jrd195 Posted June 3, 2008 Posted June 3, 2008 I am a new member of this forum. I often read posts but I have never ever posted on a public forum. But right now I am just so confused and I think I need some words of wisdom to snap me out of my downward spiral. Basically, my bf and I were together, living in the same city for 2 and a half wonderful years. He faced alienation from his entire family due to our relationship and we have since made the decision that his family will never accept us, therefore we ended the relationship because he could not live forever without his family (and I never blame him for that because no person could ask me to separate from my family forever). The problem is that we still love each other. I am screaming inside because this is bull**** and it is so unfair, we both feel that way! We were going to get married and spend the rest of our lives together and now that is all over, but neither of us want this to be over. So I am struggling so much because deep inside I keep thinking and hoping that we will be together and this will all end...because that is what we both want! How can I get myself out of this phase of denial and accept the end of this relationship. I want to keep calling him, and I know he would talk to me and we would cry together and we would say I love you. That fact is why I can't let this go...WE ARE STILL IN LOVE! Normal breakups one person "dumps' the other. So if you were "dumped", and you see the other person moving on, it is easier for you to move forward because you know they aren't turing back. But he would and so would I, if we could we would probably get married today. Please somebody give me some advice! Tell me what I can do to truely understand this is over and I can take the first steps in moving on.
Untouchable_Fire Posted June 3, 2008 Posted June 3, 2008 I've been in the same situation. Except it was my family. All I can say is that sometimes life isn't fair. I'm very sorry for your loss.
Author jrd195 Posted June 3, 2008 Author Posted June 3, 2008 Yeah but what do you do, how do you get over it! I'm in agony I want to call him and just cry to him and tell him all the problems I'm having...how can I get past feeling like I can depend on him still?
Untouchable_Fire Posted June 3, 2008 Posted June 3, 2008 Yeah but what do you do, how do you get over it! I'm in agony I want to call him and just cry to him and tell him all the problems I'm having...how can I get past feeling like I can depend on him still? Focus on you. Find something that gets your attention and do it. Physical exertion works wonders. I can tell you from experience that if you contact him... it's going to make things harder on him as well as you. I thought we could stay good friends, but that didn't work well.
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