AndyW Posted June 3, 2008 Posted June 3, 2008 A girl from my gym asked me out last night. I am going to go. I think we are just going to grab some dinner. I think this will be good for me. There is no sense in sitting around being miserable over someone that left you and has surely moved on. I told her I am just coming out of a relationship and she said she understands and that we should just get a bight to eat and hang out. What the hell!
Art_Critic Posted June 3, 2008 Posted June 3, 2008 Enjoy your dinner. Relax and just keep it casual. yeah.. what she said... and don't not once even mention your ex or the past relationship.. talk about anything but that... She doesn't want to hear about it... even if she asks because you mentioned it when she asked you out still don't talk about it.... don't fall into that trap... Ask her tons of questions about her...
Author AndyW Posted June 3, 2008 Author Posted June 3, 2008 I know. I have no intentions of talking about that. I only brought it up to let her know where I am at. A casual dinner date is fine with me. I don't want to talk about it with anyone anymore. I am tired of thinking about it so I can only imagine how this board, my friends, and family feel.
Author AndyW Posted June 3, 2008 Author Posted June 3, 2008 Why do I feel guilty about going on a date? That is totally idiotic right?
tinktronik Posted June 3, 2008 Posted June 3, 2008 Why do I feel guilty about going on a date? That is totally idiotic right? Yes, that is idiotic. Relax. It's fairly normal, first date and all. It's going to be fine . Just consider it retraining and don't take it all that seriously.
Author AndyW Posted June 3, 2008 Author Posted June 3, 2008 Thank you. I just got asked out by a girl that I have know for a few years on myspace. Funny. At least it will keep me busy and my mind on new things.
Cherry Blossom 35 Posted June 3, 2008 Posted June 3, 2008 Have fun, Andy, and don't overanalyze either the situation or your feelings about it. Eat the food, drink the beer, laugh at her stupid jokes, whatever. BE IN THE MOMENT and let everything else fall by the wayside for just one night.
Author AndyW Posted June 3, 2008 Author Posted June 3, 2008 I will try to have fun. Going to the gym first, so I should be nice and relaxed. Thanks Cherry!
Author AndyW Posted June 4, 2008 Author Posted June 4, 2008 It went well by the way. We both have to get up early so we just had about a two hour dinner and some wine. She was very nice! She wants to watch the Laker game Thurs. I said sure. She told me she has been watching me at the gym for about a year and she know I had a girl because we were always together. It was cool to be out. Very chill.
Trimmer Posted June 4, 2008 Posted June 4, 2008 Man, I hope you are feeling a huge confidence boost from the fact that she's seen you, noticed you, asked you out, and after spending a nice dinner with you, wants to see you again. C'mon now, that's got to feel pretty good...
Author AndyW Posted June 4, 2008 Author Posted June 4, 2008 Yes, it was nice and did make me feel better. She told me that she was trying to beat some other women at the gym to the punch, so that made me feel good. One day at a time.
Author AndyW Posted June 4, 2008 Author Posted June 4, 2008 She texted me this morning "You are sincerely the nicest and cutiest guy I have ever meant. You are so easy to to talk to and really sweet. Have a great day. xoxo".
dprice218 Posted June 4, 2008 Posted June 4, 2008 lol wow man, I wish women were always so forward. Then again it sounds like the moment was a long time in coming. So its not really THAT spontaneous.
Cherry Blossom 35 Posted June 4, 2008 Posted June 4, 2008 So glad you had fun. Her message was really cute and thoughtful.
Art_Critic Posted June 4, 2008 Posted June 4, 2008 She texted me this morning "You are sincerely the nicest and cutiest guy I have ever meant. You are so easy to to talk to and really sweet. Have a great day. xoxo". Someone has sex in their future
Author AndyW Posted June 4, 2008 Author Posted June 4, 2008 It was probably the wine that made me so nice or maybe the wine made me appear to be nice. I thought it was a nice text.
Krytie TV Posted June 4, 2008 Posted June 4, 2008 Congrats Andy. I recently started dating a girl that is much like that. She's upfront with what she wants and expects and isn't afraid to initiate for what she wants. It's natural to maybe get a little scared by it because we're so used to having to work for what we get... then we get someone that reciprocates and it scares us. Don't let it... savor it. It doesn't come along often. Good luck man, keep it cool until you're ready.
Author AndyW Posted June 4, 2008 Author Posted June 4, 2008 Thanks Krytie. It is a little weird to acutally have someone being nice and saying nice things to me. It has happened a lot lately which must mean I am starting to carry myself differently or more like I use to. I am so use to using the phrase "why are you acting like this to me" or "why are you being mean to me" which in itself is pathetic for me to have even had to say. This is a nice change. I am pretty sure I can get use to it. Glad to hear you are dating someone along the same lines. I will let you guys know how Thursday goes. Thanks again.
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