Found out my boyfriend had been masturbating over porn on the net

[RocknRollChild85]

This whole topic cracks me up. Who cares if he watches porn. It's porn. Porn is made for masturbation.

Is he cheating on you?

are you guys still having sex?

Have you ever considered watching it with him and maybe copying some of the stuff they do on there?

Have you ever thought that maybe he didn't want to tell you was because he knew you'd react this way?

Do you masturbate or have you ever told him you've masturbated and what caused you too?

 

It's porn. Let him be. If he wants to watch it, let him. I don't tell my boyfriends every little thing I do or watch or when I masturbate. It's no big deal and who knows, you could even have a better sex life from watching porn. The things those people come up with. Either that or you'll be pissing your pants from laughing so hard watching it. It's not disgusting. It doesnt make him an addict. Theres no reason to worry over it.

[JessicaP]

Well I was in a similar situation. My (now ex) boyfriend was always buying the latest porno mags like Swank or High Society - but at the same time he kept threatening me that if I ever cheated on him he'd dump me. Go figure... I had pics of beefy firemen on hanging on my bulletin board in my office and it pissed him off!

 

So it was kinda funny his views towards looking at porn as it's just something guys do yet he didn't want me having pictures of hunky firemen on my wall. Huh????

 

And I couldn't keep my male friends - they had to go because that was cheating.

 

If it's ok for men to fantasize about hot women - it's ok for us women to fantasize about hot men. And we do - ALOT. We just know how to be tactful and respectful and not get caught.

 

I actually masturbate to gay men's magazines. Some of the guys in those mags are incredibly hot with enormous..... I find two men together hot - and like to picture climbing in between them. All you women who are jealous over your men looking at porn - why don't you start looking at naked men and do your own thing! It's alot of fun!

[ButtonPusher]

Lol anyone notice that this thread started in 2003? The words porn and masturbation will always attract the boys

There seems to be a lot of threads on LS dealing with women finding their boyfriends jacking off to porn, and the common response from men seems to be "so what? its just porn, every guy does it". I see very few women saying that it means nothing, except for that playboy chick, that possibly never finished high school, hehe. But here's my 2 cents worth on this issue. Would all you boys out there feel fine if you walked in on your gf wacking off to porn where the men have giant c**ks and buffed bodies? Can you honestly say that it wouldnt make you feel a little hurt to know that your woman gets turned on by what you dont have?

[Outcast]

I see very few women saying that it means nothing,

 

You are wrong in this. Quite a few women have said that. They are generally the secure, mature women who understand that a man looking at porn and whacking off when you're not around or aren't in the mood is nothing to lose your sanity over, to try to forbid, or to otherwise flip out over.

[Horse]

Do him a favor and break up with him. Otherwise he is going to go nuts trying to hide the fact that he is a normal guy.

 

Like most men he obviously likes to masturbate... and you obviously can't deal with it.

 

Maybe then you can search for that one guy in a million who truly does not ever masturbate.. and maybe that guy will be somewhat normal otherwise.

 

I'm guessing he was hiding it because he had a good idea about how you would react.

 

 

On the other hand--

Oh my gosh, I just found out my wife reads Cosmo! She always agreed it was a dumb magazine. Now I'm going to have to divorce her, because I don't like the idea of her reading Cosmo. I don't know if I can trust her if she keeps her magazine preference a secret. What's next? I'll bet she has been watching Oprah! Aaaaaaargh!!!

 

Seems kind of silly huh?

[thegirlnextdoor]

I don't think that there is anything wrong with being turned on by porn, whether it be online, in a magazine or on a DVD. So you really can't be upset with him about looking at porn, but the lying about is a pretty serious problem. You need to talk about this but don't make it about the porn. Ask him why he felt the need to hide that part of himself from you and discuss it. Regardless of how you feel about porn he seems to like it, and that doesn't mean he loves you any less or finds you any less attractive. The real issue is the lying. Good luck, and I'm sorry that you feel betrayed.

[Outcast]

Men will lie about looking at porn precisely because women like Starnette and others FREAK OUT over it, think the men don't love them, demand they never do it again, etc etc etc. It's not a serious lie. It's a lie like 'no I didn't have three desserts for lunch today'. Not total honesty but not a punishable offense.

[ChuckDee33]

Oh gosh, I love this one.

 

My ex gf reamed me a new one for masturbating to Internet porn. I desperately tried to convince her that it had nothing to do with my feelings towards her...that it's simply something 99% of all guys do in some way. She tried to make me feel wrong for doing it and how she just knew her last boyfriend didn't do that sort of thing. Oh it made me mad because that is total BS!

 

Let's be real. Straight guys like looking at naked women. If a guy is serious about the relationship and acts faithfully then getting off to some pictures or movies on a computer is harmless. For me, it has nothing to do with my gf not being able to pleasure me or that I don't find her sexy enough. It's simply a way to indulge in my sexual fantasies without actually cheating on someone I love. Perhaps significant other's sometimes can't fullfil all those fantasies for their men so either the guy becomes frustrated and it takes a toll on the relationship or let the guy beat his meat in peace and take heart that it's something he'd being doing anyway outside a relationship and that no other woman is actually touching him.

 

When a guy doesn't have access to her man's penis I'm sure many of them break out that pocket rocket or the purple King Dong and get themselves off while playing out their own fantasies in their MINDS. Women who say that they don't masturbate are also lying through their teeth. Everybody does it, it's natural and safe so let's all just recognize these facts and everything will be cool.

[ButtonPusher]

Hmm none of you males has answered my question. How would YOU feel if you found out your gf got turned on by and liked to wank while watching buffed guys with monster c**ks? Can you honestly say it wouldnt make you feel just a little insecure?

[Horse]

Hmm none of you males has answered my question. How would YOU feel if you found out your gf got turned on by and liked to wank while watching buffed guys with monster c**ks? Can you honestly say it wouldnt make you feel just a little insecure?

 

 

Honestly. If I walked in and she was masturbating to buff dudes with monster cocks. It would turn me on. I would love to watch.

 

Afterwards I might be a little confused because that's not her thing, but I wouldn't be self conscious about it.

[Topper]

There is an old joke that goes like this; if guys could lick themselves they would never get married. i said it was an old joke not a good joke. Still dumping him over watching porn and master bating is way over Kill. I just can't believe that you have never master bated or had some erotic thoughts about some guy you saw in a Magazine, TV show or whatever. Everyone masturbates! It only becomes a problem if he is paying more attention to his fantasy world then the real world.

Talk to him about all aspects of sexuality. What do you like? what does he like? is there anything he has a fantasy about ? What about you? Who Knows the two of you just might be each others wildest Dream lover. remember the sexiest part of the human body is the Brain.

[Topper]

Dukkra, In a healthy realationship it would be no big deal. It is just fantasy. An old girlfriend of mine had a thing for Big black Football Players. I'm short white and not a football fan. I Know she may have played out a fantasy or two at 1/2 while watching a Sunday game.

[RocknRollChild85]

Ive been asked to watch Porn with the guy I'm sleeping with. If it weren't for the fact that it cracks me up, I probably would watch it. Hell, we'll probably end up watching it together anyways. Porn is one of the funniest things in the world, but then again, I was 11 when I saw my first one.

[ButtonPusher]

Still dumping him over watching porn and master bating is way over Kill

 

I have never master bated. But i have masturbated though:)

Not sure what you get up to topper, maybe something to do with fishing bait? lmao

[Topper]

Sorry Dukka, Late night posting and poor editing skills But that does remind me of another joke. What do you call a fishermen who know exactly what The Big game fish will go after? A Master - bait-er. Now you know why I didn't give up my day job to bea stand up comic.

[Weird]

I wouldnt be upset that he looked at porn and jerked off but be upset that he tried to lie about it. What makes me raise an eyebrow is why would he feel the need to lie about it to you? When I was with my ex I looked at porn on occasion and would jerk off. She knew and didnt care and had she not kown and asked me I'd have told her yeah cuz I know she wouldnt have cared.

 

So why do you care if he looks or not? Dont take it personally...guys just jerk off frequently and having visual stimulation is just...*shrug* I dunno. Guys just use it.

[Toni_no12002]

If men are so visual why do they need to jerk of to some other women why not the woman your with.If you have fantisies why do you have to think about them while looking at someone else?I mean why not share them with your girlfriends.I dont know why i just think its wrong to go looking for someone else to jerk off to.As for the cheating thing.Thats rubbish.So your telling me if guys didnt jerk off to other women in pictures and stuff theyd cheat?My boyfriend doesnt look at porn anymore and he hasnt yet

 

So didnt mean to have a go just saying my view

[sami]

well!!! many people today have a probem sticking to only one partner.

[Toni_no12002]

Very true lol they always say men are enginered to spread there seed!i hate that lol thats just an excuse!!

[sami]

why it's not an explanation???!!!

[Toni_no12002]

They use it as one.Like all men do it.If all men jumped of a cliff would they do it? lol

 

i think men think about sex too much.why dont men think about cuddling other women lol.You may say because your supposed to be that intimate only with your girlfriend etc(i mean cuddling with girlfriends etc) but isnt sex supposed to be about loving the other person?And being intimate with them.

[sami]

that's not a general rule though.

[Toni_no12002]

Isnt sex supposed to be about making babies anyway?Thats the whole point of it to carry the human race on.Everything now is about sex.If men are out there to try and get as many women as possible wouldnt it be better if men went for men and women went for women as then no one would get hurt as they want the same things lol.

 

If there really is a god he sure made everything so bloody complicated lol

[RecordProducer]

I don't think there's anything wrong with men watching porn occasionally. The fact that he lied that it turns him on can mean that it doesn't really mean much to him or he was ashamed to admit it does turn him on. If he was ashamed, that's not good - it means he doesn't feel that you're close and liberal enoguh for him to share his fantasies and turn-ons with you. Perhaps you sounded too judgemental so he decided to please you and say it didn't turn him off.

 

My ex-BF told me he wouldn't want me to be bi-curious and it would bother him. So I said I wasn't interested. I didn't want to lose him. I never mentioned any of my secret desires to my ex-husband, because I thought he wouldn't understand. My current BF is very liberal about my desires and I can tell him anything. So I am 100% open about it with him.

 

I consider myself honest and open, but if people judge me too much because of things I consider innocent, I will not share my honest thoughts with them. Before I believed that I was a dirty pervert because everyone was being so judgemental about other people's sexuality. So I kept my skeletons in the closet. IMHO, it's all human and the more you judge him the more he will hide it from you. Otherwise he risks to lose you or ruin the relationship because of his habit to watch porn. He won't stop no matter what you do. It's not good to suppress anyone's desires and imagination. You can only demand that he doesn't do it when you're around.

[Toni_no12002]

I know i cant stop him doing it and i wouldnt ever tell him to stop but it still hurts thinking that when im not there hes getting off looking at other women!