marathon Posted June 4, 2008 Posted June 4, 2008 Have been nearly separated for the one year required for divorce and I have just learned that my former wife (40) is now pregnant. She had a series of sudden affairs and some cocaine issues and eventual moved down the street with her boyfriend. We have 2 children and I have remained in the home and am the custodial parent while she has limited access. The divorce proceedings have yet to heat up. While difficult, I have gotten over the failure of our mariage but I do feel for the children as they (girls 10 and 12) will now watch the pregnancy evolve etc... Surely this cannot be in the best interest of the children. What do you do?
Chrome Barracuda Posted June 4, 2008 Posted June 4, 2008 This suckskids should never have to deal with what your soon to be ex is putting them through how will she explain the new baby to them? Is she still on drugs? can she get help? My advice is do whatever it takes to protect your kids!!! You can make it. Also make sure you are divorced you dont want her alleging this is your child and she tries to stiff you for child support.
Missy27 Posted June 4, 2008 Posted June 4, 2008 What do you do? Ummm ~ honestly ? ~ There's nothing you CAN do. If she's decided to keep the child then your options are entirely limited in that respect. Like it or not ~ your ex has got a new life ~ new boyfriend now ~ and new baby on the way ~ it is what it is. Only thing YOU can do is raise your two children the best you can ~ teach them right from wrong ~ love and care for them ~ and then hope and pray that they mature into decent and moral human beings ~ THATS all YOU can do ~ and to be honest ~ if you DO raise your children that well then they will soon make up their own minds about their mother. Whats that old saying ~ if you give em' enough rope.......
Untouchable_Fire Posted June 4, 2008 Posted June 4, 2008 What do you do? Love your daughters, make them #1, provide them boundaries and dicipline. Find a good woman who can be a role model for them. Let your ex go.
blind_otter Posted June 4, 2008 Posted June 4, 2008 Also, please do not demonize your ex's new baby in front of your other children. The baby is not at fault here.
Curmudgeon Posted June 4, 2008 Posted June 4, 2008 Also, please do not demonize your ex's new baby in front of your other children. The baby is not at fault here. And what is more, the baby wll be their half sibling. It will be natural that they will be interested and may wish to become involved.
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