SpikeyChick Posted June 5, 2008 Posted June 5, 2008 Okay so pretty much in a nutshell I've gotten reconnected with one of my friends from last year and I've started to have feelings for her.And since this was the last day of high school ever ill be able to talk with her more on the phone since that is the only way i can.But when i do move in a week or 2 I am going to go see her,i don't want to wait to long to not be going out with her so i plan on asking her out sometime this week maybe even tonight. Now that i was able to explain kind of,if you want to catch up read the last bit of my last thread and you'll pretty much get where I'm going with this.Now my question i have is what would be a good gift on like a first date? Do not buy a woman things until she is in a committed relationship with you and she has proved herself. The custom of men paying for a woman's time and attention ended when equal pay became the norm. Stop it now ! Guys - you should ONLY pay for gifts, dinners, outings as a reward ,not an enticement. If a woman wants to spend time with you she will do so inspite of your money- only golddigers will object and who want one of those. Women still might expect a man to pay the check all the time ,BUT this is only a tradition which suits women - free dinners Yah !
Green Posted June 5, 2008 Posted June 5, 2008 yeah because your probably afraid of that feeling roler coasters give you, but if you learn to enjoy that instead of feeling sick you'll be one step closer.
Author Jamesith Posted June 5, 2008 Author Posted June 5, 2008 The only reason i bought it was because i thought she would really like the small gift i got her.But i had no intention of getting anything on the trip i just happened on those necklaces and got her one. I understand what your saying about what guys do pay for and all that.And its not like I'm trying to by her with the things i want her to want to spend time with me,even if its just a walk through some park or whatever that is down there in Texas.Not for the money then its like to me that there was only the feeling of there needs to be money involved when that isn't the true purpose of being together.
Author Jamesith Posted June 5, 2008 Author Posted June 5, 2008 Well its not the feeling of being sick that i don't like its just the fear of heights i mean there are like roller coasters i can do like that are pretty big and then there are the ones that scare the heck out of me.Those are the ones that freak me out the most.
Jilly Bean Posted June 5, 2008 Posted June 5, 2008 But then i could like after that tell her a secret and then be like close your eyes i have something for you and put the necklace around her and give her a little something something from me as well. No, no, and MORE no. Save these theatrics for when you propose to a woman, not a first date.
Author Jamesith Posted June 5, 2008 Author Posted June 5, 2008 Well okay i just just thinking of ideas,i mean i can see where that would come in handy when purposing happens.I guess why only idea right now is to tell her a secret in her ear to get close to her.Right now thats the only thing that sounds like i can really get close to her unless we cuddle.
Jilly Bean Posted June 5, 2008 Posted June 5, 2008 James, I suggest you stop fantasizing about how the date will go. As we all know, fantasy and reality seldom match, so why not just go with the flow? Go into it with no expectations, and then you will certainly come away with a great time.
Art_Critic Posted June 5, 2008 Posted June 5, 2008 Just give her the damn thing... Give it to her in the beginning.. that way you get it out of the way and you can be yourself from that point on without having to worry about timing.. When I was younger I've given women token gifts if I know them or have spent a good deal of time getting to know them first.. I wouldn't think it was a big negative thing to do as long as it isn't expensive or too much for her to bring home or too big that it gets in the way of dinner.. I say the word token because that is what it is.. Jewelry is a bit much for my taste..but to each his own..I'm more of a small hand bouquet of flowers or a small stuffed animal type of guy... With all the stuffed animals they have out there I was always able to find something that fit her and wasn't just a bear or something.. Just do it already...
Author Jamesith Posted June 6, 2008 Author Posted June 6, 2008 Well thats just what i do i always I'm one of the biggest fantasizers and i always have to like have everything run through my head.But yes i get that fantasy and real life are two completely different aspects,I mean I've done the whole don't have any expectations and sometimes it turned out well and the others not so good.And I'm not placing any expectations i was just giving ideas that could work but i get what you guys are saying. It's not that I'm worried about the timing that will take care of itself when the time comes when we do go out on the date.And yes to each his own way when it comes to tokens as you called them,yes i know I'm going to do it when i do get to see her and i wasn't trying to sound like i needed it to be this way or anything i was just simply playing the ideas through my mind.
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