chasingrainbows25 Posted June 4, 2008 Posted June 4, 2008 After spending the most of last year in a disasterous relationship which I have finally got out my system I'm finding myself increasingly attracted to someone at work. We've been friends for almost 2 years now and see each other at work a few times a week and end up chatting for ages. He has a wonderful sense of humour and he always makes me smile. He's not married but he is 9 years younger than me, which doesnt bother me in the slightest but I do wonder what his thoughts on that is. So where are we at the moment, well not very far to be honest. Our contact consists of 3 - 4 chats during the week at work and thats about it. I have noticed recently a difference in him which makes me think he may be interested but I've been out of this dating lark for so long I'm not sure. Example :- I recently moved offices to another building and he spends much more time over there now than he used to. When we sat chatting the other day outside my office he sat on the wall next to me. When we spoke the other day about nights out we'd had in the local area he said, next time you're out, give me a shout ! I just dont know what to do. I'm concious about being older but really would like to get to know this guy better and spend time with him. Eeeeeeeeeek any advice would be helpful !
Balthazar Posted June 4, 2008 Posted June 4, 2008 You need to drop some hints that you would like to get together. He may be testing the waters as he doesn't know how you feel about dating a younger guy. He may not be sure how he feels about dating an older woman for that matter. Indirectly suggest a few things you would like to do. If he is interested, he will respond promptly. CHeers,
Author chasingrainbows25 Posted June 4, 2008 Author Posted June 4, 2008 Thats my problem whitelilac...........how does a person "go for it" these days lol. I'm not even sure where to begin. I'm completely hopeless at this.
SpikeyChick Posted June 4, 2008 Posted June 4, 2008 Thats my problem whitelilac...........how does a person "go for it" these days lol. I'm not even sure where to begin. I'm completely hopeless at this. "Who dares wins". ! Do this - it WILL work. The next time that you and he are talking move closer to him ,take one of his hands in your hand -give it a little squeeze, look into his eyes and say in a slow, lowered voice. " I want you to take the lead here and ask me to have coffee with you ." You can invite me to the wedding as gratitude for my awesome advice..
Author chasingrainbows25 Posted June 11, 2008 Author Posted June 11, 2008 Oh Spikey if only it was that easy. I really like this guy and I've not seen him for a week, turning up to work this morning he was waiting on the steps for me and said "I've been waiting for you, how have you been" and then we started chatting and as I looked into his eyes I just felt really really good. Now we only had a moment to chat and I want more time with him and really dont want to wait any longer or seem forward in any way but how do I get to spend more time with this guy ????? Oh one thing I didnt mention before, we're at very different levels at work, I do work in a much more senior position than him but I'm not his boss. This makes me feel a little bit anxious about any approach and coupled with the age diff makes me wary but I just want to be in his company and laugh and talk and ooooooh just to be there. Gawd I sound like a lovestruck teenager, what do I do now ?????
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