Jamesith Posted June 4, 2008 Posted June 4, 2008 Okay so pretty much in a nutshell I've gotten reconnected with one of my friends from last year and I've started to have feelings for her.And since this was the last day of high school ever ill be able to talk with her more on the phone since that is the only way i can.But when i do move in a week or 2 I am going to go see her,i don't want to wait to long to not be going out with her so i plan on asking her out sometime this week maybe even tonight. Now that i was able to explain kind of,if you want to catch up read the last bit of my last thread and you'll pretty much get where I'm going with this.Now my question i have is what would be a good gift on like a first date?
Prodigal Princess Posted June 4, 2008 Posted June 4, 2008 NO gifts on a first date, dude. That is overkill. Pay for the movie or dinner or whatever it is you're inviting her to, and that will be enough.
Author Jamesith Posted June 4, 2008 Author Posted June 4, 2008 Sounds very simple and i have yet to find out what they have in Texas so its pretty much where ever she knows of a good place,so no gifts not even if its like something small?cause I've never been on like a date i didn't know was one...so can you explain by what you meant by overkill.
Green Posted June 4, 2008 Posted June 4, 2008 gifts on a first date BAD. Take the safe route and save gift getting for after the initial connection is made like a 4th date or something
Author Jamesith Posted June 4, 2008 Author Posted June 4, 2008 So would that being saying that a gift on the first would kill any chances of a second?I mean what if the girl is into gifts would you say its still a bad idea and to say it until the 4th or that it would be okay to then do that?
Prodigal Princess Posted June 4, 2008 Posted June 4, 2008 If you give her a gift on the first date it will just come across like you're trying too hard. I agree with KMT; if you want to buy her a present, I would wait until the fourth date at least. Remember that the date isn't just about you pleasing her; you are sussing her out for potential too. I know you think you're in love with her and everything, but she's just a chick and will have flaws that you haven't seen yet. Keep this in mind and for god's sake, relax.
Balthazar Posted June 4, 2008 Posted June 4, 2008 Take the advice you have been given. It is sound. No gifts on the first or second date. Maybe something cute on a third if things have gone well. Gifts worked in bygone days; women of today interpret such actions negatively and draw conclusions that are unfavorable, to say the least. CHeers,
Author Jamesith Posted June 4, 2008 Author Posted June 4, 2008 I guess i can see where everybody is going with when they say no gifts on the first date.I mean shes already expecting something from me cause i happen to tell her i got her something on the senior trip.So i don't what to do whether to give that to her before like way before i ask her or something.But could that work if she's expecting the gift i got her?
Trialbyfire Posted June 4, 2008 Posted June 4, 2008 I guess i can see where everybody is going with when they say no gifts on the first date.I mean shes already expecting something from me cause i happen to tell her i got her something on the senior trip.So i don't what to do whether to give that to her before like way before i ask her or something.But could that work if she's expecting the gift i got her? Sheesh James, why would you do this? Then get her something very small so you can meet the expectation you gave her. Beyond that, no more gifts unless it's for a special occasion. You're not buying a date, you're trying to get together with someone who you really like.
Author Jamesith Posted June 4, 2008 Author Posted June 4, 2008 Well i had talked to her the day i had gotten home Saturday and happened to say over the phone hey i got you something.She thought i was sweet for doing that,but its not that big of a gift its like very small. So would you suggest since you said " Then get her something very small so you can meet the expectation you gave her." to get her something different or just stay with the small gift i have? And play no more gifts unless a special occasion is at hand but i didn't really mean to tell her i just happened to say it.I know I'm not buying date or anything of that sort cause that just sounds like a guy doesn't care enough about the girl they like.
Author Jamesith Posted June 4, 2008 Author Posted June 4, 2008 Well since i don't like six flags roller coasters at all,I happened upon a gift shop and i was looking at there necklaces and i had noticed that they had her first initial of her first name.So yeah i got her a necklace with her first initial as a gift.
Trialbyfire Posted June 4, 2008 Posted June 4, 2008 That's not over the top since it's casual jewelry. I'm assuming it's not gold, platinum or precious gem encrusted.
Author Jamesith Posted June 4, 2008 Author Posted June 4, 2008 uhh no no and no,its just your everyday basic silver jewelery with her initial in the center,and yeah i didn't think it would be over the top but yes its not way way over top at all.If i did that then i can pretty much say she might get freaked or scared by it. Well tonights the night i ask her out,my best friend is kinda annoyed that when i talked to her i didn't ask her so she was like i expect an answer tonight from you James or else.
Jilly Bean Posted June 4, 2008 Posted June 4, 2008 NEVER gifts on a first date! Anything beyond a single flower (which is a sweet gesture) is insane.
AriaIncognito Posted June 4, 2008 Posted June 4, 2008 I've had 1 bf (now ex but we lasted 1 year) that gave me a dozen roses on our first date. While I found it out of the ordinary, I also found it to be a bit refreshing that he had the old fashioned take on things. He was also the type to open my car door (even when I was the driver) and all doors and whatnot. It was just in his nature to do things like that. I guess you never know how a woman will respond, but myself in particular, well we were together a year before other things ultimately killed it (certainly not his giving me flowers). Good luck on your date!
Trialbyfire Posted June 4, 2008 Posted June 4, 2008 NEVER gifts on a first date! Anything beyond a single flower (which is a sweet gesture) is insane. It's too late this time. He's already told her he got something for her. If he doesn't give it to her, he'll be considered full of it. Beyond that, I agree with you, including the flower.
Author Jamesith Posted June 4, 2008 Author Posted June 4, 2008 Yeah i can see what you guys are saying and i can agree with women being different cause i know alot of my friends that went on there first date loved that the guy got them something.But then again there are some that find it not so good and stuff,but i don't how she seems like the person who would love getting something but then again i haven't seen her for a year. I also can say that its kinda to late like TBF said i mean i knew i shouldn't have said anything when i talked to her i just happened to say what i said.Now i know not to do that though i have to have the gift or it makes me sounds like i only say that to get on her good side.
Jilly Bean Posted June 4, 2008 Posted June 4, 2008 It's too late this time. He's already told her he got something for her. Ah, I missed that part! Sorry! I would bring it up on the date, and then tell her that you decided to wait to give it to her until another time so that it would have more meaning. Personally, I would find that playful, and also would make me think the guy planned on seeing me again. AND, creates a little wanting...
Author Jamesith Posted June 4, 2008 Author Posted June 4, 2008 haha that sounds awesome,I've gotten so many ideas,I might do that she might be like ohh man can't i just have it in a playful way maybe.But there was an idea that i remember given to me in my last thread i think about telling her a secret and whispering in her ear then which i think they said to go for a kiss,well i can kinda put both of those ideas together,like tell her that i decided to wait so she like you said is wanting.But then i could like after that tell her a secret and then be like close your eyes i have something for you and put the necklace around her and give her a little something something from me as well. Sound like a good idea or is it like to played out and not need to be done?what do you guys think?
lovestruck818 Posted June 4, 2008 Posted June 4, 2008 Okay so pretty much in a nutshell I've gotten reconnected with one of my friends from last year and I've started to have feelings for her.And since this was the last day of high school ever ill be able to talk with her more on the phone since that is the only way i can.But when i do move in a week or 2 I am going to go see her,i don't want to wait to long to not be going out with her so i plan on asking her out sometime this week maybe even tonight. Now that i was able to explain kind of,if you want to catch up read the last bit of my last thread and you'll pretty much get where I'm going with this.Now my question i have is what would be a good gift on like a first date? I don't think you should, or need to give a gift to someone on a first date. I had someone give me flowers once...I barely knew this guy...and while it was a sweet gesture, it was a bit weird.
lovestruck818 Posted June 4, 2008 Posted June 4, 2008 NEVER gifts on a first date! Anything beyond a single flower (which is a sweet gesture) is insane. I agree. I had a guy give me this HUGE bouquet once on a first date...so awkward.
Author Jamesith Posted June 4, 2008 Author Posted June 4, 2008 Well its kind of to late for me not to give her a gift since she already expects me to give her the gift i got her and i understand its not a good idea to give gifts on a first date but again its already to late.
Author Jamesith Posted June 5, 2008 Author Posted June 5, 2008 Can you expound on what you said KMT about " You need to ride roller coasters!" mind explaining what you mean like is there some hidden meaning behind this or are you just saying that i need to ride roller coasters.
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