kizik Posted June 4, 2008 Posted June 4, 2008 I'm no longer with the person that I love. That's the way it is. I was alone before I got together with her. That's the way I was. Was life awful before? No. Is it awful now? Technically, NO. It just is. I don't get to go over to her house anymore. I don't get to kiss or hug her anymore. I don't get to make love to her anymore. Could this have been avoided? Not on my end. Knowing I did everything I can, I am guilt-free. I can analyze the separation of our lives for the rest of time, but it won't change the fact that I have to get my ass out of bed every morning and continue on without her. The situation just is. Objectively, from the "eyes of the world" as the Grateful Dead would say, it is neither good nor bad. It just IS.
Geishawhelk Posted June 4, 2008 Posted June 4, 2008 *Standing ovation, cheers and raptuous applause* Utterly, utterly brilliant! Well done you!
ZenSilk Posted June 4, 2008 Posted June 4, 2008 I applaud this very healthy view! Very inspiring too.
Author kizik Posted June 4, 2008 Author Posted June 4, 2008 Thanks y'all. This is merely what I tell myself to keep life in perspective... though it doesn't feel this way most hours of the day.
ZenSilk Posted June 4, 2008 Posted June 4, 2008 I bet it doesn't... but it sounds like a great start. At some point, you won't even have to tell yourself this, it will really just be. Until then, I hope you find inspiration and strength to keep on this path.
sid3 Posted June 4, 2008 Posted June 4, 2008 True, most hours of the day, it just sucks! But your right, it just is. Eventually, is will be replaced by was. Glad your doing ok kizik.
Meaplus3 Posted June 4, 2008 Posted June 4, 2008 I'm no longer with the person that I love. That's the way it is. I was alone before I got together with her. That's the way I was. Was life awful before? No. Is it awful now? Technically, NO. It just is. I don't get to go over to her house anymore. I don't get to kiss or hug her anymore. I don't get to make love to her anymore. Could this have been avoided? Not on my end. Knowing I did everything I can, I am guilt-free. I can analyze the separation of our lives for the rest of time, but it won't change the fact that I have to get my ass out of bed every morning and continue on without her. The situation just is. Objectively, from the "eyes of the world" as the Grateful Dead would say, it is neither good nor bad. It just IS. Great post! You seem to have so much acceptance and thats so healthy. Best wishes. AP:)
motive2002 Posted June 4, 2008 Posted June 4, 2008 Knowing I did everything I can, I am guilt-free. Just wanted to quote that. It wasn't always a bed of roses, but I was kind, thoughtful, considerate to her feelings, and always affectionate. I was romantic and loyal... I was a helluva good boyfriend. Her loss
justaman99 Posted June 4, 2008 Posted June 4, 2008 Good for you Kiz. I can understand that it doesn't always feel this way but it's good that you have it in your mind somewhere. -Just
Exl Posted June 5, 2008 Posted June 5, 2008 Just wanted to quote that. It wasn't always a bed of roses, but I was kind, thoughtful, considerate to her feelings, and always affectionate. I was romantic and loyal... I was a helluva good boyfriend. Her loss Exactly! Damn, I was the best boyfriend I could ever be, even though things were never perfect. Oh, and I had the guts to tell her that to her face when I firstly broke up with her! It'll be her loss if things don't work out, I am sure. I am proud to quote that too. I AM guilt-free and my conscience is really really crystal clear. And that's one good point. It's one of the things that makes me feel good at this point. Keep going Kiz! PS: BTW you don't really look anything like me. Not my clone anymore
Author kizik Posted June 5, 2008 Author Posted June 5, 2008 Exl- a clear conscience may be the most valuable thing in life. PS. Do I look like you NOW? I can't stand us not being clones!
Exl Posted June 5, 2008 Posted June 5, 2008 Exl- a clear conscience may be the most valuable thing in life. PS. Do I look like you NOW? I can't stand us not being clones! definitely not.
northstar1 Posted June 5, 2008 Posted June 5, 2008 I'm no longer with the person that I love. That's the way it is. I was alone before I got together with her. That's the way I was. Was life awful before? No. Is it awful now? Technically, NO. It just is. I don't get to go over to her house anymore. I don't get to kiss or hug her anymore. I don't get to make love to her anymore. Could this have been avoided? Not on my end. Knowing I did everything I can, I am guilt-free. I can analyze the separation of our lives for the rest of time, but it won't change the fact that I have to get my ass out of bed every morning and continue on without her. The situation just is. Objectively, from the "eyes of the world" as the Grateful Dead would say, it is neither good nor bad. It just IS. Great quote man - you seem to be on the right path
Lookingforward Posted June 14, 2008 Posted June 14, 2008 yeah thats just the way it is and we cant do ****in **** about it nope, we can't - just have to deal with what is.........
clairebear Posted June 14, 2008 Posted June 14, 2008 totally great post - really thought provoking (and that takes a LOT with my tiny brain lol) i miss someone too. it's so hard, and can be so disheartening. but like kizik says, when you reaise that you have to get real, somehow you get the strength to get up in the morning and keep going.
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