sweetlee102 Posted June 3, 2008 Posted June 3, 2008 Hi everybody! Here is my deal. Yes I worry alot. I admit it, i get paranoid, jealous, etc. and yes I am getting help, finally. This has been something I have dealt with in all of my relationships, I do have self-esteem problems. So anyway. Now that the beautiful weather is here I worry about what my boyfriend will do with his free time. I work a m-fr 9-5 job and he works 4 days on, 12 hours, and 4 days off, it varies every week, so for the next few weeks is days off are going to fall during the week days and not weekends so i cant spend as much time with him. I worry about whether or not he will find a girls company during these days. I dont know he has met people online, that is how we met and i worry he will meet new people online of anywhere for that matter. I just dont know and i am worrying about it. What if he is going to spend his free time with a new girl by the pool or something? So far our relationships is going great , its only been 5 months, but a very comfortable 5. I am almost 30 and he is 37 but i just cant help but wonder...... i know this sounds crazy dont think i dont know it, i just dont know how to stop worrying and thinking . I know there is nothing i can do i cant control him , only me but any advice???
norajane Posted June 3, 2008 Posted June 3, 2008 If he's trustworthy, it doesn't matter what kind of free time he has. He will be loyal to you and it won't matter whom he meets when. If he's not trustworthy, he could meet someone anywhere at any time and cheat on you when you've run to the store to pick up some milk. Bottom line, you have nothing more or less to worry about than before this schedule issue.
jrd195 Posted June 3, 2008 Posted June 3, 2008 I agree 100% with the last post, but I jsut had one other thing to say. I used to get bad anxiety and I was always worrying. I had some blood work done and found out I was deficient in vitamin B12. Apparently deficiencies in this and iron can cause wild mood swings and symptoms of paranoia. Anyway once I started taking B12 pills daily I felt way better and I have not felt worried since. Vitamin B12 comes from red meat mainly, for this reason many women suffer from deficiencies in it as they tend not to eat as much or as high of quantities. Anyway I think it is worth it for you to try.
Balthazar Posted June 3, 2008 Posted June 3, 2008 I agree with the other posters. If the feelings are there, you should not worry. Still, be on the lookout for warning signs. CHeers,
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