katiekins Posted June 4, 2008 Posted June 4, 2008 Heres a bit of backstory: My boyfriend of 1 year broke up with me just over a month ago because he felt he wasn't in love with me anymore. On the same day, a guy I know (I'll call him Jack!) was broken up with by his girlfriend of 2 years. She started going out with someone else 3 days later. We used this as sort of a reason to talk to each other. At first we just talked about our break-ups but gradually throughout the month we've talked about it less and less, and now we talk about pretty much everything. We meet up 3-4 times a week, sometimes with mutual friends, sometimes alone. I'm starting to really like him and sometimes I get the feeling that he feels the same, though obviously the only way to find out for sure would be to talk to him about it. Now, usually I'm not one to be shy about talking to my feelings with a guy, I know it's the best way to find out if he likes you. But! I don't want to pressure him if it's still too soon after his break-up. I don't want to mention it too soon and scare him away, but I also don't want him to find someone else/us to get into such a routine of being "just friends" that he doesn't want to be anything more. How long do people usually wait after these kinds of things? Should I just talk to him about it? Or might that seem a bit too hasty?
Lauriebell82 Posted June 4, 2008 Posted June 4, 2008 So it's only been a month since you two got out of your long term relationships? Are YOU ready to date someone that soon? That just seems like kind of short time to start dating after being in a long relationship. HOWEVER, I suppose it couldn't hurt to ask him what his feelings are on the subject. Then at least he'll know how you feel. I really wouldn't be pushy or anything. I think you should feel him out first and maybe ask him how he would feel about starting to date again. Maybe you shouldn't mention your feelings for him yet, but feel him out on how he is feeling regarding the breakup. If he says he would be open to dating again, then you could possibly tell him how you feel. He may be viewing you as more of a "supportive friend" right now, and not so much a girlfriend. But I mean the worst he can tell you is just that!
Recommended Posts