts a hell of a lot
borelandkaren Posted June 4, 2008 Posted June 4, 2008 ohhhhh.......it gets better. No more sex with her, hey? If you're over, it's gotta be over or you just keep getting hurt. No contact and try to avoid places you used to go 2gether. Time's the healer, Sunshine. Chin up.
vivrantflo Posted June 4, 2008 Posted June 4, 2008 Sounds like someone should have been establishing NC, instead of sleeping with their ex girlfriend. Come on, we all know that's a no no.. you're just making it even easier for her to make the transition from you to another man. Go NC, and stay away from places you used to go together, to avoid pain like this.
0hpenelope Posted June 4, 2008 Posted June 4, 2008 Yeah, I went through that about an hour ago. Though I didn't "see" him as you did your ex-gf and I stopped thinking about how I would be like if I saw him. I saw him on one of my messenger programs and I totally forgot that I had him down as a contact there. It says he was online at 2:27 P.M. (my time) and as soon as I saw that, I wondered if he logged off right away because he saw me or he just chose to close the program since he doesn't use that program a lot (at least, to my recollection... who knows. I haven't talked to him in a while and I want it that way, no matter how much I miss him). Eww. I don't like this feeling... It crawls over my skin and it makes me feel really ugly. This is why I'm sticking to NC.. even if I have the urge to contact him right now. I'm stomping on that feeling like I stomp on house spiders. You hit a slump. We both did and we'll walk over it.
tealeafbud Posted June 4, 2008 Posted June 4, 2008 iwish, i remember your post about agreeing to a FWB relationship with your ex. If this isn't correct please let me know. But if it is a FWB, you may want to discontinue it, because all you're doing is prolonging the agony of having to separate from her for good. Unless of course there's a chance between you two, which seems very unlikely in your case. All in all, it seems like you are taking it all in stride. In my opinion, all your doing is filling the sexual void that you may otherwise might have if it weren't for your ex. It isn't necessarily practical for certain people, but it is doable. Otherwise there wouldn't be an acronym for it!
Exl Posted June 5, 2008 Posted June 5, 2008 First of all, I'm sorry you had to see her like that. That's not the best for the transition. If it helps, think that the next guy is going to be the one heartbroken and stepped on next Keeping some schadenfreude on these situations can make them bearable and even, to some extent, funnier. Anyway, hang on!
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