purplepoodle Posted June 4, 2008 Posted June 4, 2008 This is the first time I've cried since the break up and I can't stop. I miss him terribly and feel completely lost. How could he move on so fast? Why am I so forgettable? I know these are questions that no one can answer. It's just becoming to much. I can't stop myself from thinking that I'll never see his smile again. Please tell me I'll get past this part.
motive2002 Posted June 4, 2008 Posted June 4, 2008 You'll get past it. Sending good vibes your way. I don't think you're forgettable at all. I'm a 37 year-old man and I cried like a baby.. more than once. More than twice! It was really hard to know she was gone forever, but I had to accept it. I had to move on. I was left with no other choice.
replicator Posted June 4, 2008 Posted June 4, 2008 I know how hard it is. I've gone through the same thing. Know that with time, you will heal. Hang in there for now, let it all out. Crying is a good thing. It will help get rid of that knot in your chest. It is a part of the process. It hurts, but it is supposed to. That just means that you are a caring person, capable of love. You'll be ok. Hang in there!
carrotgirl Posted June 4, 2008 Posted June 4, 2008 {{{{Hugs}}} You'll get through this. You're not alone. We're all here with you. Carrot
kizik Posted June 4, 2008 Posted June 4, 2008 I haven't cried in a week, when I looked at old, loving emails we sent when I was overseas. Then today I was on the phone with T-Mobile and had to explain that I wanted to downgrade my plan b/c I wasn't talking to someone anymore... I almost f*cking lost it. Even the customer service girl knew what was going on... said, "I'm sorry." We've all been there. Crying is a great and necessary thing. It gives a voice to pain. Crying is beautiful. You've got to connect with friends and family. I don't have either!!! and I must face this all alone.
JackhammerGemma Posted June 4, 2008 Posted June 4, 2008 Everyone says it just takes time. I can't stop crying either and I'm having my doubts. Time only makes it harder. The longer I go without seeing him the sadder I get. I'm tired of crying too.
LikeCharlotte Posted June 4, 2008 Posted June 4, 2008 I cried so much that when it stopped it scared me a little. Crying is good for you. Here, have a shoulder for next time.
borelandkaren Posted June 4, 2008 Posted June 4, 2008 Before I left Adelaide, I went to a counselling session. The counsellor was a gorgeous old girl and she told me that when she'd had a particularly ****ty day, she'd go home and have a really good howl in the shower. Apparently, it releases all sorts of toxins etc, etc. She explained it better than I can but apparently the physiology surrounding it all is a very healthy process. Not to mention the fact that the shower washes all the crap off that you cry out!!!:(And it's unhealthy apparently if you try to inhibit it and cut it off, so cry your guts out!!! Get everything out that you need to get out. Puffy eyes will unpuff, a swollen nose will unswell, a snotty nose will dry up and you'll heal. First and foremost, be good to yourself and cry darlin".
Lishy Posted June 4, 2008 Posted June 4, 2008 Cry Cry and Cry some more! Cry until you create an ocean and then you will feel so much better! You will get over this babe, trust me!
justaman99 Posted June 4, 2008 Posted June 4, 2008 Just let it come as it may and don't be too upset that these feelings surface now and then. You cared deeply for him and that feeling doesn't just disappear in a day, or a week, or a month because what you felt was true. It takes time. It's normal.
Author purplepoodle Posted June 4, 2008 Author Posted June 4, 2008 It's really strange that I feel worse then ever and it's been almost 3 months!! Maybe it's because the realization set in that he is getting married, therefore, is completely over me.....over us. It was easier to take when I thought maybe he was going through it too. I sound like a total dumba**, don't I? Thank you everyone for your encouragement! If anyone needs someone to talk to, I'm here....
ioncebelieved Posted June 4, 2008 Posted June 4, 2008 I I sound like a total dumba**, don't I? Thank you everyone for your encouragement! If anyone needs someone to talk to, I'm here.... If you are, so am I!!!! Nothing like the impending doom feeling that you feel undesirable, you feel unwanted. That time heals all thing may be true, but damn the time before that time heals all really sucks!!! I am there with you today as I had a horrible day. Screwed up and talked to her. Made me feel that much worse! Purple you are not as dumb as you think..
Author purplepoodle Posted June 4, 2008 Author Posted June 4, 2008 Did you contact her or vice versa? It tokk everything I had not to call him today. I knoew exactly how you feel. The whole thing makes me feel totally undesirable. If he doesn't want me and could move on so fast, what would make me think anyone else well?
ioncebelieved Posted June 4, 2008 Posted June 4, 2008 Started yesterday with me sending an IM, I know stupid me. Should have left well enough alone. Then she wanted to speak on the phone, so she called. Like a fool, I called her and talked some today. Worse thing I could have done. Nothing like hearing someone you love will always love you, will miss your friendship and blah, blah.... Just trying to say purple, I hurt right along side you!!!!!!
Nevermind Posted June 4, 2008 Posted June 4, 2008 If you love her and she loves you...is there no way you can reconcile? I don't know the details of your break-up, but maybe it is something you both could work on?
ioncebelieved Posted June 4, 2008 Posted June 4, 2008 If you love her and she loves you...is there no way you can reconcile? I don't know the details of your break-up, but maybe it is something you both could work on? Long story short... I fell in love with her 2 years ago before I realized she lied about going through a divorce and being separated. Been married for 18 years w/ NO children. So I guess she finally got tired of living two lives and I put up with her lies for way too long. Love truly is blind. I guess I get the runner up prize, I will always love you.
Nevermind Posted June 4, 2008 Posted June 4, 2008 Oh. Okay, I understand. And I am very sorry for your pain. Life isn't fair sometimes. I can't offer you any advice, but to stay strong and calm (as you appear to be). You will make it to the other side of this, and you will find a better love with a person who is free to love you.
ioncebelieved Posted June 4, 2008 Posted June 4, 2008 You have a heart filled THANKS Nevermind!!! Sorry about high jacking your thread Purple!! We are in this fight together though!!
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