nicArora Posted June 3, 2008 Posted June 3, 2008 Hi everyone, need some advice from all of you I met a very attractive girl in the bus. we had a good smll chat and she gave me her email. I emailed her saying hi and got a response back. After a few days I emailed her again asking her out for coffee but didnt receive a reply again. I sent her a mail again wishing her on memorial day and she replied back wishing me as well. I waited for about 10 days and sent her the mail again saying something like I wasnt sure u got this mail, so sending again and really keen to meet you for coffee. Today I got a reply from her. She said she's been super busy with work and is going to vacation next week so cant connect this week and that she'll send send me a message on returning. I dont know if she is actually interested in me or playing a game. What should I do? Please advice. Thanks,
Pedigree Posted June 3, 2008 Posted June 3, 2008 After a few days I emailed her again asking her out for coffee but didnt receive a reply again. Not good. Today I got a reply from her. She said she's been super busy with work and is going to vacation next week so cant connect this week and that she'll send send me a message on returning. Not good at all. Don't think she's interested, mate.
gfto Posted June 3, 2008 Posted June 3, 2008 She's not playing a game. She's simply telling you in plain English that she is not interested in you.
george1122 Posted June 3, 2008 Posted June 3, 2008 If you ask me, It is hard to say whether she is playing a game. Take it as she is telling the truth. Don't contact her again, if she is interested, she will contact you after her vacation. If you don't hear from her, let it go.
Crestfallen_KH Posted June 3, 2008 Posted June 3, 2008 Look at the behavior, not the words. 1. She's not initiating contact. 2. She ignored your first request for a date. 3. She's been "super busy" and will get in touch with you at a much later date. She's not interested. If someone is interested, they'll do none of these things.
SpikeyChick Posted June 3, 2008 Posted June 3, 2008 I dont know if she is actually interested in me or playing a game. What should I do? Please advice. Thanks, Lose her email - this one is a bust.
sid3 Posted June 3, 2008 Posted June 3, 2008 She's not only not interested, she is trying to nicely tell you not to contact her anymore.NEXT!
Author nicArora Posted June 4, 2008 Author Posted June 4, 2008 any chance she could be interested but playing hard to get? to see if Im genuienly interested or just looking to ****? I know I sound really keen on this one but the reason for that is that she comes very close to the type of girl Im looking for - the right age, attractive, intelligent, well educated, good professional career, good to talk to, voracious reader, etc.
I am who I am Posted June 4, 2008 Posted June 4, 2008 any chance she could be interested but playing hard to get? to see if Im genuienly interested or just looking to ****? I know I sound really keen on this one but the reason for that is that she comes very close to the type of girl Im looking for - the right age, attractive, intelligent, well educated, good professional career, good to talk to, voracious reader, etc. Are you fracking serious? Honestly!!!! ARE YOU FRACKING SERIOUS? ROFL ROFL... go to her man! She wants you so badly... can't you see that?!? RUN to her... RUN. Call her 20 times in a row so she knows you are serious about wanting kids with her and raising a family together in a small suburban home, with green shutters, and a red front door... This forum is full of some of the most self-conscious, low self-esteem, no confidence, depressed, half-stupid people on this planet...
FormerNiceGuy Posted June 4, 2008 Posted June 4, 2008 What game is this? You lost. Go for women with strong interest.
Sand&Water Posted June 4, 2008 Posted June 4, 2008 RE: She could be either: (1) Very honest about the fact that she's busy with work, and vacation. Or (2) Not interested. Who knows, nicArora. Don't even think about e-mailing or calling her. Don't chase her. Don't annoy her. Don't run after her. Don't approach her. Leave her alone. IF you do any of those things, you will be placed into the "Psycho-Creep-and-Stalker" category. Move on. IF she does contact you after her vacation, then progress slowly. IF not, then move on. You can't afford to be hung-up on this girl, there are a million other ones waiting. Sand&Water
Author nicArora Posted June 4, 2008 Author Posted June 4, 2008 RE: She could be either: (1) Very honest about the fact that she's busy with work, and vacation. Or (2) Not interested. Who knows, nicArora. Don't even think about e-mailing or calling her. Don't chase her. Don't annoy her. Don't run after her. Don't approach her. Leave her alone. IF you do any of those things, you will be placed into the "Psycho-Creep-and-Stalker" category. Move on. IF she does contact you after her vacation, then progress slowly. IF not, then move on. You can't afford to be hung-up on this girl, there are a million other ones waiting. Sand&Water think you are very right - thanks for the advice, I think it is very relevant. I think it was the attraction to the girl as well as what they show in movies and books that chasing helps and ultimately one gets who one wants after chasing
fishtaco Posted June 4, 2008 Posted June 4, 2008 Seems like a lot of guys get the wrong idea about pursuing or chasing women. It's not fighting against a resisting opponent like two cage fighters. It's like play fighting with pillows. The girl has to give you green light first. Then you chase. If she's telling you no but you push for it anyway, that's not chasing, that's stalking. Even playing hard to get she'd be stringing your along, throwing you baits for you to get closer then back off. That's not the case here. Although to cover all bases sometimes stalking does work. But it's not something I'd try personally. It should be reserved for people that REALLY know what they're doing.
SpikeyChick Posted June 4, 2008 Posted June 4, 2008 It's not fighting against a resisting opponent like two cage fighters. It's like play fighting with pillows. The girl has to give you green light first. Then you chase. If she's telling you no but you push for it anyway, that's not chasing, that's stalking. Even playing hard to get she'd be stringing your along, throwing you baits for you to get closer then back off. That's not the case here. . BOYS - this is good advice. NEVER chase a woman who is not giving you strong signs of interest - Leave her for some other chump. Secondly DO NOT chase a woman whom you suspect is playing the old "hard to get " game. THis game is juvenile and self defeating BUT very popular. It is played by women who have nothing of any real value to offer a man BUT play the game in an attempt to inflate their "perceived " value by promoting their "scarcity" .. Stupid! Like Fishtaco says, only chase a women who signals that she wants to play.
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