D-Lish Posted June 4, 2008 Posted June 4, 2008 Do you have neighbor friends like Kramer who just waltz into your place and grab stuff out of your refrigerator? I totally do!! It really is like that here! I am Elaine... It's an old factory they converted into lofts- so it's a relaxed, social atmosphere. People are always walking in and out of each other's places...I kid you not!
jon01 Posted June 4, 2008 Posted June 4, 2008 I totally do!! It really is like that here! I am Elaine... It's an old factory they converted into lofts- so it's a relaxed, social atmosphere. People are always walking in and out of each other's places...I kid you not! Wow! Personally I couldn't handle that.. I like my friends but I like my privacy too, and certainly wouldn't tolerate Kramers or Georges coming in and helping themselves to my stuff! But I do like the idea of that roof top patio. So anyone can just bring their booze up there and drink away?
D-Lish Posted June 4, 2008 Posted June 4, 2008 Wow! Personally I couldn't handle that.. I like my friends but I like my privacy too, and certainly wouldn't tolerate Kramers or Georges coming in and helping themselves to my stuff! But I do like the idea of that roof top patio. So anyone can just bring their booze up there and drink away? Yep- we are owners- not renters... so we are free to do what we want. I like it- but I am single- so it works for me. L- it sounds like you guys left things open! If she wasn't interested I doubt she would have called you in the first place. I think another poster hit the nail on the head when they said that "a note on the door is only creepy when you aren't attracted to someone"... I would have just ignored the note if I wasn't interested. So I see that returned phone call as being in your favour here. Hopefully you'll run into her in the hallway... does she use the gym in your building too?
Author Linux Posted June 4, 2008 Author Posted June 4, 2008 Hopefully you'll run into her in the hallway... does she use the gym in your building too? I have no clue, I have never seen her in the gym or anywhere else in the building until Monday. She is in shape though so she must workout somewhere.
SpikeyChick Posted June 4, 2008 Posted June 4, 2008 Can we sum up one of your "beliefs" thus - "The way to get a date with a woman is to show no interest in her and pretend that you do not want to date her " ??? Hmmm ? How does that work Linux?
D-Lish Posted June 4, 2008 Posted June 4, 2008 I have no clue, I have never seen her in the gym or anywhere else in the building until Monday. She is in shape though so she must workout somewhere. You have her number though right? If she called you- I am assuming it's on your call display? Why not just give her a shout and ask her for coffee? I don't see you have anything to lose... and as I said before, if I were her I would be confused as to whether or not you liked me, or was simply being a friendly neighbour (even if neighbours aren't friendly in your neck of the woods...lol)
Author Linux Posted June 5, 2008 Author Posted June 5, 2008 Can we sum up one of your "beliefs" thus - "The way to get a date with a woman is to show no interest in her and pretend that you do not want to date her " ??? Hmmm ? How does that work Linux? Just like I said, make random excuses to hang out together until it she just naturally realizes one day "oh wow, it looks like im dating him now, ok I can live with that."
Author Linux Posted June 5, 2008 Author Posted June 5, 2008 You have her number though right? If she called you- I am assuming it's on your call display? Why not just give her a shout and ask her for coffee? I don't see you have anything to lose... and as I said before, if I were her I would be confused as to whether or not you liked me, or was simply being a friendly neighbour (even if neighbours aren't friendly in your neck of the woods...lol) Yes I have her number, however I don't feel comfortable calling her unless I have a legitimate reason (as I stated before I got the vibe after talking to her briefly yesterday that she wasn't really interested). I'll just wait and see if she calls me back, if not it appears I lost.
D-Lish Posted June 5, 2008 Posted June 5, 2008 Yes I have her number, however I don't feel comfortable calling her unless I have a legitimate reason (as I stated before I got the vibe after talking to her briefly yesterday that she wasn't really interested). I'll just wait and see if she calls me back, if not it appears I lost. Come on silly! You do have a legitimate reason- to ask her for coffee! You only lose out if you don't call. You have to ask to make it happen- you can't wait for her! What if she is interested and waiting for you to call? You have to take a risk... you really do. Let's talk about you calling her....lol
JustInKase Posted June 7, 2008 Posted June 7, 2008 Ok, like D- said, let's talk about you calling her. Practice what you are going to say to her. The coffee thing works. The last guy that asked me out for coffee ended up getting 1 year of sex out of it !!! He was unsure whether to ask me for that 1st cup of coffee too. Thank god he did. The sex was awesome. CALL HER.
SpikeyChick Posted June 7, 2008 Posted June 7, 2008 Just like I said, make random excuses to hang out together until it she just naturally realizes one day "oh wow, it looks like im dating him now, ok I can live with that." So your manly way is to pretend your way into her heart. Wow, I bet that gets her hot. You need to go rent some Charlie Sheen movies urgently.
Cherry Blossom 35 Posted June 8, 2008 Posted June 8, 2008 Wow, D-Lish, I wish I lived in your building, it sounds so friendly and fun. Linux, I live in DC and the way you describe your neighbors sounds a lot like mine. I would never randomly go up to someone's door, knock, and say hi. Sad, but true. Things are just different in some cities. People don't even acknowledge each other in the elevator here I will admit it, if my next door neighbor asked me for coffee and I wasn't interested, I would be freaked out because I LIVE NEXT DOOR to this guy. Linux is in a difficult position. She did, however, sound interested in you when you guys first met, so I think there is definitely the possibility she is interested. I think you could maybe call her again and say, hey, I don't know a lot of people in the building, would you like to grab a cup of coffee sometime? Keep it on the friend level at first. I want you to take a chance, but you do have to tread carefully, as you know.
Author Linux Posted June 8, 2008 Author Posted June 8, 2008 Wow, D-Lish, I wish I lived in your building, it sounds so friendly and fun. Linux, I live in DC and the way you describe your neighbors sounds a lot like mine. I would never randomly go up to someone's door, knock, and say hi. Sad, but true. Things are just different in some cities. People don't even acknowledge each other in the elevator here I will admit it, if my next door neighbor asked me for coffee and I wasn't interested, I would be freaked out because I LIVE NEXT DOOR to this guy. Linux is in a difficult position. She did, however, sound interested in you when you guys first met, so I think there is definitely the possibility she is interested. I think you could maybe call her again and say, hey, I don't know a lot of people in the building, would you like to grab a cup of coffee sometime? Keep it on the friend level at first. I want you to take a chance, but you do have to tread carefully, as you know. Finally someone who lives in a real city and understands what I have been trying to tell everyone this whole time.
Author Linux Posted June 8, 2008 Author Posted June 8, 2008 BTW, Update: I never heard from here again.
Cherry Blossom 35 Posted June 8, 2008 Posted June 8, 2008 Finally someone who lives in a real city and understands what I have been trying to tell everyone this whole time. Yep, I totally get it.
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